5 Ways to Reduce Pre Date Anxiety

There are certain things in life that are inevitable; a yearly Marvel movie release, McDonalds at the end of a night out and pre date anxiety. Of course, pre date anxiety is something that varies from person to person. If it doesn’t happen to you, yay you! You may stop reading now. However, if you are among the majority of human beings who do experience those pre date nerves, you can take solace in knowing you are not alone. And, there’s a way to fix them!

Active Date Ideas to Get Couples Moving

The traditional dinner and a movie date can be great, but it’s fun to switch-up date night occasionally. Why not try an active date instead? Whether a couple is heading out on their first date or they’ve been married for years, incorporating physical activity can spark healthy habits and new interests. Here are some fun and healthy date ideas to help couples stay active and mix things up a bit.

Does Drinking Help or Hinder First Date Conversation?

Ah the first date….

You arrive before him, staking your claim on a decent corner table, so you don’t have to awkwardly wait in line with your date; throwing away all your best conversation starters within the first 2 minutes of meeting him.

Practice Makes Perfect – First Date Etiquette

A right swipe has led you to another first date. Or maybe you met each other through friends or serendipity. However the plans were hatched, you need to be prepared. Yes, first dates are thrilling and adventurous, but they can also be the stuff of nightmares…or meme legends.

Don’t go into any first date without doing your homework. Plan ahead—and don’t forget an exit strategy! That’s right… just in case it isn’t working out. Then again, magic could happen. You really never know when (or why) sparks fly.

Regardless of how the night goes, there is one unfailing, cross-generational, simple rule: Remember your manners!

Your first date could be fantastic, horrible, blah or absolutely hilarious. No matter how crazy the date or how perfect the person, etiquette is still everything.  And some simple manners might just lead to another date (if you want one!):

Check-In

No, I’m not suggesting you let your date know every fine detail about your location before arrival. But if you’re running late, please shoot over a text or give them a ring. Also, if you’re at a concert or crowded venue, make sure you don’t lose each other.

Chivalry isn’t Dead…So Open the Door

Oh, the knight in shining armor…be still my heart! Or not. Life isn’t a fairy tale, and not every chica (or chico) wants to be rescued. Still, guys, it doesn’t hurt to be a gentleman.

A man who holds the door is charming. I’ll tell you, it kind of makes me blush a bit…but in a good way. A man who holds the door open is outwardly displaying that he’s looking out for you. The guy who lets it slam in someone’s face? Yeah. Not a good catch.

Woo with flowers…gentlemen

Bringing a bouquet of flowers will make a great impression. Although, bringing a dozen (or more!) roses might look a bit like you’re over-reaching. So opt for unique blooms. Try daffodils for spring. Sunflowers or bright Gerbera daisies are cheery and a cute pick for a first date flower bouquet.

Self-Care Goes a Long Way

And, please, please, please….remember to shower and groom. Not everyone finds that sweaty smell of testosterone sexy. And, ladies, not everyone loves your post-gym scent either. Body odor is not cool. Shower after the gym, please. And keep cologne and perfume use to a mild minimum! Your date will remember if you smelled like the first floor of Macy’s.

 

Be Real.

First dates aren’t necessarily the time to let everything loose. However, nothing is worse than faking who you are. To really understand if it’s a match, both sides need to give a little. This isn’t the point to let out deep dark truths, but it is the time to let your date know who you are and what you value.

Offer to Pay!

The dating world is equal when it comes to women and men. So, ladies, if you are a more traditional thinker, you might need to step out of your comfort zone. Meaning: always be prepared to split the tab. There are no firm guidelines here, and advice differs. Offer to pay half. If he (or she) objects, fine.

 

Stilettos? Opt for whatever is most comfortable! 

Wear comfortable shoes. Nothing orthopedic, but comfortable. Oh, ladies (or men, too!) super high heels can result in mishaps. And, let’s face it, some days are awkward enough without getting a heel jammed into a sidewalk crack.

Connect or Disconnect?

Bring your cell phone to a first date, as it can provide an easy out. However, don’t text friends, answer calls or check social media sites while on a date. Be considerate of your date and others around you. Snap selfies and pics if the two of you are hitting it off, though

How to Exit Gracefully…

Awkward date? Everyone has a horror story. To get out of a going nowhere meet-up, tell a friend to text you at a certain time to check in. Or take a trip to the bathroom to make a call or drop a text asking for help. Cosmo recommends faking an allergy or pretending to feel sick.

Always remember that first dates hold the potential for future love. This could be the beginning of something remarkable, something amazing. This date could be the beginning of forever. You just never know.

 

Not Stiff but Smart – First Date Style Guide for Men

First dates are always a touch stressful; an occasion where we meticulously think about what to wear. Choosing the right outfit is an easy bonus point on the ‘first impression’ score card, and today, I am going to focus on the male wardrobe.

Let’s take a look at two common mistakes men tend to make when choosing a date outfit. First, you may be under-dressed and second, you may be over-dressed for the occasion..

Here are some tricks and tips on what to wear on your first date. And you don’t even have to break the bank to look and feel good – online clothing sales are always a great go-to.

Grooming comes first

Before thinking about what clothes or style you should rock on your date, decide whether you need a shave, get a haircut, or trim the beard! Make sure you’ve brushed your teeth (+1 for flossing), you’ve trimmed your fingernails and have groomed that facial hair, that sometimes makes you look like a well-traveled backpacker.

Before you head out the door, spray a little of your favorite scent but don’t overuse it! The last thing you want to do is smell like the perfume aisle in a department store.

Dress appropriately for the occasion 

Comfort is everything but I’m not talking sweatpants and sweatshirt. No no. Dressing appropriately, while still being comfortable is key! Women are keen observers; they notice details and the last thing you want her to think is she’s the one making you uncomfortable, even though it’s 100% your tight pants. If you know you’re going to a trendy cocktail bar, start ironing that dress shirt, but if you’re off to a casual bar, jeans and a crisp T are completely acceptable.

Not stiff but smart 

Women love seeing men look sharp but not overly dressed up in that expensive tux. Tux or flashy suits make men look intelligent and classy, but wearing it on the first date may be a touch overwhelming, depending on where it is you’re going of course. Dressing smart but appropriate will go a long way.

Pick a shirt and a nice tailored blazer, and trouser — without the tie,  is perfect.

Let your shirt do the flirting

Listen up gentlemen, button down shirts are sexy. Women find it attractive when men tease them with some skin showing, not too much though!

Be creative and don’t be afraid to play around with textures, prints, and color. Be sure to find a good shirt that will emphasize the tone of your body; it should not be too tight or too loose.

Choosing the right shoes

Now to finish off the outfit with a perfect pair of kicks!

A pair of well-polished leather shoes goes well with you smart casual. Follow the proper dress code in the place where you’ll be having your date.

Expert tip ** Avoid wearing new leather shoes on your first date. It may add unattractive points if you start limping because you have a blister.

If you have it, flaunt it.

This doesn’t mean you should wear a singlet which is barely a shirt I may add, just to show off those muscles. Cover up but always emphasize your favorite physical traits to feel confident, which will inevitably capture your date’s attention.