You would think with the fact that we post our lives publicly for the world to see, that there would be more transparency. Unfortunately having access to multiple social media accounts permits more avenues and loop holes that can lead to temptation.
To say that social media has changed the world would be a colossal understatement. It has changed how we connect with one another, how we learn about current events, and even how we celebrate major milestones in our lives. So when the love of your life finally pops the question, it feels only natural to want to head online and spread the word.
However, engagements and weddings are a very special time – for both the couple and their families. Because of this, there are a few guidelines you should follow to make sure your engagement includes everyone and still gets tons of “likes:”
Take a Moment to Be in the Moment. This is, without question, the most important thing to remember on the day you get engaged. Make sure you take some time to be really present: remember the setting, what you both were wearing, the way he or she popped the question, and how you felt when you said ‘YES’. After all, it is an important day – the day you’ll share with friends, family, and maybe even kids and grand-kids in retellings over the years.
Tell Family and Close Friends First. I know it may seem convenient to post an engagement selfie and let everyone you know find out about it when they check their feeds. But remember what we said earlier? Engagements are about your families, too. Before you make any announcement on social media, make sure that the most important people in your life (family or even close friends) hear it from you.
Post a Pic of You Both (and That Ring)! Once you’ve celebrated with your future spouse, met with or called all the important people in your lives, and had time to soak in all the love and excitement in the air, you’re ready to make your engagement announcement. Share a loving photo of you and your fiance or a gorgeous ring selfie that shows off your new jewelry – and get ready for all the likes!
Make it All About Your Ring. Your engagement ring may be the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen, but that doesn’t mean you need to flaunt it too much. Sharing information like the ring’s carat size or cost can come across as…well, tacky. Also, you may open the doors to comparison from your social media friends, and that can lead to dissatisfaction with your own ring, proposal, and even relationship. Best to steer clear of all that.
Share All The Wedding Planning Details. When you get engaged, it’s natural to let your excitement overflow into productivity. You’re ready for your dream wedding and you want to start planning now! But here’s the reality: the average length of an engagement is 14.5 months, and if you start sharing every detail now, your guests will be burnt out by your special day. Sure, you can share big moments, like the day you pick a date or find your perfect dress, but for the most part keep your plans off the Internet.
Let Social Media Overtake Your Engagement. The 14 months that you spend engaged are a unique time in a person’s life. You spend time planning – for a big party, yes, but also for a lifetime as part of a married couple. It is a special time, filled with love and advice and well-wishes from all kinds of people, both in person and online. It is easy to get swept up in it all, to browse Pinterest and read wedding blogs and thank every cousin that wishes congratulations.
But whatever you do, make sure you take time to unplug and spend a few “IRL” moments just being happy with the love of your life. At the end of your special day, the two of you are what it’s all about.
Social media is a huge part of our daily lives. Even if you aren’t a massive fan, chances are the people you date will probably be using it frequently. With millions of people being active multiple times a day over several different platforms, we have to expect a few negative impacts.
It’s not to say that you should boycott social media, but here are some good ground rules to keep in mind when mixing it with your love life:
Keep your relationship private, but don’t hide it
When you change your relationship status from being single to declaring you are committed to someone, this is a huge step. You are letting the people in your world know that you are taking the next step. It doesn’t mean that you need to divulge every single detail, fight or gooey bit along the way. Keeping the details of your relationship private means there is less room for unwanted opinions. There is a huge difference though in hiding the fact you are with someone altogether. Even if you are a private person, secrecy should never come into play in any stage of a loving relationship.
Don’t air your dirty laundry online
We all have fights and sometimes people let us down. This doesn’t mean you have the right to openly bully or slander someone online. The less drama you show about your relationship, the less unwanted attention and comments you will get. No one is perfect, so try to work things out behind the scenes rather than post it all over your status feed.
Know when to switch off from it…literally
It’s so easy to waste our time staring at our phones or computers. Social media is a huge way in which we communicate and interact with the world. Try to set some rules when it comes to turning off your devices and choosing to spend quality time with each other instead.
Not everything you see is as it seems
So often we get caught up in the “filtered” life of what we see on social media. This causes us to think that the grass is greener on someone else’s profile. Comparison is a joy thief, and what you see isn’t necessarily a true representation of what that person’s life and relationship is like.
Learn to cultivate respect when using it
What I mean by this, is that you need to be aware of what temptations may be out there. It’s easy to chat to a good-looking stranger or harmlessly like a sexy picture, but you need to stop and ask yourself is it respectful to the person you are dating? Social media is also an easy way to get in contact with the past, and let’s just say that some people are better off left in the past. Be conscious of what your actions are and who you are inviting into your private world.