A POF Love Story from Jane & Andy

Jane: Andy messaged me first “Hi how are you? My name is Andy been single a while now. I’ve got 3 children, all independent. Time for me now!! It would be great to hear from you x

Andy: Our very first conversation was about the dates we had been on and the lessons we had learned. We decided to meet at the Red Lion Pub for our very first date.

Jane: It wasn’t until date two that I saw there was a lot more to Andy than met the eye which turned out to be true and  on date three, we had been to see the show Motown and happened to get lost in the rain. We laughed a lot. We both chatted about what we loved, including a mutual love of Greek food and low and behold, we looked up and we happened to be standing outside a Greek restaurant!

Andy: It was at the Motown show where I knew Jane was the one. I spent more time watching her than the show!

Jane: After the show we decided to go for a stroll. Andy told me more about his life and how unhappy he had been until he made some big changes and so far hadn’t looked back. His story confirmed what I already knew, that he was an absolute hidden gem.

I knew that night I would marry him.

The day after Motown we booked a trip to Spain together and it was the best thing we could have done as we got on magically on that vacation.

It’s Andy’s calmness and steadiness which compliments my impulsiveness and impatience perfectly. We just naturally bring out the best in each other. We have the most brilliant chemistry and became really good mates very quickly which was really important for both of us.

Andy: Jane makes me think about myself and is helping me to become a better person without forcing anything. She has an infectious personality and I absolutely love her positive attitude about everything.

Jane: I love it that Andy is so kind, calm and makes me feel so secure. He’s a lot of fun and is the most loving, caring and genuine man I have ever met. He really has no idea how lovely he truly is.

Congrats Jane + Andy! These two will be tying the knot December 2018.

How Did You Know Your Partner Was The One? From The Plenty of Fish Team

Leading up to Valentine’s Day, we asked our fellow Plenty of Fish employees,

“When did you know your significant other was the one?”

Today, we are so happy to share their beautiful, funny and heart warming responses with all of you!


Love Lessons from A Plenty of Fish Success Couple

There is no better way to start the month of LOVE than with one of our favorite Plenty of Fish success stories. The story of Alicia and Timothy will not only make you tear up, it will provide you with helpful tips on how to find “the one” online.

Alicia and Timothy emphasize the importance of:

1. Filling out your dating profile wholeheartedly to reflect your hobbies/interests 

2. First impressions and first messages 

3. Patience and honest communication

Timothy: I had seen Alicia’s profile and I couldn’t write her due to her preferred mail settings, so I just prayed she would look at my profile and write me. My prayers were answered. I was shocked she messaged me! I felt bad because I had just started my 2 hour commute back home, so I wasn’t able to reply until I got home.

Alicia: In my settings on my profile I had selected “only upgraded users can message me” because I loved having the freedom to message who I really wanted to. So I had to message Timothy first. I wrote a short message just saying “hello, I love your profile.”

I saw he read the message but after about a half hour, I didn’t hear back so I thought he wasn’t interested and it made me a little sad.

Timothy: Since it was so long since Alicia had messaged me, I made sure that I read her message and her profile very carefully. Since it took me so long to even read the message, I made sure to make my first impression count.

I took one subject from each of her sections that stood out to me or that I could relate to. As I kept reading, I saw the woman of my dreams.

A woman that likes to fish but hates to eat seafood, a gamer, and has a beautiful singing voice. Match made in heaven.

Alicia: 30-40 minutes after I had sent my message to Timothy, I received a notification that he wrote me back! My heart skipped a beat.

I opened the message and he had written the longest message I had ever seen! I knew at that very moment he was interested in getting to know me. He took his time to read my whole profile and asked questions. I was in complete shock that he invested that much time in his first message to me.

Our first conversation was about every single thing on my profile and his! We just clicked right away! It was like a key fitting in its own key hole. We haven’t stopped talking from that moment on.

The First Date

Timothy: Our first date; that day started out in a rush and a total wreck, literally. I got into a car accident that morning before work and I had to take the day off. I was not going to it stop me from having the best date I had ever been on. A date filled with talking, bowling, and enjoying our time together resulting in an amazing day.

Alicia: I have full custody of my two kiddos so the person had to be 100% worth it for me to pay for a sitter to go on a date. I knew Timothy was worth it. We didn’t bowl much, we mainly just sat talking for hours on end….everything was so natural and exciting!

I knew they were the one

Timothy: I knew Alicia was the one the first time I read her profile.

Alicia: I knew he was the one for me when he told me to take my time and he would be patient and wait for me to open up. I was in an abusive marriage before so I had very high, large, solid walls up and could never let anyone in. He was the only one who was able to get through my walls to my heart and that, in itself, is a huge thing for me. I was falling in love without trying and it was scary but exciting.

What I Love Most

Timothy: Even until this very day, she still shows me how much she loves me and that she loves me for who I am. I am perfect the way I am, even if we disagree, that is okay. We will work it out and continue to accept each other for the perfect people we are for each other.

Alicia: I love his passionate, loving, caring, and giving heart. I love his optimism and how genuine he is. His loyalty and how he is the most amazing father. I love how he loves my children from my marriage as his own. He knows how to genuinely apologize and not make the same mistakes. We have not had a single argument. We have disagreed but we just talk it out and compromise.

I feel beyond blessed every single day that we crossed paths, thanks to POF!


Step Aside Ghosting, There Are Some New Dating Trends in Town for 2018

Over the last two years, most of us have become all too familiar with the dating trend, Ghosting – when someone you’ve been dating suddenly ceases all communication without an explanation, leaving you completely in the dark and asking yourself, “what happened?”

What will be the trends to look out for in 2018?! Well we have the answer for you.

Here are the latest dating trends predicted by 2,000 Plenty of Fish users:

Flexting (/fle-ks-t-ing/): Digital boasting to impress a date before meeting IRL.

Put up your hand if you’ve experienced the digital cousin of flexing in modern dating. Well you’re not alone; 47 percent of singles have experienced the infamous “Flexter,” who sends multiple texts about just how awesome they are in order to impress you. The majority of ladies (63%) say they have been contacted by Flexter versus only 38% of men.

Cricketing (/krik-it-ing/): Leaving someone on “read” for too long and taking much too long to continue the conversation.

“I had a great time last night. When are you free next week?!”

Message read….

No reply. Silence. Cue the crickets.

You can see they’ve read your message, but they haven’t replied yet; oh the soul crushing pain of being left on “read” for far too long. The majority of singles (67%) say they have waited patiently for a reply from their date, only to receive it much later than expected. Talk about a conversation buzzkill.

Ghostbusting (/ghost-bugst-ing/): Continuing to text someone after they’ve ghosted you.

In 2018 some singles are going the distance by ghostbusting – continuing to text the person who has decided to ghost them. 38% of singles say they have experienced someone who would not stop texting them after being ghosted.

If you find yourself ghostbusting someone, I recommend you stop doing this immediately and move forward with your love life – put your time and efforts into texting someone who actually wants to message you back!

Serendipidating (/ser-uh n-dip-i-deyt-ing/): Putting off a date and “leaving it up to fate” in case someone better comes along in the interim.

Think about how many opportunities you’ve missed out on because you’ve failed to set a date or time with someone.

The grass is always greener, according to 30% of singles who admitted to putting off scheduling a date, in case someone better comes along.

Fauxbae’ing (/foh-bey-ing/): Pretending to have a significant other over social media when you’re actually single.

Have you ever wanted to make an ex jealous? Singles have resorted to the latest social media dating trend called fauxbae’ing! 19% of single men have apparently witnessed someone pretend to have a significant other over social media when they were actually single.

Have you ever gone to these lengths to send a message to your ex that you’ve “moved on”?

If you have a dating trend of your very own that you’ve either witnessed or experienced, we’d love to hear it!



Kerby & Simon’s Plenty of Fish Love Story

Today we are excited to share a heartwarming success story we received just last week from two former Plenty of Fish members, Kerby and Simon. Simon had given up on finding love due to his experience in a past relationship, but it wasn’t long before Kerby changed his entire outlook on love and on life.

Simon: Kerby messaged me first.

I had given up on love and even promised myself I’d never get married again. I found myself messaging people on Plenty of Fish just looking for friends and casual companionship. I did have “looking for a relationship” on my profile, but in reality I wasn’t looking particularity hard.

I started casually reading profiles after work in the evenings and if I saw a profile I liked I’d just hit the favorite button. One night in May 2015, I happened upon Kerby’s profile.

She was single, pretty, geeky and self reliant. Her profile was detailed and not filled with #s or “if you are X then don’t bother.” Her profile was positive. I “liked” her profile, drank a few beers, watched Friends on Netflix and went to bed.

Kerby: What I love most about Simon is his sense of humor. I decided to message him because he had more than one sentence written in his profile.

Simon: The next morning I woke up and checked my email. It’s a bit of a ritual I have. I noticed I had a POF message from Kerby :).

Kerby: My message read: “Hi. I noticed you liked my profile. I checked yours out and you seem nice. Why didn’t you message me?”

Simon: I sheepishly sent back a message with the reply, “Sorry, I didn’t think you’d respond.” To my surprise, we exchanged emails back and forth for a week before deciding to meet. For our date, I made her sushi and we enjoyed each other’s company.

The next day, I got a notice from my job (I’m in the Canadian military) that I was being sent away for 3 MONTHS, a 16 hour drive from home and Kerby.

During the 3 month course, Kerby and I spoke on the phone nearly every night. When we didn’t talk, we texted. We learned so much about each other through conversation.

Kerby: It was so important for us to communicate every day during the 3 months Simon was away. I had missed him a lot even though we’d hadn’t even known each other for much time.

Simon: We talked about video games, Star Wars, our hopes and dreams. That’s when I knew she was the one. Everything just seemed to line up. Upon realizing she was the one, I decided I couldn’t just wait around, I promised myself I’d ask her out the very next time I saw her.

On the last day of my three month course, I hopped into my car and drove all day and all night to get to Kerby. I got home at 7 am and asked Kerby out as the sun came up. (This was Kerby’s favorite memory)

Kerby has done so much for me since then. She gave me back my confidence, shared my love of Star Trek…she even got me back on stage doing comedy with a group called Geeks Versus Nerds.

I asked Kerby to marry me on September 23, 2017 right before the show at Halifax Comic Con.

She said “Yes!”

Kerby: I’m so excited to get married to Simon and spend the rest of  our lives together.

For the full proposal, you can watch it here: