Surviving the Holidays as a Fabulous Singleton

There are certain times of the year when there is more of a focus on whether you’re in a relationship or not. If we can put aside the dreaded Valentine’s day for now, then Christmas has got to be top of the list.

An endless stream of romantic comedies fills the TV schedule, and all of them seem to end with a happily-ever-after-beginning kiss, timed perfectly with the arrival of much-loved snow.

Back in reality, a lot of us are watching the credits roll from our singly occupied bed, wondering why we still haven’t had that perfect movie finish.

The other major influence that brings singleton shame during the holidays, is family. Never-before seen Great Aunts appear as if from nowhere, to question you about the intimate details of your dating life, and inquire about marriage and kids.

As a season known for its vastly available liquor and food, it’s tempting to try to drown the sorrows. However, there is an alternative.

This holiday season, it’s time to embrace and love your single status.

Embrace Your Singleton Status

Unless you’re in a relationship already, it’s highly improbable that you’ll be paired up and madly in love by the time Santa comes a ’jingling. Life just ain’t like the movies, kid.

The worst thing you can do for your love life -and your self-esteem- is go on a mad dash to find ‘the one’ between now and Christmas. The second worst thing you can do is sit around feeling sorry for yourself and lamenting all over everyone else’s joy.

It’s time to pull up your Christmas Stockings, and accept that this holiday season your sleigh will be flying solo.

Don’t Let Them Needle You

No, this isn’t referring to the Christmas tree, but to the (probably) well-meaning others that will be asking more questions than a quiz show host.  Prepare a stock answer before the holiday parties begin, so that you’re prepared. Keep it short and simple, and have a question ready to ask back to move the conversation along. Remember, there’s no shame in being single, no matter what your second-cousin twice removed thinks.

Change the Channel, Flip the Script

You’re the lead in your own Christmas movie and right now it’s not looking like a romance, so it’s time to change your expectations and switch to a different genre. Go ‘action adventure’ and pack and your holiday schedule full of new and exciting activities that won’t require a co-star, like snow sports or sledding.

Maybe you’re feeling more of a ‘Hangover’ vibe and want to get in some quality time with quality people. Find your glitziest outfit, half-drown yourself in glitter and take to the town to make this Christmas the ‘merriest’ one yet.

Whatever way your holiday movie goes, make it a blockbuster.

Want to be the lead in your own romantic movie? Visit dating advice expert Michael Valmont

Getting Out When You’re Snowed In – Date Ideas For The Winter Weather

When the weather is nice, it’s easy to come up with fun date ideas. From picnics in the park to a long walk or even a baseball game under the stars, the possibilities seem endless. Taking a romantic stroll is a bit less appealing when the weather is below freezing, but that doesn’t mean you have to shut yourself indoors until spring comes. This winter, don’t let a little snow stop you from meeting people and exploring your city.

Here are some date night ideas that won’t leave you out in the cold.

  1. Catch a game. It may be too chilly for an outdoor stadium, but you can cheer on your favorite team in the comfort of a heated arena all year round. Hockey and basketball are both winter sports, and NHL and NBA games are exciting, fastpaced and a great way to spend a chilly evening. You’ll have plenty of time to get to know each other and learn all about your date’s favorite concession stand treats.
  2. Visit a museum. Be a tourist in your own hometown and spend a couple of hours wandering through a museum with your date. Learn about history, art and science together, while also discovering shared interests. Exhibits are always changing, so don’t be afraid to check out a museum again if you haven’t been in a while.
  3. Warm up with some tunes. When the temperatures dip, head out to see some live music. Whether it’s a basement jazz club or a concert hall with thousands of seats, music is a great way to get out and experience something new with a date. Pair the concert with a drink or dessert afterward to reflect on the show and have some uninterrupted conversation.
  4. Embrace the cold. Is your date the adventurous sort, unafraid of a challenge? Bundle up and get outside no matter the temperatures. Challenge each other to a snowman-making contest, and ask a stranger to vote on the best one. Loser buys the first round of hot chocolates afterward. If you’re going to a venue or event in the city, check to see if you can take public transportation to and from your destination. It’s affordable and easy, and a great alternative to driving in wintry weather.

This winter, enjoy all the activities the colder weather has to offer. Amazing performances, cozy coffee shops and cultural attractions are the perfect setting for a successful date. Get creative and remember that meeting people, having fun and making memories are not solely summertime sports.

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9 Early Signs You Could Be Dating the Wrong Person For You

Love isn’t meant to be complicated or painful. It shouldn’t take an extreme habit or behaviour for anyone to realize that they are either ill matched or in a toxic relationship.

Whilst some people can change over time due to circumstances or unaccounted for baggage, there are almost always sure signs to tell if someone is right for you.

Dating successfully is about being able to identify the difference between someone who will add value to your life and someone who will hold you back.

No one wants to invest time and energy into someone who is going to let them down, so here are 9 red flags to look for early on:

Communication is lacking

Are you sending novel texts and they’re giving one word answers? Yikes. Are they taking their sweet time between responses and very rarely initiate the conversation? If someone can’t put in the effort required to communicate from the beginning, they already don’t value you. 

They are critical of your every move 

Either they pull you apart or always seem to put you down. Even if it’s only a joke, someone you are dating should be lifting you up right from the get-go. If the person you’re dating comments negatively on your physical appearance or can’t be proud of your successes and accomplishments, you MUST let them go. You deserve so much better than this. 

Levels of respect don’t match

With a relationship comes respect for one another, whether that be their space, time or boundaries. Lack of respect for another human being is a huge insult. Where there is little respect, there is immediately a lack of trust or growth in a relationship. Don’t let someone else determine your worth, especially if they can’t even see their own.

It’s not easy 

If you are feeling anxious, confused, or like you’re trying too hard to make it work early on, chances are this isn’t the one for you. Being fabulously single and taking your time to find the right one will be worth it in the end. When you find them, your first thought should be “well this is refreshing and effortless!” 

Sex is brought up…alot

Sex is a great thing, but if you notice your date brings it up really early on and frequently, chances are their mind is on one thing and one thing only. Perhaps they are looking for a friends with benefits vs. a long term commitment. 

Their plans always change

You have a date scheduled for Thursday, but they text you that something has come up last minute (zero details included of course.) This could be because they are making you an option instead of a priority. Another option beat you out and they chose to take it. 

 You can’t trust them

They’re inconsistent – their words do not match their actions or vise versa. Or maybe you have a gut feeling that just won’t go away; trust is integral to a relationship, even in the beginning so don’t ignore the signs and the power of intuition. 

They have a wandering eye

Cheating starts in the mind and heart before it even becomes physical. If you don’t feel like the only man or woman in the room when you are with them, then it could be an indication that they aren’t wanting to full commit. 

They won’t delete their dating profile

HUGE red flag! If they still want to have an active profile online, it’s because they aren’t willing to commit and want to keep their options open. Even if they say they aren’t ‘active’ on it, it warrants the question as to why then do they feel it necessary to still have it at all?

Hook Ups, Crashers and Boozers – What Really Goes Down At Weddings

Wedding season is in full swing and you have 5 + pending invites to your family member’s, friend’s and co-worker’s weddings, but you’re not entirely sure you want to sit through another huge reminder that you are still single.

Always a bridesmaid, never a bride. Am I right or am I right! Hold back those tears for another day, because Plenty of Fish has great news for all you single wedding attendees!

In a survey of over 3000 Plenty of Fish users from the U.S. (ages 21-65), 44 percent of singles identified weddings as a great place to hook up! The reason being, (51.8 percent) said because it’s so easy to start a conversation at a wedding.

Not sure how to approach that attractive groomsmen/bridesmaid? Try these easy ice breakers:

‘Hey, I’m Kate – friends of the bride! How do you know the lovely couple?’ 

‘I’m so sorry I forgot your name but I know I’ve met you before through [insert grooms/bridsmaid name]!’ 

‘How funny was that speech by [insert name], it had me cry-laughing. I don’t think we’ve met yet, I’m Kate!’ 

If you’re looking for more than just a one night hook up, it looks like you may be in luck! Plenty of Fish also found that 16 percent of singles that met someone at a wedding, actually went on to have a relationship with the person they met.

Ladies, don’t be afraid to make the first move; apparently 40.7 percent of male survey respondents said they were propositioned by a woman first!

The drinks are flowing, love is in the air, we can’t think of a better spot for singles to mingle!

If you’re wondering what else to expect at your next wedding? Take a look at what else singles reported experiencing while celebrating a union:

  • 44 percent have sat through a cringe-worthy speech
  • 41 percent have had too much to drink
  • 20 percent have hooked up with someone in the wedding party
  • 10 percent have crashed a wedding

There you have it, solid proof that you should strike up conversation with that wedding guest who caught your eye! You never know where it may lead!

Love Lessons From Master of None Season 2

[Spoiler warning: This post is literally a giant spoiler.]

The highly-anticipated second season of Aziz Ansari’s hit series Master of None has officially graced Netflix (by now hopefully you have binge-watched), and it’s everything you hoped it would be. Full of tender, highly relatable moments, while exploring some of life’s more complex issues head-on, with no shortage of laughs along the way.

Humor aside, we couldn’t help but notice some of the subtle (and not so subtle) love lessons that have been woven into this season, so we’ve got a cheat sheet for you! See below for the best Love Lessons from Master of None Season 2!

Episode 1 “The Thief”

Lesson: Be Open Minded

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Season 2 opens with Dev in Italy, making new friends and working on his culinary skills (and eating lots of delicious looking pasta). After making himself a reservation at a highly coveted local restaurant for his birthday, he encounters a lovely British woman whose reservation was accidentally botched.

Instead of shrugging it off and going on his merry way, he actually reaches out to the stranger and offers up a seat at his solo table. The two end up sharing a meal and thoroughly enjoying eachother’s company, serving as a great reminder to open ourselves up to new experiences and people (and food) whenever possible, because a great connection can come from the most unexpected circumstances!

Episode 2 “Le Nozzle”

Lesson: Think Before You Speak

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In a particularly cringe worthy scene in Episode 2, Dev and Arnold attend the wedding of Arnold’s ex partner of 11-years, and things go downhill fast. After meeting and disapproving of the groom (he’s a “small version” of Arnold),  Arnold comes a bit unhinged and starts to let everyone know how slighted he feels, in earshot of everyone at the wedding.

Everything gets smoothed over in the end when he realizes they are completely different people and were never meant to end up together, but some damage has already been done to their special day. And with that, a lesson: Think Before You Speak. Or another, Lay Off The Prosecco At Weddings, or even, Probably Don’t Attend Your Exes Wedding?

Episode 4 “First Date”

Lesson: Enjoy The Process

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This entire episode provides an eerily accurate glimpse into the world of modern dating, showing Dev meeting women through an app and embarking on multiple dates with multiple women, often in the same restaurant, bar, and rooftop patio. The process is incredibly unromantic for everyone involved, and each moment is filled with formulaic interview-like questions and conversation. I was exhausted just watching.

The lesson here is that dating should be fun, albeit a bit ridiculous feeling at times. Somehow, when we reach the age when everyone seems to be settling down around us, leaving us behind, dating becomes nothing more than a miserable means to an end, a numbers game.

Episode 7 “Door #3”

Lesson: Be True To Yourself

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In Episode 7, Dev declines a lucrative multi season extension on his hosting gig for Clash of the Cupcakes, a job that doesn’t excite him, but pays the bills. After he breaks the news, he takes the opportunity to pitch another show idea that incorporates two things he’s passionate about, food and travel. The idea is a hit!

Obviously, this is a gamble that happened to pay off big time for Dev, but the underlying message is true in love, and in life’s bigger picture! If you’re stuck in a place you’re not happy with, in your job or in a relationship, often times the only way to create real change is to shake things up and take matters into your own hands!

Episode: 9 “Amarsi Un Po”

Lesson: Don’t Ignore Red Flags

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What starts off as a friendship between Francesca and Dev in Italy transforms into something more when she comes to NYC to visit. Sparks fly, and Francesca, stuck in the trappings of an unfulfilling engagement with her long-term man, embarks on an emotional affair of sorts with Dev, exploring the city, attending fancy parties with John Legend on the piano, and dancing in the twist.

Needless to say, there are some causes for concern here. Francesca is still in a relationship, she’s using Dev as an escape, and everyone seems kind of fine with it? Until Francesca eventually leaves Pino and ends up in Dev’s bed. Will these two force themselves into making this relationship happen? Either way, it doesn’t seem like a great foot to get started on .

What are your most memorable love lessons from Season 2? Let us know below!