PlentyOfFish Date Night: The Movie ‘Her’


Relationships are complex, infuriating (at times), exciting and generally speaking transformative experiences. We never exit a relationship the same way we found it, unless – of course – we are speaking about my ongoing and sustained love affair with garlic hummus. Which refuses to end. I digress.

The ‘Date Night’ has become synonymous with the modern relationship especially for our PlentyOfFish members. Life, more often than not becomes busy. We always recommend to our users that taking time to unplug helps you both focus on fostering your budding relationship. This is a great way to have a special routine without any of the monotony. Collaborating with ‘your person’ on what would be a fun shared experience does nothing but strengthen the bond you are creating together. This week was my ‘Date Night’ choice and I jumped at the chance to see the movie Her.

Overall Date Night Rating: A-

If you have ever felt the desire to reach out and connect with someone in hopes of a fulfilling romantic relationship, Spike Jonze’s ‘Her’ will be nothing short of a delight.  Jonze combines the highly relatable modern love story with the beautifully imagined not too distant future where integrated advanced technology seamlessly transitions into our lives. His protagonist Theodore (Joaquin Phoenix) – a sensitive writer – is struggling with his impending divorce. A particularly bizare-yet-strangely-relatable phone sex experience endears us to Jonze’s cerebral anti-hero early on. Soon thereafter in an odd-but-not-impossible turn of events he is connected with a new, highly evolved Siri-esque operating system: Samantha (Scarlet Johansson).

Although the ‘relationship’ that Samantha and Theodore have is not between two physical forms  – we see a connection form that is all too common in the early stages of online dating: an intellectually emotional one. It’s easy to become engrossed in the stunning cinematography, sets, costuming and score that accompanies this new age love story. The characters are complex, compelling and at most times extremely realistic representations of most anyone that is living (or existing) through a break up and looking for that special someone to come back into their life.

An extremely interesting point about the possible inspiration for ‘Her’ came from Vulture and David Edelstein:

“Is Jonze reworking his own personal history? In his ex-wife Sofia Coppola’s Lost in Translation (where Coppola’s alter-ego is played by Johansson—a bizarre coincidence?), the husband (a music video director) is oblivious to his wife’s alienation. Her is an admission of that obliviousness and a lament for it. (Proof that Jonze has also evolved: Theodore’s fear that he’s sinking into himself, that everything he experiences will be a lesser version of what he has already experienced. No one who expresses an idea like that has stopped growing.)”

Regardless if this is a real life soul-cleansing or rather a heartbreakingly honest conversation about love – PlentyOfFish members will connect deeply over this earnest tale. The commonalities of dating, connecting and as Theodore says ‘sharing a life with someone’ – are sentiments that are shared widely across our site through our members . It is definitely worth the watch and will have you and your date talking about more than just relationships with technology for days after.

Have another great Date Night recommendation? Tweet to us @PlentyOfFish with the hashtag #POFDateNight

You Matter


Two years ago I was completely consumed in heartbreak. I was working full-time, finishing my degree and running (on most days) on 4 double espressos and 3 hours of sleep. I had seemingly hit an all time emotional low. I was working through (completely ungracefully, I might add) the 1001 conflicting emotions of my breakup and trying to meet each morning with the conviction to put on – at the very least – my most dress-y sweatpants just to make it to class every day.

Feeling completely beside myself I decided, against my better judgement, to sit in on a speaker series my school was offering. I have no idea why I went, or what compelled me to go, but I can sit here today (in a pair of my MOST dress-y sweatpants) and tell you it was a real game-changer. I begrudgingly sat in the back of a darkly lit auditorium. Using all of my will power to not check my phone for the potential zero messages waiting for me, gave a few of my most affected-yet-disinterested facial expressions and hoped that there would be no Adele songs involved in the impending presentation.

Within minutes of talk starting I was completely engaged in what I was hearing, and felt for whatever reason, I was meant to hear what this woman had to say. The woman of course was Angela Maiers – and her talk was all about making people feel like they mattered. I was skeptical at first, feeling like this was way beyond my current ability to invest emotionally in anyone else but myself. But within five minutes of hearing some deeply profound affirmations, I was furious at the person that had begun cutting onions next to me (read: ugly crying).

What I absorbed is the following: you must make the choice to matter everyday and in doing so you actively create a culture of mattering for those around you. I had been guilty of not making the person I wanted in my life, feel like he mattered. Talk about a wake up call. See, important stuff.

I guess what I am trying to say is: regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or musical preference (where my One Direction fans at?) we all want to feel like we matter to someone. It is an especially important sentiment this time of year. Gifts don’t have to be purchased, they can still come from the heart and make a profoundly moving impact. We at PlentyofFish challenge you, this holiday season, to make people feel like they matter.

The other night this Redditor asked a question that brought about the entire idea for this blog post: “What is the most memorable compliment you have ever received?”. We polled the office and wanted to share some of the best answers from us and the Reddit community. Enjoy.














What’s your most memorable compliment? Share something that made someone else feel like they matter. Tweet us @PlentyOfFish to join the conversation.

2013 Netflix Holiday Movie Guide


The holidays can be some of the busiest weeknights and weekends of the entire year. Winter time dates are in high demand and in-between shopping, planning and attending parties it can be hard to muster up the energy for another night on the town. Some of the best date nights over the holidays can be found in your own home, and we are ready to help you create a new holiday tradition of your own. All it takes is a Netflix subscription and a special someone, and you are well on your way to a wonderfully relaxing, fun night in.

The holidays are all about making new memories while reminiscing about the old. For instance if you are in my family, each holiday season we gather to share a hearty laugh about the time my well-meaning-but-directionally-challenged father led us into the wild (read: tree farm) only to become very much lost in ‘old growth’ for over 4 hours. Special times, special times indeed! But whatever your memories or traditions are, the following films are sure to create some new holiday memories for you.

2013 Netflix Holiday Movie Guide

The Polar Express

Run Time: 1hr 39m | Available on Netflix US

Seeing is believing, but sometimes the most real things in the world are the things we can’t see.” – The Conductor

Fans of the award winning book (of the same name) from Chris Van Allsburg will love to see how this magic story comes to life. It captures the spirit of the season in a way that will make you feel all kinds of warm fuzzies. This is the perfect holiday date night film for the young a heart.

PlentyOfFish recommends a mulled hot apple cider and warm blanket to accompany the watching of this one!

National Lampoons Christmas Vacation

Run Time: 1hr 37m  |  Available on Netflix US

Can I refill your eggnog for you? Get you something to eat? Drive you out to the middle of nowhere and leave you for dead?” – Clark Griswold.

This one is near and dear to my heart and has become a staple of holiday film watching in my apartment. Clark, Ellen and the entire Griswold gang gather to celebrate a holiday much like my own family would. This is the perfect holiday date night film for anyone that grew up in the 80’s.

PlentyOfFish recommends you bust out your Holiday Wally World Crystal and egg-nog for this classic.

Jingle All The Way

Run Time: 1hr 29m  |   Available on Netflix US

Who told you, you could eat my cookies?” – Howard Langston

A classic tale of Christmas consumerism and a tour de force of acting from Arnold Schwarzengger and Sinbad combine to make Jingle All the Way a true affair to remember. This silly Christmas flick will have you and your date reciting lines in your best Arnie impression. This is the perfect holiday date night film for some silly fun.

PlentyOfFish recommends you bake some cookies before hand and enjoy them with an Irish coffee for this one.

White Christmas

Run Time: 2hr  |   Available on Netflix US

Vermont should be beautiful this time of the year, all that snow.” – Phil Davis

For lovers of classic films set during the height of musical theatre popularity, this classic from Irving Berlin does not disappoint. White Christmas is the follow up to Holiday Inn, another great Christmas film from Berlin, and stars Bing Crosby and Danny Kaye. This one will have you falling in love with the glamor of era and magic of the season, guaranteed. This is the perfect holiday date night film for a night of wintery romance.

PlentyOfFish recommends you steep some some peppermint tea and cuddle up together to enjoy this film.

Becoming Santa

Run Time: 1hr 32m  |   Available on Netflix US

The holidays aren’t just about the classics, take ‘Becoming Santa’ for instance. This 2011 documentary offers a refreshing change of pace. The doc follows Jack Sanderson while he makes the transformation; taking on the persona, mannerisms and spirit of the man himself. This is the perfect holiday date night film to stimulate your inner intellectual.

PlentyOfFish recommends a glass of wine and a plate of your favourite cheese(s) for the screening of this documentary.