The 10 Types Of Online Daters

As the largest dating site in the world, our customer service team here at PlentyOfFish reviews THOUSANDS of profiles a day, and routinely picks up on recurring trends among online dating profiles.

So our team put their heads together and came up with just 10 users who together, we think summarize the online dating landscape pretty accurately. They also offered some clever insider secrets on how to approach these singles, or in certain cases, when to stop something before it begins, because RED FLAGS.

Here is a quick look at the 10-Types of Online Daters identified by the customer service team at PlentyOfFish.

Do you agree with our selections? Let us know!


Dating on a Diet: How Food Is Dividing Relationships

The popularity spike of specialty diets and food restrictions over recent years could have us
assume that newly trim, gluten-free bellies are not only giving singles a confidence boost, but creating an optimized dating pool for people who care about what they eat. I mean, if you follow a low-carb diet and I’m a vegan we can probably at least agree that McDonald’s is out of the question as a first date restaurant, right?

But as it turns out, it’s not so straightforward. The pickiest eaters also happen to make the pickiest daters. A new study out of PlentyOfFish surveyed over 500 singles in 10 of North America’s most health conscious cities, and found that dietary restrictions are actually preventing new relationships and polarizing singles.

Vegan Diet: 50% of vegans don’t want to date another vegan
Paleo Diet: 50% of paleo dieters don’t want to date a vegetarian
Gluten-Free Diet: 20% of gluten-free dieters don’t want to date a low-carb dieter
Low-Carb Diet: 31% of low-carb dieters don’t want to date a vegetarian
Vegetarian: 25% of vegetarians don’t want to date a paleo dieter

So… which eating habits are considered the most eligible? Despite following any of the diets or lifestyles above, 72% of respondents wanted to date someone without any dietary restrictions. But why?

“Our food choices and diet patterns are very intricate and complex at the best of times,” said Crystal Higgins, Registered Dietician, when asked to weigh in on these findings.“People can be less accepting of their date’s dieting habits if they feel that their own food choices might be compromised. Many people are turned off by the thought of giving up their favorite meals to make concessions for their partner.”

As it turns out, many times people are turned off enough to pressure their partners to eat better when they do find themselves in relationships. 50 percent of vegans, 32 percent of gluten-free dieters, and 28 percent of paleo dieters admit to challenging the eating habits of their significant others. And if you’re dating a vegan, hopefully you’re open to changing your diet, because almost 20% of vegans have broken up with a partner over their eating habits.

Do you follow one of the diets listed above? Do eating habits play a role in your dating life? Have you ever ended a relationship over eating habits?


Why You Will Never Be The Cool Girl

Without digging a little deeper it can seem like she exists everywhere. In the media she might take form as Jennifer Lawrence, constantly proclaiming her love for food, and tripping up the stairs to the Oscar stage. She’s the startlingly perfect-looking nameless woman pouting her lips at you on your Instagram feed. In everyday life, she’s your coworker who never misses a taco lunch or Friday beer with the boys. She’s the Cool Girl. You’ve probably heard of her, known her or maybe even think you are her. Spoiler alert: you’re not, and neither is anyone else.

Gillian Flynn wrote an impeccable passage on the Cool Girl in last summer’s best-selling novel, Gone Girl:

“Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.

Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them.”

It resonates somewhere deep down, doesn’t it? My first reaction to this scathing excerpt was a flash of recognition. As a longtime employee of an online dating site, I catch glimpses of her in countless profiles of women who tirelessly play up their Cool Girl game. She loves graphic novels and claims she’ll take an afternoon of dirt-biking over a romantic walk on the beach any day. She prattles on about having few female friends because she’s always “been a guy’s girl.” The point isn’t that yes, of course a woman in 2014 should be free to love contact sports, bourbon shots and visiting her local gun range, but doesn’t it sometimes seem a bit…gimmicky?

We all play roles. Your new boyfriend’s mother probably doesn’t care to hear about that time you tried naked bungee jumping last summer, because she wants to meet your ambassador, in a way. That same idealized version of yourself that your boyfriend probably thought he knew for a while, too. The act itself is exhausting, and can’t be maintained over the long-term. The same goes for the Cool Girl act.

Real relationships require boundaries and compromises and all of these nice things, but mostly it comes down to being OK with who you are. At some point you’re going to let it slip out that no, you don’t necessarily want to stay out late and drink too much every Friday, or watch the football game, or dutifully sit around while your boyfriend plays video games. We fear that disinterest in any number of things that fall inside the generic Cool Girl umbrella will equal boring. Nagging. Bitching. We’re afraid that being on the receiving end of a man’s eye-roll will confirm we’ve arrived at the place we tried so hard to avoid.

You find yourself nodding in agreement when someone you’re dating casually suggests you also continue to see other people, just to go on to scrutinize every word ever exchanged between the two of you. Where did you go wrong? Because isn’t the Cool Girl supposed to be agreeable and happy? Texts you receive from him are dissected in painstaking detail, and calculating a sufficient response can take all day. And suddenly, you realize you’re no longer the Cool Girl and you never really were. Your number one priority was to be received as sexy and mysterious – until one day this inevitably passes, because, life.

This is a realization that comes with time. So remember, while the Cool Girl can be fun to observe or scold or even attempt for a while, even the Cool Girls aren’t really Cool Girls deep down. They’re just girls, hoping someone might eventually accept them for how utterly uncool all of their dark and unexplored corners really are.

When You’ve Got 99 Problems And Your Sibling Vs. Your Partner Is One

There is only one major celebrity story dominating the media over the past two days that really matters – the  Beymercency! Just yesterday, TMZ posted a video of Solange Knowles, sister of Beyonce, going  H.A.M on Jay Z in an elevator after the MET Gala after-party. There is much speculation over the motives behind the attack and what provoked it, but even without audio, it’s safe to say that Solange was not impressed with Jay Z.  And what is Beyonce doing as this scene unfolds in front of her? She’s just standing there stoically, barely batting an eyelash. Like she’s seen this before and it’s just a regular ol’ Monday night.

The internet has since exploded with reactions to the altercation, sparking debate over how Beyonce handled the situation. Was she right to stand back and let them hash it out? Should she have intervened more? Could this have been prevented? What does one do when their partner, or someone they’re dating is in their sibling’s bad books?

To avoid your own brand of elevator beatdown between your nearest and dearest, here’s where to start when a sibling (or family member) and partner just can’t get along:

1. Don’t Take Sides 

Or at least avoid it! Talk to each person in private about their feelings, and allow them to express why they may be feeling contempt towards the other party involved. Be sure to let both your partner and your sibling know that your relationship with each them is important to you, but explain that you shouldn’t have to choose sides. Make sure your sibling respects the fact that you’re an adult, and more than capable of making your own decisions and managing your own romantic relationships. It’s not up to you change their opinion, but you need to make sure you’re being heard. Unless you put a stop to it, the disrespect will continue to escalate, and your partner could feel abandoned. On the flip side, be sure to let your partner know that your family will continue to be an important part of your life, and you’re willing to compromise to come up with a solution that has their best interests in mind.

2. Don’t Get Them Drunk Together

Obviously this sort of situation makes for awkward family game nights and very tense holiday dinners. Sometimes these interactions are an unavoidable part of life, but be sensitive to the emotions that are riding high on both sides, and consider making everyone’s lives easier by avoiding possible confrontation whenever possible. Booze infused family reunion on the horizon? Leave your boyfriend at home and bring your best friend who your grandma seems to love instead. It’s no secret that alcohol escalates situations very quickly, so the LAST thing you want to is confine the two to a small space – ex/ an elevator. 

3. Do Give It Time

It’s entirely possible that some time just needs to pass before your sibling and partner warm up to each other and accept their respective roles in your life. Sometimes, especially when there are deeper issues at play, time only fuels the fire and brings up further resentment. When it comes to this point, you will exhaust yourself with efforts to unite them, so you may have to come to terms with their feelings. Your partner might not be right, and your sibling may not be right, but there are some things you can’t change. If this is the case, you may need to sit down alone for a minute and listen to this song.