Saying Goodbye to 2014…

What better way to see out a great year than by spreading some holiday cheer. Plenty of Fish ended 2014 by getting festive and having lots of fun. From volunteering at Belkin House to hosting hot chocolate bars and cookie decorating for our staff, the holiday spirit was out in abundance. Other fabulous activities included our Ugly Sweater Party, Yankee Grab, Girl’s Night and decorating our office Christmas Tree.


Thanks to a great company and great staff it was the perfect way to end off the year. We’re so excited for 2015!

POF Whistler Trip

When it comes to Christmas parties, no one does it quite like Plenty of Fish. There was no time for mundane lunches at chain restaurants or dry parties within the actual office, this is the season to celebrate and POF made sure the party was festive.

The annual POF Whistler trip occurs every December. The POF family is treated to an amazing weekend away with luxury hotel suites, teambuilding activities, gourmet dinners and hotel parties – Snoop Lion/Pitbull/Rihanna would write a song about. 2014’s weekend away was one for the books.
Like all good trips, the bus ride to Whistler started with good spirits, some in bottle form and singing. After some great renditions of Christmas carols, we arrived at the Pan Pacific hotel. Our luxury accommodation consisted of stylish, well-equipped suites and stunning views. After some refueling it was time to get our activity schedule one.
First on the agenda, a teambuilding Amazing Chase courtesy of Canadian Outback Adventures. Staff were organised into teams and, following a series of clues, set out on a range of challenges throughout the Whistler village. Highlights of the day included teams creating a 30-second tai-chi video, beer tasting, sardine eating and resolutions to do more cardio before next year’s race.
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A celebratory dinner and hotel suite party afterwards rounded off day one. It was time for some much-needed rest and then onto day two.
POFers started Saturday bright and early. After a great breakfast in our hotel, we set out for a day outdoors. Thanks to Canadian Wilderness Adventures we were lucky enough to partake in ATVing, archery and shooting. The majestic background, great company and fantastic weather made for a great afternoon. After some downtime, it was time to scrub up and put on our fancy pants.
We celebrated our second night with a gourmet dinner at Il Caminetto di Umberto in the village. The rustic ambiance and great service was only surpassed by the delicious food. As the wine flowed, the laughter increased and the bonds strengthened, and it was time to leave for yet another hotel party. Not before some impromptu singing of course. What a better way to end a weekend then with music, drinks, dancing and the people that make coming into work exciting.
Whistler 2014 was another great event for Plenty of Fish. We’re already looking forward to 2015!

Why He Should Always Pay For The Dinner Date

“Really, that’s just not fair. I always pay my share the first time I meet a man.”

This is what ‘Janine’ had said after I suggested waiting for the man to pay for dates, and then paying her part only if he indicated he wanted her to.
And not dating him again if indeed, that’s what he wanted.

It’s a tricky topic, and one women have asked me about often in my role as a science-based relationship adviser. Some, like Janine, think it’s unfair to expect the guy to pay; others are confused, wanting to be treated, but thinking that might be wrong; and still others do the fake-pay, pulling out their wallets and feeling shortchanged when he takes her up on what she thought was a symbolic offer.
So what’s the deal?

Blame It On Great-Great-Great-Great Grandma

In a survey conducted on best and worst dates, women’s top reason for not wanting to see a man again was his failure to pay the bill, “in full, without audible complaint. Period.”
Why? Well, just as we inherited Daddy’s height, or Nana’s curls, we’re heirs to our ancestors’ thoughts. Studies in more than 37 cultures and societies globally prove it. Men have a shared psychology with other men, all over the world. And women have a genuine sisterhood, psychologically.  It all comes from what got people’s own genes cast forward. Men of the past didn’t have to worry about who was going to provide for them; they could get their own wildebeest, thankyouverymuch.

But women couldn’t always get enough food when they were pregnant, nursing, and baby-schlepping. Those who happened to value a man who could and would provide, got what they needed to make sure they and their genes (aka kids) survived. Were there women who were devil-may-care when it came to whether a guy brought home the bison? Probably. But those women are part of human history~not human ancestry. Today’s women want what their successful female forbears sought: a good provider and protector. Factually, it’s still relevant to women. And our genes’ survival. Globally, right now, women who have a fully invested husband are healthier, wealthier, longer-lived, and happier than women who don’t. And their kids survive better, too.

Pass On Going Dutch

Upshot? Dating is the modern test to show whether a man will provide; it’s the best information we’ve got, up-front, that he is or isn’t into us. Studies show that where a man invests his money, he’s investing his heart; and where he’s not, he’s not. When men fall in love, they fall harder and faster than women do. One way they know they’re falling is whether they have positive feelings about paying for dinner.

By going Dutch, Janine was casting aside some of the very most valuable information you can get: Does he care? She changed her strategy and found that suddenly, she no longer got played for weeks or months of sex and housekeeping with guys who didn’t truly want her.

So bring on the stayers and eliminate players. Let the guy pay. If he doesn’t, you can easily move on. If he does~that’s a move towards Yes, for love and possibly for life.

Duana C. Welch, Ph.D.

LoveScience: Research-based relationship advice for everyone

The 7 Deadliest Profile Mistakes

As someone who sees a lot of profiles on a daily basis; this is my gift to you. Do you feel that you aren’t getting the responses that you’d like? Are you attracting the wrong matches to your page? Peruse this list to make sure you aren’t making one of the 7 deadly profile mistakes.

1. Your photos are all selfies

The selfie obsession is a little weird. Sure, try to encapsulate your best features – but there is no need for the 6, almost-identical selfies taken in your bathroom. Not only are too many selfies boring, but they also make you look narcissistic. If you are leaving out shots of your whole body, you aren’t giving potential mates the full picture. If you know you are a little curvier, by all means have flattering pictures, but don’t try and hide what you look like.

DO have a friend take pictures. Show yourself being active. Be dynamic. Rollerblade. Show yourself playing chess. Hobbies will make you a much more interesting match.

2. Your interests are too ambiguoussideah2

You like sleeping? I like sleeping too. You eat? I eat everyday too!

3. You have too many pet picturessideah1

I love cats. You love cats. We all love cats. We also don’t want to see 5 pictures of Garfield. He’s cute, but your profile isn’t an advertisement for the pound.

4. You seem bitter

Does your profile have any of the following?

“Are there ANY good men out there?”
“I’m JUST looking… not ready to make a commitment unless you’re WORTH MY TIME!!!”
“I’m really down to earth, but if you message me asking about my red dress in the third picture I will block you.”

These are all some very deadly profile sins indeed. Keep your profile light and interesting. There is no need to be negative, and listing your pet peeves is immature and unattractive.

5. Your profile is too longsideah3

Your profile should read like a preview, not the entire book. It’s important to leave some stories to tell in person; you don’t need to give everything away. People will form their own opinions when they meet you, and their opinions will never match how you describe yourself.

6. You talk about your ex

If you’re not over your ex, you should probably take a more time to heal. Talking about your ex is one of the biggest buzz kills, not to mention it looks tacky.
DO talk about your ideal relationship. If you just want to test out the waters, feel free to say so. If you’re looking for a serious relationship, state it. No need to beat around the bush!

7. Your profession leaves a lot to be desiredsideah4





If you are putting forth a lot of effort to really connect with someone, please be sure to properly fill out your profile. Setting your profession to “Ask” or “N/A” is just plain worrisome.

Happy Fishing!

The First Date Prep Guide For Men

Guys, we can confidently say that it’s never been easier to prep for a first date, thanks to our friends at The Idle Man. You can thank us later.

A Few Words On Grooming:

1. Hair

Your hair may be one of the first things your date notices when she meets you, so if you’re bearing an uncanny resemblance to Tom Hanks in Castaway, you could quickly go down in her estimations. Unless, of course, she happens to have a thing for vagrants, but since that’s unlikely, make sure you get a haircut a couple of days before the date.

2. Face

Yes, beards have been the ‘in thing’ for a while now, but just because you can grow facial fuzz doesn’t give you an excuse not to look after it. So, if you do decide to boycott razors just make sure your beard is neat and tidy round the edges before you leave the house. Alternatively, for those who shave on a daily basis, and are prone to the dreaded shaving rash, make sure you leave enough time for the rash to die down and always apply an aftershave balm or moisturizer.

3. Nails

Along with hair and shoes, nails are another thing most women will take in more than you’d expect. So make sure they’re trimmed and clean, because looking like you’ve spent the afternoon digging in the garden won’t help you to progress to a second date. On a similar note, if your hands are drier than a Cream Cracker sandwich, apply some moisturizer or she won’t want those flaky mitts anywhere near her.

4. Scent

Less is definitely more when it comes to scent, and smelling like you’ve bathed in the stuff is guaranteed to have her coughing and sneezing throughout the date. A spritz of something classic either side of the neck, one under your shirt and maybe one in your hair will be more than enough to have her longing to get closer to you.

What To Wear:

1. Up Top

Slogan T-shirts, Hawaiian shirts and sports team jerseys are all an absolute no-no when it comes to dating attire. You want to look like you’ve made an effort but without going overboard. Chose something classic like an Oxford Shirt in a muted tone, which will work for both smart and casual occasions. If you’re not blessed with good weather on the day and you need an additional layer then opt for a Harrington jacket in either beige or navy, which you can also put round her shoulders if she gets cold. A lightweight round neck cable knit, once again in a muted tone, is another reliable and timeless option.

2. On Bottom

For a lot of guys it can all go wrong when it comes to trousers – they’re either too long, too short, too baggy or too skinny. If you’ve gone with our Oxford shirt suggestion you’ll want to team it with a pair of dark denim jeans. This isn’t an area of your wardrobe where you should skimp on quality, and since you’re likely to get plenty of wear out of them it’s worth paying the extra. Go for a slim fit that’s tapered around the ankle with a length that should break on the shoe. If you want to roll them up a few inches to reveal a flashy pair of socks then do so, just make sure they’re not the Homer Simpson ones your Nan bought you for Christmas.

3. Shoes

As we said before, there are certain things ladies will home in on long before you’ve managed to drop that perfectly rehearsed chat-up line. Shoes are one of those things – and they can seriously make it or break it for some, so make sure you get them right. Once again, something classic and understated like a brown leather Derby or a suede desert boot is your best bet if you’re unsure. Although a lot of people would say sneakers have no place in a date scenario, they can actually look just as smart as leather lace-ups if they’re clean and simple. If you fancy going down the sneaker street then chose a lightweight canvas shoe in a similar colour tone to your shirt.