I find dating really quite terrifying. I am outgoing, talkative and comfortable around my male counterparts, but when it comes to finding a potential suitor, I legitimately feel nauseated. My stomach turns inside out, I start sweating profusely and my mind tells me to curl up into a ball and watch Food network. I have come up with a genius formula which really just consists of 11 random acts that I do to settle my pre-date jitters. These have helped me tremendously, so I seriously suggest you test them out!
- Call up your cheer-leading squad or at least one member of your crew to give you a pep talk. “You’re fabulous and if he’s a weirdo, it will make for a great story!
- Write a list of all your killer traits then read them aloud to yourself in front of the mirror. It sounds kind of silly but relax, no one is watching. Give yourself a hug while you’re at it.
- Drink a glass of wine while you get ready, but limit yourself or you will look like a clown.
- Sing at the top of your lungs to your favorite tune. This will take your mind off of the “What If’s?”
- Take a lesson from Julia Styles and wear your most slammin outfit; this is bound to make you feel more confident.
- Go for a run and listen to “Eye of The Tiger.” Just reenact the whole sequence from Rocky, as it will get the “feel good” endorphins going.
- Drink a healthy dose of caffeine if you need a pick me up after that 8 hour work day. Be cautious here and know how caffeine affects your body or this will backfire…
- Change your mindset. Treat the date as though you are simply going to meet a friend, not a potential match.
- Always have a backup plan so you can leave in case the date is disastrous. This is a great way to prevent the hour date from turning into a 6 hour paint drying session.
- If you are really worried about running out of things to talk about, have some table topics in mind before to prevent the painful moment of silence. Remember, this is only an hour of your life.
- You aren’t handcuffed to your chair. If it is really that bad, just say you have IBS and he is sure to run out the door faster than you are.
In the words of Aibileen Clark from The Help:
“You is Smart, You is Kind and You is Important.”
Repeat this to yourself before your next date and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.