Love Lessons From Master of None Season 2

[Spoiler warning: This post is literally a giant spoiler.]

The highly-anticipated second season of Aziz Ansari’s hit series Master of None has officially graced Netflix (by now hopefully you have binge-watched), and it’s everything you hoped it would be. Full of tender, highly relatable moments, while exploring some of life’s more complex issues head-on, with no shortage of laughs along the way.

Humor aside, we couldn’t help but notice some of the subtle (and not so subtle) love lessons that have been woven into this season, so we’ve got a cheat sheet for you! See below for the best Love Lessons from Master of None Season 2!

Episode 1 “The Thief”

Lesson: Be Open Minded

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Season 2 opens with Dev in Italy, making new friends and working on his culinary skills (and eating lots of delicious looking pasta). After making himself a reservation at a highly coveted local restaurant for his birthday, he encounters a lovely British woman whose reservation was accidentally botched.

Instead of shrugging it off and going on his merry way, he actually reaches out to the stranger and offers up a seat at his solo table. The two end up sharing a meal and thoroughly enjoying eachother’s company, serving as a great reminder to open ourselves up to new experiences and people (and food) whenever possible, because a great connection can come from the most unexpected circumstances!

Episode 2 “Le Nozzle”

Lesson: Think Before You Speak

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In a particularly cringe worthy scene in Episode 2, Dev and Arnold attend the wedding of Arnold’s ex partner of 11-years, and things go downhill fast. After meeting and disapproving of the groom (he’s a “small version” of Arnold),  Arnold comes a bit unhinged and starts to let everyone know how slighted he feels, in earshot of everyone at the wedding.

Everything gets smoothed over in the end when he realizes they are completely different people and were never meant to end up together, but some damage has already been done to their special day. And with that, a lesson: Think Before You Speak. Or another, Lay Off The Prosecco At Weddings, or even, Probably Don’t Attend Your Exes Wedding?

Episode 4 “First Date”

Lesson: Enjoy The Process

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This entire episode provides an eerily accurate glimpse into the world of modern dating, showing Dev meeting women through an app and embarking on multiple dates with multiple women, often in the same restaurant, bar, and rooftop patio. The process is incredibly unromantic for everyone involved, and each moment is filled with formulaic interview-like questions and conversation. I was exhausted just watching.

The lesson here is that dating should be fun, albeit a bit ridiculous feeling at times. Somehow, when we reach the age when everyone seems to be settling down around us, leaving us behind, dating becomes nothing more than a miserable means to an end, a numbers game.

Episode 7 “Door #3”

Lesson: Be True To Yourself

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In Episode 7, Dev declines a lucrative multi season extension on his hosting gig for Clash of the Cupcakes, a job that doesn’t excite him, but pays the bills. After he breaks the news, he takes the opportunity to pitch another show idea that incorporates two things he’s passionate about, food and travel. The idea is a hit!

Obviously, this is a gamble that happened to pay off big time for Dev, but the underlying message is true in love, and in life’s bigger picture! If you’re stuck in a place you’re not happy with, in your job or in a relationship, often times the only way to create real change is to shake things up and take matters into your own hands!

Episode: 9 “Amarsi Un Po”

Lesson: Don’t Ignore Red Flags

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What starts off as a friendship between Francesca and Dev in Italy transforms into something more when she comes to NYC to visit. Sparks fly, and Francesca, stuck in the trappings of an unfulfilling engagement with her long-term man, embarks on an emotional affair of sorts with Dev, exploring the city, attending fancy parties with John Legend on the piano, and dancing in the twist.

Needless to say, there are some causes for concern here. Francesca is still in a relationship, she’s using Dev as an escape, and everyone seems kind of fine with it? Until Francesca eventually leaves Pino and ends up in Dev’s bed. Will these two force themselves into making this relationship happen? Either way, it doesn’t seem like a great foot to get started on .

What are your most memorable love lessons from Season 2? Let us know below!

Signs Your Single-Self May Be Too Picky

“Why are you still single?” – is a commonly asked question that is essentially a backwards compliment. It implies “Wow, you’re great, why doesn’t anybody want you?”

The most common responses are:

“I just haven’t met anyone I have chemistry with.”

“The one I wanted got away.”

“All the good ones are taken.”

I think the best response would be, “None of your business!” The only person who needs to know the real reason you’re still single is you. But do you know? If you’re frustrated with being single and want to find a lasting relationship you need to honestly admit you may be doing something wrong. It starts with the choices you make.

4 Signs You’re Too Picky

  1. Your physical requirements for a partner are hard to find

Do you require a guy who towers over you, and you’re 5’9? Or require a girl who’s a size 2 and half your age? Maybe it’s someone with blue eyes, a full head of hair, or supermodel looks? If you do find someone who fits the exterior requirements do you ignore all the red flags and put up with bad behavior because you’re so physically attracted?

  1. Your behavioral expectations are non-flexible

Do you have strict rules and expectations for how your lover should treat you? Like needing a lot of attention, communication, affection, or other specific action? I’m not recommending you lower healthy boundaries, but if you can take care of your own needs and go with the flow a little more you’ll get a better response.

  1. You’re pining for a previous love and comparing everyone new to that ex

Don’t allow your past to prevent you from having a great future. If you’re still holding on to hope that the amazing relationship you once shared with an ex is going to come back you’re standing in your own way of happiness, and wasting precious time.

  1. You have a friend you think is amazing but you’re just not attracted to him/her

A lot of my clients tell me they have a friend that would be perfect for them if only they found them attractive. Well, your thoughts create your feelings.

Time passes more quickly as you get older and years can very easily slip away. Ask anyone you know who is over 45 and still single if they wish they had been less picky. Then ask yourself if you would rather be alone for a couple decades or even the rest of your life than share it with your best friend, having fun, creating a family, and loving their slightly less than ideal qualities. I’m not talking about settling, I’m suggesting to change your perception. Think about what causes you to feel positive or negative about everything. So if you think you may not be attracted to this wonderful person in front of you, play around with the idea that you could be. Fantasize about being together and having that chemistry you crave; you can create it.

The passionate first three to six months of any relationship are impossible to recreate on the daily. It’s after that elation ends that true love begins. If you’re tired of the roller coaster of finding that chemistry and losing it, start looking for your best friend.

 

10 Warm Destinations For A Winter Adventure

When the cold and snow start to take a toll on your mood, it’s time to plan a winter adventure. Whether you’re traveling solo or with friends, a vacation is not only a chance to get away, but also a great opportunity to meet new people, including potential love interests.

Here are my top ten warm destinations that will immediately shake off those winter blues!

Boracay, Philippines

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One of the most alluring tropical islands in the Philippines, Boracay is home to sandy white beaches and clear blue water. It’s a great spot for singles as there are many bars and restaurants along the seven-kilometer long island—some that even stay open 24 hours a day.

San Diego, California

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San Diego is filled with active people who are always looking for group adventures. Not to mention the geography is perfect for a warm-weather getaway. San Diego adventures include whale-watching tours, beach volleyball and SUP paddle boarding. If you’re riding solo and single, grab a towel and head to the nearest beach to scope out the surfers!

Crete, Greece

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Crete is the largest of the Greek islands and perhaps the most popular. Mountain villages, seaside bars, nightlife and luxurious resorts make it a unique, culture-rich experience for both couples and singles alike.

Honolulu, Hawaii

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Hawaii is a tropical paradise for winter getaways, and not just for couples. There’s plenty to do solo or with a group of friends, like check out ‘Eat the Street’, a monthly gathering of more than 40 of the island’s best food trucks. Locals are crazy about this “eclectic alternative to the island’s food scene.” Chat, eat and be merry!

Destin, FL

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You may be daydreaming about white sandy beaches and palm trees. Known as the “world’s luckiest fishing village,” Destin is perfect for someone looking to experience paradise, while meeting others who love fishing. Make a reservation with Charter Fishing Destin for deep sea fishing adventure to meet fellow anglers. You never know who may catch your eye!

San Juan, Puerto Rico

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If you’re in the mood to salsa dance until the sun comes up, San Juan, the capital of Puerto Rico is the destination for you. As a single looking to mingle, head straight to the Isla Verde resort strip of San Juan, known for its bars, casinos and nightclubs.

Cape Town, South Africa

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With its Mediterranean-style climate, incredible wildlife and diverse culinary scene, Cape Town is a fabulous escape from reality for adventure-seekers. Sip on guided tasting flights in the Winelands, tag along on an African safari or dine at the best restaurant on the continent, The Tasting Room.

Charleston, SC

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You can’t go wrong with a trip to Charleston, which was named the World’s Best City by Travel + Leisure’s 2016 Reader’s Choice Awards. Its southern charm, award-winning restaurants and trendy nightlife make Charleston an ideal place for singles of any age. You may even find yourself a true southern gentleman!

Rose Hall, Jamaica

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The miles of beaches and irresistible tropical climate make Jamaica a perfect Caribbean getaway to improve your mood. The Iberostar Rose Hall Suites is home to restaurants, a swim-up bar, spa and white sandy beach provide ample opportunities to mix and mingle with other singles.

Costa Rica

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If you’re looking to find a little bit sunshine and friendly people, Costa Rica is known as the ‘Happiest Country on Earth’—and a happy partner makes for a happy life. It’s also a great destination for thrill-seekers, with plenty of adventurous opportunities like zip lining or white water rafting.

 

5 Ways to Enjoy New Year’s Eve as a Singleton

The holidays are known to be a time when couples… well, couple. At this time of year it’s easy to feel down about not having a love to share milestone events with. But can the same be said for New Year’s Eve? As it happens, there are a number of advantages to your single status as the clock counts down to 2017. Here are five of them.

Make it a night to remember with your buddies

You have an incredible group of friends who all migrated to their various corners of the country for Christmas. Now everyone’s returned to the city and still very much in the holiday spirit, gather your nearest and dearest pals and make memories with them. Host a house party and invite people to stay with you to avoid the rush of the taxis. Being the host with the most gives you a purpose on NYE and it’s incredibly satisfying to see your closest friends having a blast in the four walls of your home.

Buy tickets to that wickedly popular club

If you’re in a relationship, you need to compromise with your other half when it comes to the ideal New Year’s Eve. If they want to stay in and you’re geared up for a night on the tiles, one of you will ultimately cave and give in. But if you’re single – now’s the time to have the New Year’s Eve you’re craving! Had your eye on that painfully trendy club? Grab a couple friends, buy your tickets and go all out!

Meet people from all over the world

One of my favourite memories of New Year’s Eve dates back to Sydney, Australia in 2004. (and yes, this does make me feel very old!) There’s something about New Year’s Eve that brings together people from the corners of the globe, and you don’t have to be overseas to experience this. Any major city is a hub of activity on December 31, so head into town and talk to everyone you cross paths with – who knows, maybe there’s a spare room with your name on it in the city you vow to visit in 2017!

Stay up however late you please

If your other half’s an early bird and you’re a night owl, NYE can be a tough one to agree on. One of you is waiting for midnight to strike before their bed beckons; but to you, the night begins at 12:01am! If you don’t have anyone to go home to, you can stay up dancing and laughing with your friends until the sun rises!

Embrace the thrill of the midnight kiss

But I don’t know who I’ll be with when the clock strikes midnight,” I hear you wail…! Fear not, my single compadre – the thrill of the midnight kiss is the best part of being single on New Year’s! If you’re out at the wickedly popular club and you’re meeting people from all over the world, you’re already well on your way. Just be sure you’re conveniently locked in conversation with that cute Italian as the minutes fall through the hourglass on this year, and that coveted midnight smooch is yours for the taking.

Now if you don’t mind, I’m off to brush up on my lyrics to Auld Lang Syne…!

8 Dating Stigmas We Must Break

It’s time to talk about all those rules and negative stigmas attached to dating. Times have changed and thanks to education, raising standards and a whole lot of self-love, we are able to call out the following:

1: Men should make the first move

Depending on what type of personality you have and how much confidence you possess, don’t be afraid to be the one to ask first. Men love a confident woman and making the first move doesn’t signify that you are over keen or over bearing, it just shows that you can take initiative. Whilst you may be more of a traditionalist, make sure you aren’t making the man do all of the work.

2: Chemistry = compatibility

When mutual spark fly, it’s easy to think that your new-found crush is everything you have been waiting for. But don’t let all those butterflies and hormones stop you from seeing their true character and intentions. Often, we think that if there isn’t an instant connection then they mustn’t be the one for us. While this is commonly true, don’t put your suitors into a box based just off your initial emotions.

3: Calling makes you look desperate

If you call a man, it shows you have courage and good communication skills. Now there is a big difference to ringing them on occasion as opposed to bombarding their phone. But in general, let’s not stereotype ourselves and break the mold that it is completely normal to ring a guy, even if he hasn’t rung you first. Heck, take him by surprise!

4: Men should always pay

While I do think the man should pay for the first date, I think the woman should always offer. A relationship is a two-way street where both people involved should be putting in equal effort. There is nothing emasculating about paying for your man’s date, and likewise there is nothing patronizing about having the man pay for yours!

5: Playing hard to get makes them want you more

Game playing will never get you anywhere. Keep some mystery about yourself and guard your heart, but don’t start pretending to do and not do things just to keep him on your tail. In any relationship, it’s important to have a bit of chase and the best way to do this is to not live in each other’s pockets and make sure you have a life and purpose outside of each other.

6: Online dating is only for the desperate

Wrong! Online dating is a great way to create opportunities to meet people who are looking for a relationship like you. Where else can you do that except maybe dating events? Online dating is perfect for anyone who is time poor, lacks confidence or perhaps just wants to narrow down their options before choosing to go on a date. It’s also no longer taboo!

7: Dating is hard work

Relationships require hard work to keep them strong, but dating should always be fun! As soon as it becomes too much of an effort, it’s time to take a break.  Sure, we would all like the love of our life to magically appear in our living room, but that’s not going to happen. You need to put in effort, but it should never be a chore.

8:  If they pay, it means you owe them something

No, this is not true at all. If someone is wanting to pay for your date (whether you have offered to or not), this does not mean you are indebted to them. True courtship is about making the person you are with feeling valued, safe and special. It isn’t about self-gain or keeping tabs. Don’t be fooled into thinking you have to give or do something you don’t want to just because your date has settled the bill.

 

My Favorite Things About Being Single

To all you ladies and gents feeling completely disheartened by your single status and wondering ‘why Mr/Ms. Right hasn’t come along yet’, let’s reflect on the best things about being single right now.

1. You don’t have to cook for anyone…like ever

If you want to order Pho, make soft boiled eggs, or have crackers for dinner, you can! Dinner is as informal as you’d like it to be, because the only stomach you need to feed is your own. I personally am no chef, which pairs nicely with my single status and perhaps yours as well.

2. The bed is all yours

My cat is the size of a small man, so this doesn’t apply to me; but for the rest of you, without fur babies, the whole bed is ‘your side’. How great is that!

3. You always have leftovers

#1 problem for couples: You’re just about to fill up Tupperware with the most delicious braised honey garlic chicken thighs, only to find your SO has devoured all the leftovers. I am DEVASTATED for you! When you’re single, this is never a problem. The cauldron of chili, you’re living off for the week, is still in the fridge when you get home. You didn’t even have to put a note with your name on it. Score!

4. The mess is your mess

I’ve been lucky in that I’ve dated really tidy men; however, I know some people haven’t been as fortunate. The beauty of being single and living on your own, is that the mess is only yours and if dishes are in the sink, they can stay there till the morning.

5. No shavings or makeup in the bathroom

The bathroom is finally yours! Single men, you can leave your shavings in the sink (If you do eventually want to date again, I advise you work on this) and single ladies, experience the freedom of spreading your makeup all over the vanity.

6. Toilet seat is always down

If you are female, I know you’ve felt the absolute horror of falling too far into the toilet, after your boyfriend left the seat up. Now you can rest easy, because that seat ain’t going anywhere but down. Single men, this point doesn’t really apply to you 😉 …as you were. 

7. Spend as you wish

You can treat yourself now and not feel bad about it because the money you make, is all yours! “That’s a lovely bouquet of fresh flowers…and yes I will buy them.” 

8. Alone time is actually great

If I want to lay in bed on Saturday till 1pm looking at #foodismylife on Instagram or creep Gigi Hadid for an hour, I can do it with no one asking why (true story). Maybe some call this a waste of time, but when you’re single, you can do whatever you want

 

Enjoy it while you still can!

 

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Finding The Joy in Alone Time

As the old saying goes “you don’t watch water boil” so why would you apply that same knowledge to dating? We all have that one friend who is a little too obsessed with finding a guy. You know the one; the friend, who only goes out if there is confirmed male attendance, or the girl who ditches lady’s night to meet up with the guy she is ‘kind of sort of seeing’.

We ALL know that friend, but does she ever really get the quality guy?

By appearing too eager, you may be putting a sign on you back that says “DATE ME”, which we all know, does the exact opposite of attracting Mr. Right.

When you think about the type of guy you want, is he:

A. The outgoing party guy who’s looking for a good time every night, but has nothing beyond one liners?

OR

B. The guy who has hobbies, interests and a life outside the party?

If you chose the later, why would Mr.Right be looking for anything less than quality in a partner?

Now think about your other friend; the woman who never seems to date but always lands a catch. The women who met the most amazing guy while shopping at the local farmer’s market, walking home from the gym or reading a book at her favorite coffee shop. How does she do it!?

Women like your friend here, have found happiness in alone time and rock it. In case you didn’t know – guys dig an independent woman, it’s enticing to see a lady who can hold her own. When you’re genuinely happy doing your own thing, people can see that through your demeanor, it literally radiates from you. This trait is magnetic.

When was the last time you actually enjoyed your time spent alone?

Think about your hobbies,  and things you’d like to do, or maybe challenge yourself to try something entirely new. Here are a couple ideas to start you off!

Check out your local bookstore

Hit up Chapters, used bookstores or even the corner cafe with your new read and enjoy that extra whip latte. Whether you’re looking to read the New York Times Bestseller before the movie comes out or you love a good mystery, find the book that speaks to you and take some serious me-time to enjoy it.

Try that new boxing class

Gym bunnies: try that kickass boxing gym down the street and learn how to land a knockout punch. What could be better than learning how to kick butt while releasing a ton of feel good endorphins?

Best friends are fur friends

Is your dog your bff? Hit up your local dog park and show everyone why your dog is the best. Not only are you getting some quality pet time in, you’re also in a place to meet guys that are also dog lovers. Who knows, your dog might even “accidentally” run over to the cute guy at the park.

Sign up for a cooking class

Check out what local places offer cooking classes. By arriving solo it leaves you open to being partnered up with someone new. Going alone to a new place can be daunting at first, but let’s be honest, chatting with someone you don’t know yet is a whole lot better when food is involved.

Treat yo’ self

Set aside a night to pamper yourself and really just enjoy having some quality time alone. Pick up your favorite drink or take-out and binge watch all those movies and documentaries that you FINALLY have the time to watch. Take that bubble bath that you keep saying you’ll have, but can never get around to doing. The night is all about you, so enjoy it.

Whatever your thing is, do it and own it. Besides, who knows who you might meet when you’re doing what you love.

Bon Appétit!

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Single and Frustrated? Read this!

Pretty much every single girl, no matter how confident and fabulous, will reach a point of frustration in her dating career. A point of wondering, if she’ll ever find the right guy for her, and if he even still exists. Maybe all the guys she dates are weirdo’s, maybe she only goes for guys who don’t want her back…and, is inexplicably put off, by the ones who fall at her feet.

No matter what the scenario, it can be pretty tough to stay positive, and not give into that underlying fear that maybe, there’s no one…maybe you’ll end up alone…maybe all the good guys really are taken.

Take a deep breath and stop worrying! Many women have had these fears and made it out on the other side in relationships or happily married, including myself!

Here are a few important things to remember if you are single and frustrated:

  1. There is a lid for every pot

Seriously, there is. Pretty much everyone finds their person, their “lobster.” You’ve probably dated some serious nut-jobs, for lack of a better adjective. The guys who you went out with and wondered, “who in the world would get into a relationship with that creep?” Then maybe one day you find out, that said creep, is now happily married! You may scratch your head and wonder how, but that’s not for you to figure out. The takeaway, is there is a lid for every pot!

For some, finding that lid is easy and may happen early in life. For others, it may take a touch longer. There are years of bad dates, of hope followed by rejected and renewed hope, and just when you’ve had enough…something clicks! The lid fits perfectly into place.

  1. You can’t win them all

Probably the hardest and most frustrating aspect of dating is meeting a great guy, who has everything you want; a guy who you genuinely enjoy spending time with…and he doesn’t feel the same.

You take it personally, and think this means something about you. You wonder what you did wrong, why you weren’t “good enough.” It’s hard and it’s painful to digest, but it’s not personal. You simply can’t win them all and that is OK.

Sometimes, you’re simply not compatible. Try not to get deterred or jaded, just accept that he isn’t the right person for you and move on!

  1. A relationship won’t cure you

If you’re single and frustrated, recognize that being in a relationship, won’t cure any deep rooted issues.

It’s a common trap to think everything will be OK, as soon as you find the right guy, but that is rarely the case. Whatever emotional weight you’re carrying, will just spill into the relationship, and instead of being personal problems, they will become relationship issues.

Take time to really work on yourself and get to a strong and confident place before you jump into a healthy relationship.

  1. No relationship is better than a bad relationship

You cannot shove a square peg into a round hole. You can’t force someone to be what you want them to be. You can’t carry the team in a relationship and do all the work.

Many women make the mistake of sticking it out with a guy, trying to force a bad relationship into a good one, simply because they don’t want to be thrown back into the dating waters. They plug away for months, maybe years, forcing it to work. And in the end, they are usually left with a broken heart and wasted time they can never reclaim.

Being single and happy is much better than in a relationship and miserable. Don’t let your fears of being single for life, keep you trapped in a toxic relationship. This never ends well.

  1. Be positive

More than anything, it’s important to stay positive, as trite as this may sound. Take control of your thoughts. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself that you’re single, embrace it and enjoy this “me” time!

Men desire a positive woman. When you ruminate on negative thoughts, you project negativity. You may have a smile on your face, but the negativity will still surface through body language and attitude. Make an effort not to get down on yourself.

He’s out there and when the time is right, you’ll find each other!

Best and Worst Halloween Costumes For Singles

Halloween is fast approaching and you’re ripping apart your closet to rustle up anything that can be converted into a somewhat recognizable costume. Your friends are doing couples costumes with their significant others and you are rolling to the party solo this year. Fret no more! As the resident dating expert at PlentyOfFish I can guide you to scoring the ultimate Halloween costume with this year’s best and worst costumes for singles.

Worst

Cecil the Lion

You may think this will spark up a conversation, it will, but not the right kind. This controversial topic is a sore spot for most people so it’s best to avoid it altogether. RIP Cecil!

The Donald

Don’t hide behind the mask of Donald Trump. This costume is sure to make more than one appearance at the party and you don’t want to be one in a crowd.

Dad Bod

There is a good reason for the name behind Dad bod. This costume is more likely to repel the ladies than draw them in.

Best

Mad Max & Imperator Furiosa (from Mad Max)

This costume is my number one choice because it’s quick, easy and you can probably find most costume pieces in your own wardrobe. If you have an old sheet laying around, rip it up, make it dirty and you are well on your way to Fury Road.

Third Wheel

I love this costume idea because it is clever and immediately tells everyone you are single and looking. Simply dress in black, and carry a bike wheel. You can stand next to a couple or photo bomb those group shots. People will be curious to know who the third wheel is.

Captain America & Wonder Woman

Any type of superhero can be a great costume for all singles. It is powerful, sexy and highlights the most appealing assets of the male and female body. In past surveys taken by our PlentyOfFish members, 35% of women stated the most attractive male costume is Captain America.