The 10 Weirdest Things Ever Said On A First Date: Part 2

Turns out a lot of people have had some pretty messed up things said/done to them on dates, so we’re featuring 10 MORE of the weirdest things ever said on a first date – because we can!

1. “You should consider going walking in the woods naked.” 

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2. “I don’t want to alarm you, but I really want to spank you in the middle of this restaurant…”

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3. “From out of the blue, in a lull in conversation, my date told me that he’d once dated a woman with a tattoo of her grandchild on her boob.”

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4. “You should be meet my husband, you two would really get along.”

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5. “I once had a guy yell out, “Does anyone know where I can get some heroin?” in a restaurant. Like, just out of the blue.”

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6. “Then there was the guy who admitted that he could not read – at all. I asked how he managed to get his job, and he mentioned that his brother had helped with the paperwork. Done deal.

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7. “Don’t take this the wrong way, but I don’t think I’m going to marry you right away.”

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8. “Water does not exist in a vapor phase. There is no water in clouds.”

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9. “Have you ever been with a guy as good-looking as I am? I seriously need to know.”

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10. On our first date she pulled out a small wooden box and opened the lid. Inside the box were a dozen tiny voodoo dolls, looking very much in pain. She tells me; “These are my ex boyfriends souls, trapped inside my dolls. If you mess with me — you are next.”

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PlentyOfFish Announces Space Program: Mars For Two

PlentyOfFish is officially announcing the launch of our very own Mars pioneer program today, “Mars for Two.” Teaming up with a private partner specializing in space exploration, PlentyOfFish will be granting singles a chance to find the love of their lives, and establish a permanent human settlement on Mars. The launch date has been set for 2025.

Mars for Two will join the likes of NASA and Mars One, who are currently developing the capabilities needed to send humans to Mars by the mid 2030s and 2027, respectively. So with a notably ambitious launch date projected for 2025, this opportunity won’t be available to all singles on the hunt for love.

After a lengthy application process separate from the site itself, a select group of singles will be connected with one exceptionally compatible prospective partner using the mutual match algorithm behind PlentyOfFish.

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Relationships that flourish will continue to advance in the program. Eventually, two couples will be selected for extensive training for what is projected to be the first manned mission to land on Mars.

Upon arrival, these couples will put their relationships to the ultimate test by spending the rest of their lives together living and working on Mars with water, food and oxygen provided by the mission. Research and significant insight into the complexities of human relationships and true compatibility will provide an immeasurable wealth of new knowledge for future research on both Mars and Earth.

Couples are the driving force behind Mars for Two because they can offer each other emotional support and love through such a profound change that will permanently alter their lives. This initiative is also positioned to help with reproduction on Mars with the intention of building a larger permanent community.

“At PlentyOfFish we’re passionate about bringing people together. With 4 million people logging on to the site each day, and over 1 million relationships created each year, we’ve successfully created a lasting legacy here on Earth – so the time has come to quite literally expand our horizons by sending couples to Mars,” explains Founder and CEO Markus Frind.

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With 100 Million Fish In The Sea, Why Haven’t You Found Yours?

PlentyOfFish recently announced it has surpassed 100 million users worldwide – that’s enough people looking for dates to fill 2000 Yankee Stadiums. So with more of us online dating than ever before in this hyper-connected world of ours, why is it so easy to feel like a drop in the ocean?

Of course, there is no one-size-fits-all answer to why exactly you haven’t yet found someone, but here are 3 reasons you may be feeling like the modern dating landscape is nothing but a lonely, desolate plain.

You’re spending too much time cultivating an image

Crafting our online avatars can take significant time and effort, yet what we’re left with when any sort of dating profile is completed is more of an idealized online ambassador than an accurate reflection of who we really are. While it’s completely natural to create a sort of parallel version of ourselves when we think it will make us more appealing, it’s really just distancing us from what should be a very social experience.

And I get it, we’re living in an Instagram world where the bar for adorable quotes and how we photograph ourselves has been set impossibly high. So instead of being 1 out of approximately 500 other men in your city who are hugging tigers in Thailand in their profile images, choose to upload the one at your family reunion last summer instead. Rather than being 1 out of approximately 100 million other single people who like “walks on the beach” and “going out for dinner”, choose to share a unique experience or an anecdote. Treat your online conversations the same way – don’t be so concerned with how you’re appearing online that the actual human interaction takes a backseat.

You’re thinking big…but too big

When you sign up to an online dating site, you’re being released into a terrifying new eco-system. Suddenly, you’re faced with what appears to be endless options to temporarily hold your attention, and it becomes difficult to choose just one person.

Although our prospective dates start out as perfect strangers, we’re already privy to details like their profession, education level, and whether or not they have a car or even want children – all before we speak a word to them. I mean, what if you agree to date a guy with a master’s degree and that same day a similar guy, but with a Ph.D., shows up in your Matches?

So although the process of dating (and elimination) has been effectively streamlined, we’re still left feeling a little dissatisfied with our choices. To combat this, we need to simplify.Try identifying just 5 realistic must-haves for a partner, and aim to arrange a date with those who appear to meet this criteria. This way, you’re able to stick to your core values while keeping an open mind.

You’re not taking risks

With more than 4 million logins every day and 30,000 messages being sent each minute on PlentyOfFish, it would appear that conversations are being started online. That said, establishing meaningful personal relationships takes courage, and that means engaging in your communities both online and offline. If you’re still sending the same copy/paste note to 10 people each time you login or simply waiting for people to message you all the time, you’ve arrived at Complacentville.

Online communication will never be as valuable or as real as an old fashioned, face-to-face conversation. Next time you’re using a dating app while commuting or standing in line for a coffee, I challenge you to look up, and start a conversation with someone. Of course, this does mean stepping out of your comfort zone, but I assure you, the investment in your real life social network will be worth it. At the very least, you’ll have a brand new anecdote for your dating profile about that time you struck up a conversation with that total weirdo on your way to work.

The BEST Online Dating Advice: From Online Daters

There’s no shortage of online dating advice out there for singles, but like anything else, sometimes the best advice comes from someone who has been down that road before. We asked some real life, seasoned online daters who have found success on PlentyOfFish to pass on some of their best advice. If we do say so ourselves, it’s pretty bang on!

On manners:“Just act like a sane, normal person. And use your manners! Never say anything that you wouldn’t say to someone’s face just because you’re behind a computer screen.”

On keeping it real: “Online dating provides a process for evolution and learning. You learn by establishing some guidelines. For example, if you haven’t both agreed on a date and time to meet within a few weeks, you should consider ceasing contact. And like anything in life, while you can accept help, read books, and get advice from friends, you have to participate in the process.”

On the no-nonsense approach: “Keep writing decent and heartfelt messages to whoever you want – so forget your “type”. Mention something that stood out about their profile.”

On keeping your image game strong: “Be yourself but understand that images come first. If someone is not attracted to you, it won’t matter if Hemingway wrote your profile.”

On being tech savvy: “Download the PlentyOfFish app! It’s a totally different experience (in a good way) and you can meet way more people, even faster.”

On assuming gender roles: “Don’t fall into the thinking that men should always make the first move. If you see someone who interests you, message them! Also, let’s just be real and admit that people aren’t impressed by lists and stuff, they want to know what you feel.”

On smiling: “You have 8 seconds to make a good impression. Women will see your main image as a tiny pic the size of a saltine cracker on their cell phone screens. If your main image is not clear, bright and attractive, they move on. A genuine smile is inviting, warm and attractive. Women want to see your eyes and smile.”

On making plans: “NOTHING IS REAL UNTIL YOU MEET. Don’t waste your time on endless text messages. After three or four solid messages, ask for a phone number. Call to arrange a first meeting. Connect in a safe, quiet place like a cafe where you can talk and get to know each other.”

On what it should all really be about: “Above all, keep a sense of humor. Have FUN.”

The 10 Weirdest Things Ever Said On A First Date

Even when things go off without a hitch, first dates can be a little weird. But have you ever had a first date go down in flames based off a one-liner, or something super weird your date said to you? We asked our users about the weirdest things ever said to them on a first date, and they delivered! So next time you have an awkward first date…just look on the bright side and count your lucky stars that he’s not referring to himself as a warlock.

Here is our list of the 10 weirdest things ever said on a first date:

1. “An ex-anesthesia technician told me that he really enjoyed the smell of flesh being cauterized (burned) during surgery …”

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2. “On our first date we passed by a water tower under construction twice, once after picking her up and again when I was taking her home. Both times she laid out a detailed plan to sneak up there just so she could sleep in it for a night.”

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3. “I had my ovaries and uterus removed, but I still enjoy sex”

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4. “My date announced that he’d given me a fake name, as he’d been ( wrongfully) accused of sexual harassment. (I Googled afterwards, and he had been charged.)

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5. “My date asked me to leave the country with him as his companion, all expenses paid, to appear on a television show, as he was a warlock.”

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6. “One guy hid in the shadows in the back of the bar so he could check me out. I hung around for about 30 minutes and he never appeared so I left. He later emailed me and told me he saw me but chose to not meet me because “I looked like a b*tch” …”

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7. “Can my bi-sexual friend come to dinner with us?”

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8. “I went to dinner with a guy once. He constantly drummed on the table with his knife and fork and occasionally would pick up his napkin, whirl it above his head and yell, “Yippee-i-o-ki-ay!!

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9.  “He proclaimed that he ‘itched because his ex had caused him not to be able to carry a gun anymore’…

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10. ” On our first date, I was asked to delete my profile, because he didn’t want me on PlentyOfFish if we were to go out. Of course, I said no because we’d JUST started chatting, and then he told me he LOVED me!” 

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Why We Still Can’t Stop Talking About Online Dating

Before a time when the world was obsessed with flavor of the week apps and shiny new tech startups only to forget about them as quickly as you can swipe left, I got hired at an online dating site.

The year was 2010 and I had just turned 21 years old. The concept of dating online was more publicly uncomfortable then, although, almost 5 years later, the reaction remains more or less the same when people learn that I work for PlentyOfFish. Sometimes shock, often an involuntary facial twitch, always questions. Although the positioning of online dating in conversations is changing, one thing remains the same: we’re having the conversations. On the way to work, in the line at Starbucks, out for drinks with friends on Friday night, we’re having the conversations. So what is the big deal about online dating, and why can’t we stop talking about it?

Because We Still Don’t Know How It Works…But It Works

When we create these digital portraits for ourselves online, we’re navigating in a space we don’t really understand, but excites us nonetheless. This also makes us wary, though. We meet a jerk at a bar and we chalk it up to bad luck. We meet a jerk while we’re online dating, and it starts more of a conversation because we can’t make sense of the moving parts. The onus can be on cyberspace for bringing this loser to your inbox and not your own judgement. Still, most days I’d bet on the good judgment of matching algorithms and data scientists behind the scenes of a dating site over a great deal of my friends at the bar.

Even so, in the media you’re still more likely to hear about an online first date gone wrong than Harry and Sally (and thousands of people just like them every year) who met online and lived happily ever after, because those battle stories reassure us that there are still people out there who haven’t found anyone either! The thing is, Harry and Sally have told their friends, and their friends have told their friends, which results in a great deal of signups for us, and at least 1 in 5 marriages for those who are keeping track.

Because We’re Curious

Dating online means putting yourself out there – like really out there. Your hopes and dreams and wish list for an ideal partner is out there for your exes, coworkers and aunt Barbara to stumble across, and that can be scary at first. Maybe aunt Barbara actually met someone, and that pushed you over the edge, or maybe you heard that a celebrity is now considering joining a dating site after her latest breakup. Either way, you don’t want to be left behind.

So before you know it, you’re signing up too. And it’s strangely optimistic, to see those rows of hopeful faces smiling back at you, all of them single. So like a high school dance, you hang out on the outskirts for a while, maybe even until someone makes the first move and messages you. All of a sudden, our false modesty vanishes and the experience becomes more human than humiliating because you’re actually allowing yourself to have fun.

Because It’s Always Evolving

There was a time, so I’ve been told, when dating was not always this way. Despite this, I’m inclined to go the tough love route and tell you, sorry, but this is the way it’s going to be from now on. Technology has been seamlessly and irreversibly integrated into almost every nook and cranny of our existence, and the advancements in the online dating space are remarkable.

We’re obsessed with maximizing efficiency and tailoring all of our experiences to best fit our needs, but when it comes to our love lives, maybe we’re still more old-fashioned than we’re willing to admit. We routinely blog about deeply personal aspects of daily life, order our groceries, reserve a Car2Go, plan trips across the world and customize our own Nike sneakers, all online, but when it comes to dating online, we pretend it’s still just a little too out there.

But that’s OK! We’re still afraid that our stories won’t quite stack up when we’re recounting to our grandchildren that yes, “Grandma was checking her PlentyOfFish app on the commute to work and saw that Grandpa had selected her as a Favorite, and the rest is history.” We may not necessarily have the ancient family feuds or years spent oceans apart, but that’s only because life has changed. Dating has changed, and online dating will continue to evolve. But the hope and the intimacy and the love, that’s still the same. Besides, you have nothing to worry about, because in 10 years all the romantic comedies will be about online daters anyway.

30 Dating Cliches: Defined And Tested

Over the past month, Mandy Stadtmiller, Chief Editor at XOJane has been using PlentyOfFish to test out popular dating cliches to see if they hold any truth (all in hopes of finding a great date for Valentines Day). Turns out, as you might suspect, some traditional dating advice has no place in 2015.

To save you from going to the same trouble to find a date, we’ve provided a crash course in defining and testing 30 of the most popular dating cliches below, based on Mandy’s findings.
Do you agree with this list? Which dating cliches have popped up in your life? Let us know below, and find the full rundown of the 30 days on The Mandy Project.

30 Dating Cliches: Defined and Tested

Cliché #1: “Honesty is the best policy”

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Challenge: Make a brutally honest online dating profile on PlentyOfFish
Learning Point: Unfiltered selfies make for unfiltered dating.

 

Cliché #2: “You never get a second chance to make a first impression”

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Challenge: Hug strangers in Times Square, and ask them what their first impression of me is from that hug.
Learning Point: Lead with confidence and it will follow the whole night through.

 

Cliché #3: “You’ll find him when you stop looking”

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Challenge: Hand over my dating profile to a friend, and let them look through your matches.
Learning Point: Not being able to see a man’s face leads to so much less judgement and more reflection.

 

Cliché #4: “Everything happens for a reason”

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Challenge: Reply to one of my “suitors” on POF and explain to them how everything in my life had led up to the moment when I read their message.
Learning Point: Taking a radically different intro approach in online dating works.

Cliché #5: “Love like you’ve never been hurt”

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Challenge: Have a date where no matter what, I can’t talk about exes or my past.
Learning Point: I suck at leaving exes out of things. When I consciously try, not just the date is better – but my life is better, too.

Cliché #6: “You should date a nice guy”

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Challenge: Message a guy and ask him, “Would you consider yourself to be a nice guy? Give me several good examples why.”
Learning Point: Nice guys are honestly the sexiest guys on earth.

Cliché #7: “Opposites attract”

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Challenge: Ask a guy out who is my opposite.
Learning Point: Don’t let someone who is totally different than you scare you away from a new potentially life-changing experience.

 

 

Cliché #8: “Never dress too sexy on a first date”

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Challenge: Ask Instagram to pick my first date outfit in order to achieve just the right amount of sexiness.
Learning Point: Go with classy-sexy not slutty-sexy.

Cliché #9: “Trust your gut”

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Cliché #10: “You have to date your type”

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Challenge: Pick a guy based only on his profile picture and ask him out.
Learning Point: Over-thinking dating ruins dating.

Cliché #11: “You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else”

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Challenge: Do something to treat myself that I’ve never done before.
Learning Point: If you take care of yourself then you’re able to be your best self with other people.

Cliché #12: “Never accept last minute dates”

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Challenge: Don’t accept a last-minute date, unless social media thinks it’s okay to do so.
Learning Point: Screw the rules. Go out whenever you want.

Cliché #13: “Be yourself”

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Challenge: Go on the most genuine date ever.
Learning Point: Authenticity leads to laughter leads to a really great date.

Cliché #14: “You have to accept men exactly as they are”

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Challenge: Watch the Super Bowl with a group of manly men being exactly as they are.
Learning Point: I love men so hard, especially when they are being all manly men.

Cliché #15: “Love should be easy”

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Challenge: Go on a date and we have to agree with each other no matter what.
Learning Point: Going with the flow is a choice.

Cliché #16:  “Don’t have sex until you’ve been on at least three dates”

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Challenge: Message ten guys from POF to find out if this cliché is actually relevant.
Learning Point: Only ever listen to your intuition when it comes to sex – because you’re the only person who matters in this decision.

Cliché #17: “The two-day rule”

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Challenge: Keep a diary of everything that I wanted to say to my date – while waiting two days before contacting him.
Learning Point: Contact him while he’s still walking out the door if you want to. If a man likes you, he is going to like you.

Cliché #18: “It’s a numbers game”

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Challenge: Message as many guys from POF in one day as I could using the briefest messages possible — and see how many quality responses I got back.
Learning Point: Being bold, fearless and concise is the only way to play it.

Cliché #19: “Play hard to get”

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Challenge: Create a scavenger hunt for your first date.
Learning Point: It’s okay to make them chase you. They like it.

Cliché #20: “You have to put yourself out there”

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Challenge: Walk around New York City with a sign that says, “I’m currently SINGLE.”
Learning Point: Humiliation leads to fearlessness leads to risk taking leads to amazing things happening.

Cliché #21:  “Don’t kiss on a first date”

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Challenge: Poll Twitter and find out if it’s okay to get intimate early on.
Learning Point: Coyness and directness are equally great strategies.

Cliché #22: “Love knows no age”

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Challenge: Message 10 men older and 10 men younger than me on POF. Accept a date with one of them.
Learning Point: Younger men are thirstier than the silver foxes – which is less attractive.

Cliché #23: “A man should pay for a first date”

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Challenge: Create an estimate of how much you’re going to spend for the evening and present to a man at the beginning of a date.
Learning Point: It’s okay to expect and demand old-fashioned chivalr

Cliché #24: “Make a man “engagement chicken” so he’ll fall in love”

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Challenge: Bring a man engagement chicken on a first date.
Learning Point: There is no quicker way to cut the ice than to give a man a chicken.

Cliché #25: “Avoid the topics of politics, money and religion on a first date”

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Challenge: Create a conversational itinerary directing my date to every topic other than these three.
Learning Point: Why steer clear of anything? You’re on the date; not the representative.

Cliché #26: “Don’t play games”

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Challenge: Print out a list of relationship expectations and give it to a man on the first date.

Learning Point: There is nothing sexier than honesty.

Cliché #27: “Go after what you want”

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Challenge: Pay for the date instead of expecting a man to do it.

Learning Point: Don’t be helpless.

Cliché #28: “There are plenty of fish in the sea”

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Challenge: Ask out one of these “fish” in a big way for Valentine’s Day.
Learning Point: You can’t find your fish if you don’t ask him out first.

Cliché #29: “Be busy”

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Challenge: Spend a day primping on yourself – no matter what happens on Feb. 14.
Learning Point: You’ll never be bummed or stressed when you treat life like a spa day.

Cliché #30: “Everyone should have a Valentine’s Day date”

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Challenge: Go out and have the most celebratory V-Day ever.
Learning Point: V-Day exists. Why deny it? Own it instead of letting it own you.

 

The 17 Most WTF Things Relatives Have Said To Single People Over The Holidays

With Christmas only 2 days away, chances are, singles everywhere are already getting excited about sitting around the table with loved ones for the annual Christmas feast. However, nosy Aunt Betty’s prying questions about when the heck you’re going to get married and have babies? Not so much. We recently asked PlentyOfFish users on our forums to tell us “The Most WTF Thing A Family Member Has Said To You About Being Single For The Holidays”, and the answers delivered. So next time Aunt Betty pipes up, remember that you’re not alone.

  1. “So, I hear even Charles Manson won’t be single for the holidays …”
  2. “Merry Christmas. Have you got a new boyfriend yet?”
  3. “Are there cobwebs up there yet?”
  4. “You are the last of the family tree.”
  5. “If you were a better cook you could catch a husband.”
  6. “I told you, too many children is a turn off.”
  7. “When I saw this ‘Grow Your Own Boyfriend toy’, I just knew I had to get it for you for Christmas”
  8. “If you were a better housekeeper you could probably keep a husband.”
  9. “Luckily you have your dog to keep you company.”
  10. “Hope you have shares in a battery company.”
  11. “You need to wear sexier clothes. Show some cleavage.”
  12. “I know why you’re single… you need a breast reduction. I can recommend a surgeon”
  13. “How’s the wrist?”
  14. “If you lose some weight all your problems will be gone”
  15. “Don’t wear such fancy clothes. Certainly don’t wear heels. Makes you too tall.”
  16. “You’re probably single because you talk too much.”
  17. “I pity your parents. No grandchildren.”

What are the most WTF things a relative has said to YOU about being single over the holidays? Tell us in the comments below!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from PlentyOfFish!

This Year’s Best Halloween Costumes For Singles

With Halloween just one day away, chances are if you haven’t planned out your costume already, you’re scrambling. Lucky for you, we polled over 1200 of our users in the United States to gain some insight into who will be wearing what this upcoming Halloween. And perhaps more importantly, we got the inside scoop on which costumes are considered the most appealing by single men and women.

Turns out sexy nurses will have to step aside this year, because the survey found over 62% of women planning to dress as strong female characters, like 2014 pop culture powerhouses Katniss from the Hunger Games, and Khaleesi from Game of Thrones.  That left only 38% planning more sweet, submissive costumes like Sleeping Beauty and Kate Middleton.

Top Costumes for Women

  1. Katniss from the Hunger Games – 20%
  2. Sleeping Beauty – 16%
  3. Katy Perry – 15%

When it comes to the men this year, we’re seeing good prevailing over evil, with a strong trend towards heroic leading men. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t a little room for something sinister.

Top Costumes for Men

  1. Captain America – 35%
  2. Walter White from Breaking Bad – 17%
  3. Jon Snow from Game of Thrones – 16%

But What Do Women Want To See?

With Captain America coming in as #1 for men, he also has an effect on the ladies, with over 38% of women finding themselves most attracted to this costume at a party. Lego man and Pharell Williams costumes also placed strongly, while Kanye West and Joffrey from Game of Thrones finished last when it came to female preference for male costumes.

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What are  you dressing up for this Halloween? What are your top costume choices?

The Top 10 “George Constanza-esque” Reasons PlentyOfFish Users Have Broken Up With Someone

Inspired by a Reddit thread on the same concept, we asked PlentyOfFish users on our own forums to tell us about the most “George Constanza-esque” reason they’d broken up with someone in the past. Needless to say, their answers delivered.  Please see below for the most “George Constanza-esque” reasons our users have broken up with someone:

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