Exercise has countless benefits, not just for your own health and happiness, but also for your romantic relationships. Yes, cardio exercises are great for the obvious: heart-health, reducing obesity, decreasing stress, etc. What about improving the stability and satisfaction of your relationship? Establishing a running routine with your S.O. might sound like torture–even for seasoned runners–but it can enhance your relationship and ultimately lead to a happier you.
There is something wonderful about meeting someone that you can share and build your life with.
It’s easy to think that just because you feel something strong for your partner that you will always be on the same page.
Unfortunately, healthy and strong relationships are not built on feelings alone and growth within each person is inevitable.
So, what do you do when you grow at separate rates or in different directions? How do you still insure unity within change?
If you are worried that the stress, confusion and conflict in your relationship is caused by certain growing pains, here are 5 ways to tell if you are reading from the same book or writing separate ones altogether:
1: You just don’t seem to have as much in common anymore
You no longer seem to be able to relate to things that you used to connect on before. Whether you or they have changed and grown as a person, this could now mean that different interests have developed. As your character develops and you learn more about yourself, it’s no wonder that who you connect with changes because your own interests, morals, priorities and thought patterns can become totally different.
2: You crave more attention apart then together
When you have more fun away from them, then with them, it’s a good indication that you are drifting apart. Unity takes work and compromise in a relationship, but you should always be craving to be with them, more so than apart. Your partner should be adding to your joy and existence, not hindering you from feeling happy or moving forward.
3: You are starting to resent them for everything
This is because you have become frustrated with who they aren’t, as you have become more who you are. You may find yourself starting to pick at them for small insignificant things, because internally you may be frustrated that they aren’t on the same page as you, or simply because you feel you can no longer connect with them.
4: You feel like you have to explain everything to them
You become increasing frustrated with them, because you are either constantly pulling them up to your level, or having to explain your new thinking and actions towards them. When we develop emotionally and mentally at a different level to our partner, it makes us become less patient with them. We expect them to be on the same page and get annoyed when they aren’t.
5: Indifference has set in, along with a lot emotional space
The opposite to love is not hate; it’s indifference. When you start to feel nothing at all towards your partner, because of the lack of connection, understanding or unity, that’s when you know your relationship is in deep trouble. Wanting space either physically, emotionally or mentally from your partner is a strong indication that you are growing apart in different directions.
So here’s what to do…
Growing at different rates is something more common than we think, that’s why it’s important to date someone from the get-go that you see compatibility with.
When two people start off as one and then slowly drift apart it’s integral that you bring it to light. If you are feeling the void increasing between you both, then you need to have a talk about it.
Avoiding or accommodating for the elephant in the room isn’t going to solve the issue.
This isn’t just about liking the same common interests, but wanting the same things and both being able to adapt to change whilst communicating how you both feel.
Unity is not always built on convenience and common interests, but on choices , sacrifice and awareness of what is causing division.
Going through a breakup has never been easy for anyone, irrespective of whether it was good or bad. However, recovering from a not so bad breakup is much easier as opposed to a bad one. People resort to doing a lot of stuff to get them through such times such as engaging in a sport, reading, writing, and so much more. Trust forms the foundation of any relationship, and when you betray that trust it’s heart breaking. Most people are convinced that they won’t be able to trust again but that isn’t entirely true – you can learn how to!
Writer Kevin Nelson from ElitEssayWriters says that learning to trust again even after a bad breakup is very possible. He believes that love and forgiveness have a way of making things alright. So, how can one learn to trust again after a bad breakup?
Accept Your Situation
The first step to recovering from a personal trauma or addiction is by acknowledging that there is a problem and that a solution is needed. When you go through a breakup, it’s best to face the reality that your relationship is done for and it’s time to move on! This eases the healing process, making you ready for the next chapter of your relationship, including being able to trust again.
Take Some Time
Time is one commodity that plays a big role when it comes to trusting others. You’ll need to take some time off the dating scene to take care of yourself and reflect on your previous relationship to know what went wrong and avoid the same mistakes. Spend time getting to know yourself, on a new hobby or on basically anything to help you get over your experience. They say time heals all wounds including a broken heart, so it will help you heal from your breakup and make it possible to trust again.
Learn To Forgive
Being able to forgive and letting go of that inner pain is something few people can do. Yes, it’s not easy to forgive someone who has hurt you and taken the trust you’d placed on them for granted. However, it’s the key to being happy. As much as you are the one doing the forgiving, realize that forgiveness also helps you move on, only the strong have the heart to forgive.
Not All Relationships are Forever
We all want the relationship we’re in to be the one that lasts forever. It’s not bad to wish for that, but sadly not all last forever. At times we get into a relationship and at the dating stage, we immediately realize that it isn’t working. It’s important to know when it’s time to walk away. Once we accept that not every relationship is for forever, we will be more open to trying out new relationships and trusting again.
Positivity is needed to get through the dark times in life. Being an optimist makes it easy to learn how to trust again. It means having faith that the universe will guide you to happiness. One way is to try out online dating, meet other singles, go to local joints, among other things.
Trust and honesty are needed for any relationship to succeed. After undergoing a bad breakup, we often resign to never placing trust on anyone else ever. This would be committing a grievous mistake! It’s important to learn how to pick yourself up, learn to love and trust again because it’s the only way to be happy. Different people have different ways of coping, what has helped you trust again after a bad breakup?
It’s easy to want to go all out for your S.O.’s birthday, especially if it’s a milestone age, you slacked off last year and need to make up for it or you’re in a new relationship. Just remember, you don’t have to spend hundreds of dollars for people to have a good time. The number one rule to throwing a party on a budget is planning in advance. It sounds cliché, but throwing something together last minute is stressful and you end up not caring what the price tag says.
Summer’s warm temps are perfect for a b-day bash, allowing you to take advantage of outdoor spaces, pools, beaches you name it. Here’s how to throw an epic budget-friendly summer b-day party for your S.O.:
GET CREATIVE FOR FOOD COSTS
Food is expected at a birthday bash and can be a significant cost compared to other expenses. In fact, 60 percent of American’s polled said food is their biggest expense when throwing a summer party. It may seem old school but going pot-luck style can save you money for you S.O.’s big bash.
If you want to make sure your love has all his or her favorite foods to choose from, create a list of items and ask attendees to choose one thing to bring. If you don’t feel comfortable asking others to bring food, buy things in bulk to cut costs and always keep ingredients simple.
Consider something fun and relatively inexpensive like a taco bar, which you could then carry the theme throughout the party. Also choose the time of your party wisely—an afternoon backyard bash or brunch pool party will likely be less expensive than hosting full-on dinner for 40 of your closest friends.
DON’T RENT AN EXPENSIVE SPACE
While renting out VIP tables at a nightclub or dining at the most exclusive new restaurant is great, they come with a huge price tag for you and your guests. Think about places you can meet a large group of people for free, such as breweries or rooftop bars.
Breweries are popping up all over the map and since most don’t operate a kitchen on site, they team up with food trucks for happy hour or dinner. While you don’t have to provide food for everyone, order a handful of appetizers for your party and let everyone indulge! Just be sure you call ahead to get the food truck schedule so your guests aren’t left hungry.
Rooftop bars are also hot right now—what better way to hang with a group of friends and celebrate your S.O. than on top of a roof with beautiful views of your city? Check out the space before hand and make sure there’s enough space and staff to accommodate a large party.
TELL YOUR FRIEND TO BYOB
Don’t be embarrassed to ask your friends to BYOB to your party. Especially if you’re hosting somewhere like a beach or pool, where people will need their own coolers anyway, it makes sense. If you think it’s tacky, you could make your S.O.’s favorite signature cocktail and serve it up to your guests, but don’t think you have to supply alcohol.
Of course you wouldn’t want anyone to go without so be sure to communicate BYOB to everyone in advance. If you decide to purchase alcohol, pick beverages that make sense for the occasion. For example, for an outdoor pool party, you probably won’t want glass beer bottles or a full-liquor bar.
Pro-tip: consider making your own frosé—it can be inexpensive to make large portions, refreshing on a hot day and it’ll surely impress your guests!
Your first romantic getaway is a memorable rite of passage for any relationship, and when the planning begins, forget about the generic hot spots, like Vegas or Cabo. To make it truly unforgettable, choose a destination that neither of you have ever been to—better yet—never even heard of. With fewer tourists around, you’ll be free to enjoy the culture and one another without distraction.
Start your vacation prep with some research on the following unique destinations.
Port Louis, Mauritius
For the: Artisan couple
Referred to as the “Pearl of the Indian Ocean,” this island off the African coast is a multicultural nexus with diverse attractions to keep both you and your sweetheart entertained. The waterfront capital of Port Louis, dating back to 1735, offers all the excitement of a trendy urban center. With outdoor artisan markets, upscale shopping districts, performance venues and exotic scenery, you’ll want to spend the week just taking it all in.
Photo source: Elite-Voyage
For the: Outdoors-y couple
Fringing the outskirts of metro-Phoenix, this western retreat has been described as the “desert version of Miami’s South Beach,” according to The New York Times. Once overshadowed by its more populous neighbor, Phoenix, Scottsdale is now an up-and-coming hotspot in its own right with miles of rugged hiking trails, artistic and cultural exhibits, Sonoran-inspired cuisine and a vibrant nightlife atmosphere.
This is a perfect vacation spot for the adventurous couple that enjoys wild exploration and cosmopolitan energy.
Photo source: Huffington Post
Cape Town, South Africa
For the: Little-bit-of-everything couple
Voted the “world’s best city” in 2016 by readers of Telegraph Travel, this South African capital is a beacon of post-apartheid triumph and revitalization. It’s become a mecca for vacationers of all kinds, from thrill-seekers to history buffs. Top stops include Tabletop Mountain, False Bay, and Cape Wineland.
Don’t stop there, because Cape Town is alive after sunset: “This vibey city doesn’t need much sleep and generally, the party in the city centre areas of Loop, Lang, Bree and Waterkant Streets start an hour or so before midnight,” according to Cape Town: Discover South Africa’s Most Charming City.
Photo Source: Nox Rentals
Steamboat Springs, Colorado
For the: Mountain couple
Steamboat Springs inspires romance around every spruce-lined corner. This lesser-known Rocky Mountain enclave is home to geothermal basins, idyllic white-capped peaks and ski slopes featuring “champagne powder” snow. It’s also the perfect backdrop for long days in the snow and snuggling near the fireplace all night. It’s located three hours north of Denver, and is a less touristy option if you’re interested in popular destinations like Vail or Tahoe.
Photo source: SkyRun Steamboat
For the: Luxurious couple
Known for its 3,324-foot swimming pool, which is among the world’s most expansive manmade lagoons, this South American comuna is a favorite summer playground for Santiago’s urban elite. Whisk your sweetheart to the luxurious San Alfonso del Mar resort, where you can wander hand-in-hand along a poolside promenade flanking the Pacific Ocean. Then cool off with various amenities and excursions, including scuba diving, kayaking, sailing and a waterslide that spans almost 330 feet long. No matter what you do, this luxurious town is sure to impress.
Photo source: Odd Stuff Magazine
Your first vacation as a couple is one you’ll tell friends and family about for years to come. Choose a destination that’s unique and magical, and you’re sure to have plenty of stories to share and memories to look back on.