Telltale Signs He Isn’t Looking For Commitment

Let’s get down to it. You’ve been dating a guy, let’s call him Mark, for 4-6 months and you’re thinking it has some serious potential. You’ve accepted the fact that your single days may be over and you’re interested in having a committed relationship. You want to call Mark your boyfriend, because something feels different with this one. He’s smart, funny, attractive and overall a great catch. The only thing missing is that you haven’t secured this relationship with Mark yet. 

There is usually a natural progression in a relationship, where the two people involved, are on the same page, but for you and Mark, this isn’t the case. There is nothing you’ve done wrong. It actually turns out, our pal, Mark simply isn’t looking for the same type of commitment.  

Your lust and excitement about Mark, had you missing all the signs.

Here are the telltale indicators, he isn’t looking to commit any time soon.

He doesn’t plan…anything

There is no pre-date planning. Often he will ask you the same day what your evening plans are. He says it would be so great to see you, but then fails to follow up with a day, time and location.

Messages when it’s convenient 

Messages or phone calls are few and far between. Just when you think it has fizzled out, he pops up in your inbox with a cute inside joke or message filled with flattery and exclamation marks – and we all know excessive use of punctuation means he’s totally into you. You’re pulled right back in, forgetting how you felt before because you think messages like this one, a couple times a week, are enough for you. They won’t be in the long run.  

He’s often double booked

How convenient Mark. He always has a plan B, whether it be before or after your date night. The evening often gets interrupted by his incessant need to meet up with the buddies for a drink, rather than calling it a night and heading home together or catching a late night movie or ice cream – things couples do!

You’ve had the “what are we?” talk so many times, you sound like a broken record

Your relationship has always lived in the grey zone of uncertainty, which for people who are looking for commitment, is an extremely tricky place to be in. If you have to ask “what are we?” in the first place, it’s not great and worse, if you’ve asked this question more than once. The lack of clarity in his response should tell you everything. “I don’t know what this is” or “I like where this is at” are both indicators that he hasn’t even thought about the future. 

Alone time is mostly physical and the day date is rare

The time you spend together is fun but it lacks quality or substance. Your physical spark may be lit, but if there is no time spent outside of the bedroom, it’s pretty obvious that you’ve got yourself a “friends with benefits” situation.

His affection is non existent in public

Mark is a cuddler, he loves to pull you in tight, hug and kiss you in private but in public he acts like your awkward brother. Why Mark Why! Sure, maybe Mark claims he isn’t the biggest fan of PDA, but there should still be gestures that confirms his interest in you.

You don’t have one another on social media

Hold the phone! It’s been 6 months of dating and you and Mark still don’t follow each other on Instagram or Facebook??? WHAT! Maybe the two of you haven’t been sucked into the social media frenzy of modern day communication, but if you are both active on social and there have been no “likes”, photo tags or inclusion of your name in status updates, this is HUGE! You aren’t even close to being Facebook official.

You second guess yourself

Now this is the real kicker. Everything Mark is doing, has somehow left you feeling like you’re 100% the problem. The minute you start to second guess who you are or how you should act around him, it’s pretty obvious things aren’t going to work out here. You have to accept the fact that you and Mark are looking for two very different things from one another. 

The fact is, if you were looking for a fun fling, Mark would be perfect. When you know exactly what it is you’re looking for and that something is commitment, it is so important to make sure your partner is looking for the same thing. If you ever find yourself putting check marks next to the list above, re-evaluate your current situation and figure out if it’s worth pursuing or not.

Looking Back On The Best and Worst Moments of Teenage Romance

I think it’s safe to assume high-school was that incredibly awkward period of time in everyone’s life, where finding a place to fit in, literally anywhere, seemed merely impossible. You have no idea what you want to be or who you want to be. 

Getting permission from your parents to attend the first school dance or finding that perfect moment to kiss your crush, were among the most excrutiating and stressful moments in history. Every single earth shattering problem back then, seems so trivial now.

Today we are time travelling and taking a look at the best and worst moments of the teenage romance.

If given the opportunity, would you take a trip back in time and re-live your high school experience?  

 

Seeing your crush walking toward you in the hallway

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Attempting to flirt for the very first time

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Giving your best version of the “shimmy” to attract the opposite sex

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Catching the eye of the hottest boy in school!

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Getting permission from your parents to attend your first high-school dance

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Bonding with your friends over your failures in flirting

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Talking about S E X with your girl squad

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Saying those three words for the first time

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Ruining the perfect opportunity alone with your crush 

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Finding your moment to shine on the bus ride home

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And lastly saying “f*&k it” and going in hard for your first kiss  

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Why Pokemon Go Will Never Be A Dating App

Pokémon Go has taken the world by storm. People are playing it on the bus, at work, in the bushes and even on dates! 

Pokémon Go, does encourage people to peel themselves off the couch and get outside; but, contrary to popular belief, Pokémon Go is not, and never will be a dating app. 

Here are my top ten reasons why Pokémon Go will never beat meeting singles on real dating apps like PlentyOfFish

You’re too busy “catching them all” instead of  devoting time to converting your Pokéstop meet ups into real dates.

You don’t know if your fellow Poké player is, in fact, single because they have zero “dating” information on their Poké profile.

You’re simply missing out on a sea of single people that aren’t interested in playing Pokémon – you’re limiting your options.

You’re looking at your phone instead of making eye contact with your date, because you can’t help but watch your incubated egg hatch into the Pokémon you’ve always wanted it to be. 

There is a limited window of time to meet potential matches through Pokémon Go, because people tend to play mostly during the day. On a dating app, millions of users are logged in all day and night, making your opportunities for meeting people endless. 

Poké dates inevitably result in you being on your phone constantly, causing you to be distracted further by incoming texts and phone calls. You just broke first date etiquette 101. 

The anonymity of meeting someone during game play, doesn’t let you screen them prior to your face to face meet. Say goodbye to creeping them on Facebook and Instagram. 

You find your date is a little too invested in catching MewTwo than asking questions about you – your family, where you grew up and your interests outside of Pokémon Go. You want to find commonalities and shared hobbies with one another that goes beyond the game. 

The lack of a live chat feature on Pokémon Go doesn’t allow for any initial flirt or courtship prior to meeting in person. 

You’re not living in the moment when you meet someone at a Pokéstop, because all you can think about is raising your character’s CP (combat points) for their next battle. Your #1 priority is playing the game, not sparking up conversation with the single next to you.

 

Your POF Summer Horoscope!

Whether your a skeptic or a believer; have you ever wondered if there was any research to back up horoscope predictions found in the backs of your favorite lifestyle magazines or newspaper?

PlentyOfFish has some answers for you!

Based on data from success couples whom met on the site, the PlentyOfFish research team was able to uncover the truth behind relationship success and compatibility of all the star signs.

Data revealed…

People born between November 22 and December 21 have the highest relationship compatibility with all star signs. To weigh in on the findings and explain why Sagittarius may be the luckiest in love, Astrologer Tracy Allen explains,

“Sagittarius is a sign of exploration. Due to a Sag’s glass-half-full attitude, his or her first response, to a match, would be to assume the best and take a chance. Sagittarians’ hunger for learning, leads them to embrace a broad range of people who are very different from them. Sagittarius may be pleasantly surprised for the next couple of years when it comes to dating.”

Whether Sagittarius is looking for a summer fling or a long term romance, this star sign won’t be short of options. 

Check out your love prediction below and who your best and worst matches are!

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Avoid The Awkward Silence On Your Next Date!

 

Have you ever been so nervous on a date, you immediately draw blanks and repeatedly say the words um yeah…um yeah..haha…so..yeah…while your date blankly stares at you from across the table?

If you’ve answered yes to this, listen up! You’re in for a real treat with this blog post. Your days of awkward silences are officially over my friend.

The key to great conversation is finding out what makes the other person tick and whether you share mutual passions and interests. The only way you’re going to unlock this secret is by ASKING YOUR DATE QUESTIONS and really listening to their answer.

Our Favorite Movie Love Quotes of All Time!

Grab a box of Kleenix because you’re about to cry a river as I take you through pure movie magic!  

I like you very much, just as you are.

To me, you are perfect.

I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day.

You complete me.

You had me at Hello.

I love you, I knew it the minute I met you. I’m sorry it took so long for me to catch up, I just got stuck.

I want to grow old with you.

But mostly I hate the way I don’t hate you. Not even close. Not even a little bit. Not even at all.

I love that after I spend a day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night.

My heart is and always will be yours.

Eva? Wall-E!

You should know…if you come any closer, I’m not letting you go.

I love your eyes. I love the rest of your face, too. I haven’t even looked further down and I’m sure its all fantastic.

You make me want to be a better man.

I will never stop trying. Because when you find the one….you never give up.

20 Signs You’re Dating The Worst Kind Of Bro

Bro – a name actually chosen by the Bro himself to call his friends – aka other Bros.

Despite being described as an obnoxious party going animal, there are some fantastic bros who don’t fall under this definition. These bros are great!

Today, I am talking about THE BRO among bros and sharing my top 20 signs indicating you’re dating the ultimate bro obsessed bro!

Let’s say bro one more time.

This BRO…

  1. Parties from Wednesday to Sunday, because he claims responsibilities don’t kick in till he has his first child. Not okay Bro!

  2. His most heartfelt gift to you is a jersey of HIS favorite sports team because all future date nights will now be devoted to the two of you watching a sport you don’t even care about 

  3. Claims he isn’t a “bro”

  4. Trusts his male friend’s opinion more than he does yours

  5. Blows you off not once, but twice to fist pump in a circle of bromance

  6. Watches his own Snapchat story repeatedly and laughs hysterically as he mouths his own words, thinking they are pure gold

  7. Is all about the Gym, Tan and Laundry but doesn’t really go to the gym and rarely does laundry

  8. Seldom initiates sex because the sound of his own voice does the trick

  9. Blasts rap music so he can pretend to be a rap god but knows all of two words 

  10. Texts to you are one word answers because he is too busy sending messages to his bros group chat called, “The Boys Club” 

  11. Doesn’t smile in photos because dammmmmmmnnnn, he is just too cool 

  12. The only colour he will wear is neon and the only shirt, a singlet

  13. His claim to fame is drinking 40 beers in one night, not sleeping, then going straight back to the bar on day 2

  14. On day 2, he proceeds to get into a fight with random guy at the bar

  15. Doesn’t end up coming home to you on his Saturday night, but instead, Facetimes you the next morning from his best bros couch – how is that more inviting!?

  16. Can’t decide whether he actually wants a girlfriend or he just wants his mommy

  17. Everything is on his own time and schedule. After all, he wears a watch that looks expensive

  18. Is reading this and doesn’t think it applies to him, because he doesn’t even realize he is this bro

  19. Is confused as to why Top Gun didn’t win an Oscar 

  20. Invites his bros to come on date night, making the assumption that you, too, believe a date should include 5 + people.  Bros are pack animals.Bro cheers

7 Misconceptions About Women And Dating

Dating in your late twenties to early thirties as a female can prove to be somewhat of a challenge based on what a lot of men think you may or may not want at this age. Oftentimes, men will seek women 3-4 years younger because they don’t want to feel pressure to “settle down.” Well fellas, I am providing you with a list of the most common thought misconceptions about women and dating!

She wants you to play it cool

Being attentive is extremely attractive to a woman. She wants to know whether you’re interested or not, so make this apparent through your actions. Being ice cold, telling her you’re busy for the next week and failing to initiate conversation, will give her the impression you simply are not interested. Congrats, you just lost her. Playing it cool because you’re afraid of looking desperate is the worst thing you can do. If you’re eager to hang out, pick up the phone and give her a call! None of this back and forward texting every few hours bullsh*t.

She is obsessing over you

Sorry to break the news but chances are she has another date lined up for the week and you, sir, are not the only one in the picture. Just because you had one fantastic date, doesn’t mean she’s refreshing her social accounts to see if you’ve added her as a friend. In fact, this is kind of creepy and I suggest holding off on the Facebook friend request for awhile. Dating is fun and women like to see what options are out there!

She always expects you to pay 

Having a first date paid for is a nice gesture but a woman likes to treat her man as well. If you start to pay for everything, this may make her extremely uncomfortable. If she says, let me get the bill this time, let her do it! 

She prefers to cuddle over sex 

Ludicrous! I’m sure most women would agree that sex is among the top three things that comes to mind most during the day…next to food. Women enjoy sex and much prefer a steamy romp over a fully clothed spooning session. As Olivia Newton John would say…let’s get physical!

She wants a relationship

Just because she’s putting herself out there, doesn’t automatically mean she’s looking for anything serious. Like I stated above, women enjoy sex just as much as you do, so she may just be interested in a fun summer fling. And if you’re unsure, just ask. Women have a pretty good idea as to what they want, and will let you know, if you take the time to ask.

She wants you to be an alpha male 

Women want a guy who’s comfortable showing vulnerability. Women aren’t afraid of your emotions, so let her in and show your softer side. The only way you’ll get to know one another is connecting through conversation that goes deeper than surface level banter. Trust me, no woman wants to sit across from Mr. Roboto. 

She wants marriage and babies NOW 

She may never want to get married, true story guys. Also, not all women have baby fever! In fact, many women in their mid – late twenties are focused on their career and cringe at the thought of having a little one. Relax guys, and if you’re really worried about where her head is at, engage in a conversation about your future.

 

How To Boost Your Self Esteem While Dating

You’ve gone on a what feels like a million dates, some good, some brutal and others just straight up disappointing. The majority of your friends are getting engaged or living with their significant other while your go-to Friday night consists of eating a whole rotisserie chicken and watching Law and Order SVU while curled in a ball of self pity.

Putting yourself out there takes courage and when nothing seems to be working out, your self esteem can take a nosedive. You’re ready to throw in the towel, adopt 8 cats and live in the woods for the rest of your life.

Before you succumb to the life of a crazy cat lady, let’s change your mindset and have fun while dating.

Here are 5 ways to shift your mindset and become the fabulous woman you are! 

Girls Night Out

Balance your week by going on a few dates and devoting a couple nights to hanging out with your gal pals! Girlfriends are always the greatest ego boost; from complimenting your lipstick color to ranting about how funny you are, your confidence will sky rocket! Swapping stories will have you in stitches and feeling 100% like yourself again. 

Write About Your Experiences

If you don’t already have a journal, I highly suggest you make it your next purchase! If you lack the ability to compartmentalize your thoughts, writing them down on paper will alleviate a lot of stress and provide a great deal of clarity.

*Bonus – If you go on a really fantastic date, write about it, and end up with that person for life, you can look back and see what you were feeling when you met “the one”.

Don’t Take Things Personally

This is much easier said than done. But it’s true, you’re not going to connect with everyone you meet. This isn’t because you lack a certain quality or personality trait, you two simply aren’t the right fit for one another. If you’re already doubting your compatibility after the first few dates, it most likely will not result in a long term relationship. When you find someone special, you will innately have a feeling. 

Keep Busy

If you’ve noticed a lack of motivation lately to do things you love, change that asap! Your hobbies and talents make you who you are and it is important to remember that! You have the ability to do whatever you like with your time right now. If you catch yourself dwelling on the fact you’re single, take 5 minutes to feel sorry for yourself then snap out of it and go for a walk, read a book or cook your favorite meal. If you are continually festering in a pool of negativity it will absolutely follow you on your next date.

Don’t Overwhelm Yourself

If you have dates booked every night of the week, props to you – that is seriously impressive! It is; however, important to not burn yourself out. Set up at least one date a week, and make sure it works with your schedule so you are capable of giving your full time and attention to that person.

Now peel yourself off the couch, put the chicken away and plan your next date!

 

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