Study: Single Mothers Find Partners Faster

With Mothers Day coming up this Sunday (May 10 – mark your calendars!), we wanted to learn more about some special women that are worth celebrating every day of the year: single moms!

We surveyed our database of single mothers on PlentyOfFish – a whopping 44% of our female users – for more information on their approach to love, how they use online dating, and what they’re looking for in their perfect match.

Some interesting facts about PlentyOfFish’s strong, savvy, and successful single mothers:

1. Eyes on the prize. Single moms are signing up in search of results – and getting them. 43% of survey respondents said they started dating online after hearing success stories. And, according to PlentyOfFish’s study, single moms find a partner 10% faster than the average user. Mothers Day graph1

2. Kids come first. It comes as no surprise that kids are these moms’ top priority. In fact, 63% of moms said they’d consider their child’s disapproval of a potential partner as a major red flag. Mothers Day graph3

3. Motherhood = full time job. Being a mom is no easy task. Between kids, work, and having a social life, single moms have their hands full. As such, single mothers report using online dating whenever they can spare a second of their precious time – whether that’s first thing in the morning, during the day while their children are at work, or once they put their kids to bed.Mothers Day graph2

4. Ms. Independent. Despite being focused on their kids, single moms should not be mistaken for weaklings. The top two most common misconceptions about single moms as reported by our respondents: 1. She’s just looking for a father figure for her kids 2. She’s a damsel in distress who needs to be saved.Mothers Day graph4

5. Birds of a feather. Like many online daters, single mothers are looking for partners they can relate to. Accordingly, they are 3.4 times more likely to date a single father than childless women are. In contrast, single moms are half as likely to date childless men as women with no children are.

6. Howdy, partner. In their love lives, single moms value partnership above all. Over 56% of those surveyed listed ‘partnership’ as what they were looking for in a match. ‘Romance’ and ‘fun’ came in second and third place respectively, with ‘financial support’ ranking the lowest.Mothers Day graph5

Do you have #PlentyOfLove4Mom? We’re holding a contest dedicated to the all the amazing mothers out there. Show some appreciation for your mom and you could win $500. For all the info: http://bit.ly/1QQvUJG

#PlentyOfLove4Mom: Share Your Love for Mom, Win $500!

Love is always in the air here at PlentyOfFish headquarters, but this time it’s for our amazing moms. With Mother’s Day less than 2 weeks away, we’re asking you to share the love–with a photo of your mom and you–and in return we’ll give you a chance at winning a $500 Mother’s Day giveaway. Who knows, this may even make up for that year you forgot Mother’s Day…

What is #PlentyOfLove4Mom? It’s a way for you to share just how alike you and your mom really are, and in doing so, you’ll enter to win one of two $500 Mother’s Day Giveaway. Hilarious, inspiring, loving, fun, and even kooky photos are all welcome. That’s right, starting April 30th at 2pm PST a tweet or ‘gram could win you $500 for you and mom. Here’s how:

1. Follow PlentyOfFish on Twitter (@PlentyOfFish) or Instagram (PlentyOfFish_Official).

2. Share a photo of you and your mom on Twitter and/or Instagram. Hilarious, inspiring, loving, fun, and even kooky photos are all welcome. Sharing your photo on both Twitter and Instagram will get you two entries into the contest.

3. Use the hashtag #PlentyOfLove4Mom so we can track your post.

Contest closes on May 8th 2015 at 3pm. We will choose 2 winners (TWO chances of wining!) who will go home with a $500 Mother’s Day Giveaway.

Good luck!

 

 

 

 

 

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#PlentyOfLove4Mom Mother’s Day Giveaway: TERMS AND CONDITIONS

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  1. Introduction: Plentyoffish Media Inc. (“Sponsor”) is offering the #PlentyOfLove4Mom Mother’s Day Giveaway (“Giveaway”).
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All decisions regarding the appropriateness of the content of any entry shall be at Sponsor’s sole discretion.

  1. Drawing: At the close of the Giveaway Period, two (2) winners (each, a “Winner”) will be determined by a random drawing from among all eligible entries received. Sponsor’s decision is final and binding in all matters relating to the Giveaway. Odds of winning depend on the actual number of eligible entries received. Potential winners will be notified by direct message via the Twitter handle or the Instagram username they use for entry. If a potential winner is unreachable for 24 hours after the first attempt to contact such winner or is unable to attend, Sponsor may award the Prize to an alternate entrant.  This Giveaway is in no way Sponsored, endorsed or administered by, or associated with, Facebook, Inc, Twitter, Inc., or Instagram.
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3 Books To Get You Through Each Stage of Your Breakup

One of the most difficult times I’ve lived through in recent years, was immediately following a horrible breakup. Regardless of what I did to try and distract myself (watching movies, working out, cleaning), I couldn’t escape the deep feelings of sadness. The raw emotions and symptoms that came along with them, were inescapable. During this time, one of the only things that southed me was reading the words of those who had been through a similar experience, knowing that if they had some how made in through this excruciating time in life, so could I. At different stages of my life post breakup, there were different books that helped me along the way, but each one played a part in getting me to the next step and ultimately putting my back together.

Here are the 3 books I read that helped me get over my breakup:

1. It’s called a Breakup because it’s Broken

Breakup Book 1

Author: Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt

When to read: 0 to 3 months post breakup

There’s no doubt about it—as we’ve already established, breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days that follow, there’s one important truth this book certainly made me realize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed. This book was the wake-up call I needed to stop being sad, stop missing, and start giving myself the hard truths I needed to hear – If he broke up with me, he doesn’t want to be with you. Duh, I know. At the time, it didn’t seem so clear. This book taught me that it wasn’t up to me anymore and there was nothing I could do to make things different. And even if there was, did I really want that path now? No! Accepting finality is hard, but as soon as I, I was able to  relinquish most of the what ifs, and start living in the present.

Not only does this book have a ton of breakup battle stories that may even make you feel better about your own, it will also remind you and give your practical tips to hold on to the one thing you have left – your dignity. The book promises to teach you:

  • Why you shouldn’t call him—and what he’s thinking when you do
  • How to keep your friends and not lose your job
  • How to avoid breakup pitfalls: IMing, stalking, having sex with your ex
  • Reframing reality—seeing the relationship for what it was
  • How to transform yourself into a hot, happening Superfox and get a jump on the better, brighter future that awaits

2. You Should Have Known

Breakup Book 2

Author: Jean Hanff Korelitz

When to read: 3 to 6 months post breakup

This is a story of an experienced couples therapist who finds out that her husband is planning to leave her. Even worse, he could be connected to a murder; so, now it’s high time for her own investigation. This psychological thriller helped me realize that it could have been so much worse than a simple breakup with my boyfriend. I constantly compared my story to stories like these, helping me to see just how easy I had it in comparison. This book in particular made me sympathize with the main character, which took the focus off of my own grief. When moments of doubt made their way into my mind, I would turn to these stories for comfort.

 3. The Happiness Project

Breakup Book 3

Author: Gretchen Rubin

When to read: 6 to 8 months post breakup

Six to eight months after my breakup, I was starting to feel normal once again, but I certainly wasn’t 100% back to my carefree, happy self. Feeling bouts of sadness was my new normal. In fact, often enough, a dark cloud would follow me around all day. The worst part was my mind was too often living in the past and rehashing old memories. Sounds pretty horrible right? It was. So I took a recommendation from a friend and started reading the Happiness Project. This book lifted my spirits within the first page or two. It gave me the encouragement to put my well being and state of mind, back into my own hands. It was also gave me a practical roadmap for how to get there (there, being happiness).

Even today many years later, I refer to this book when I’m feeling down. It’s a great pick-me up that you can immediately apply to your day to day.

Still looking for more inspiring breakup books? Check these out.

These are the 3 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself After a Second Date (to Determine Whether There is a Third)

I used to go on multiple dates with guys I just wasn’t into. Since I was looking for more than just a casual fling, my thinking was that over time, and as we both become more comfortable with each other, he would grow on me. This would typically end with an awkward conversation over the phone and my own feelings of disappointment that he wasn’t the guy I had hoped for. Given this repeated outcome, I decided to change things up.

Today my happy medium is a balance of not writing anyone off too early and asking myself 3 pertinent questions after that second date (that determine whether I would accept a third date, if given the opportunity). The purpose of asking these questions is to gauge whether there is in fact compatibility and long term potential with this person rather than leaving it all up to a ‘feeling’, a ‘connection’, a ‘zaza zoom’. If you are in search of a great guy, not just a great date, and don’t want to waste your time, I challenge you to do the same. Here are the three questions you need to ask yourself before agreeing to a third date.

Side note: Unless there is a very good reason (he was rude, he lied or he comes up to your chin), I always recommend a second date. If you liked him enough to go out with him once, you will likely like him enough to go out with him a second time.

1. Are your core values inline (based on what you know so far)?

It’s important to note that this question is one that will continue to be answered over time. Someone’s values can be easily articulated, but the only way you can truly understand someone’s values is by observing and listening to their priorities, morals and ethics. This takes time. With that said, it’s still possible to ask yourself the question, even with limited information. For instance, you may have the urge to rip his clothes off, but if you value family and want one of your own one day, and he doesn’t, he is a waste of your time. Similarly, if you prioritize travel and adventure and he’s never stepped foot outside of the country, with no plans or desire to, this will likely cause problems down the road.

2. Do you want to be around him?

Although, I believe it’s never a good idea to purely chase butterflies, it is important to feel attraction towards the person you’re dating. On the first date, nerves may get in the way, but by the second date, you should start to feel a tinge of “Oh, I like being around you!” Rather than asking yourself if you have a connection or chemistry (because after two dates, it’s probably just the wine talking) be aware of what your body is trying to tell you; When you sit down at the restaurant, do you choose the farthest seat from him or the closest? Do you find excuses to touch him throughout your date, or avoid them? When he brushes by you, do you abruptly move back, or welcome the brief moment of physical closeness? Maybe it’s not his cute dimples, his height or the smell of his cologne that you like. Maybe you’re attracted to his sense of humour, his endless philosophical questions or his curiosity and stories of travel. The point is, there’s something about him that you’re drawn to. You enjoy being in his physical company.

3. Is he interested in you?

Despite whether your values are in line or you enjoy being around him, if he isn’t showing a natural interest in getting to know you, there isn’t much point in agreeing to continue dating. It may be that he’s only interested in something casual or already knows you aren’t the one, but is looking to fill his free time with the company of a woman. A few questions you may want to ask yourself: Does he look at you when you’re speaking? Does he call or text when he says he will? Does he ask you out? Does he ask you questions about yourself? If the answers are yes, then proceed. But if you’re not sure about a few of these, seriously ask yourself if you want to waste your time with someone that isn’t all that into you. If he’s into you, you will know.

3 Male Dating Coaches that Know Why You’re Single

Female dating coaches are a dime a dozen, and although many of them give fabulous advice, there’s something refreshing about receiving advice and feedback from a guy. Besides, who knows men better than men themselves? Combine gender with strong communication skills and an understanding of women and you’ve got a male dating coach. Whether they have assigned themselves this title or not, we all have those guy friends that give straight forward, hard to hear (sometimes), informative advice…and we can’t get enough.

As far as professionals go, here are the top 3 male dating coaches that know you’re doing wrong when it comes to dating men.

Evan Marc Katz Evan Marc Katz Blog

Best Advice – “Identify and leave the undesirable ones, attract and keep the good ones”

I met Evan several years ago at an Online Dating conference. I can tell you from first hand experience, that Evan has a passion for helping single women maneuver the dating process with the goal of finding the man of their dreams. His advice attempts to figure out which bad habits and mistakes women continue to make that are preventing them from finding love. Evan is also a big believer of online dating sites. Evan himself was single for 10 years and went on over 300 dates via online dating sites before he met his wife. Having been single for so many years and finally finding his happily ever after, he can speak from a place of understanding and experience. Evan’s TED talk advising women how to avoid bad dates in the future is a must watch.

Matt Hussey – Get the Guy

Best advice: ‘There is nothing sexier than a woman who doesn’t care whether someone likes her or not.’

Matt Hussey is a Dating Expert, radio show host and regular guest on the Today Show. He also holds seminars across North America teaching women how to get the guy.

I first came across Matt Hussey in a recent Today show segment where he told women why playing hard to get doesn’t work, and that women can in fact make the first move successfully with a bit of flirting and nonchalantness. Matt’s advice is personal and practical. He doesn’t just tell you what to do, he tells you how to do it; from how to get a guy to approach you, to how to write a text that lets him know what you want, to the one phrase you need to say to get him interested. Most of his advice is rooted in his own experiences of singlehood and not having the know-how or confidence to score the girl. Sounds like he may not have always been the stud he is today.

His recent book Get the Guy is a call to action to single women – take the initiative to meet men! Matt doesn’t believe that women should ever ‘play hard to get’, he believes women should actually be hard to get. Meaning, that women need to be confident, independent and live a fulfilled life before they will successfully ‘get the guy’.

Steve Harvey – Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

Best Advice: “Signal to a man that you are not someone to be used and discarded. This tells him that what you have – your benefits – are special, and that you need time to get to know him and his ways to decide if he DESERVES them.”

Steve Harvey is a Comedian, talk show host, radio host, entrepreneurs and author. Despite his many talents, the common thread throughout all of his projects, shows and businesses, is his passion for empowering women to find love. Steve believes that women have stopped setting the bar high enough, and are lowering their standards because they want men to like them and accept them. As the title of his book ‘Act like a Lady, Think like a Man’ suggests, Steve believes women should be setting the pace of the relationship. Steve recommends being assertive from the beginning by saying something like ‘Look, if you want to be with me, this is what you got to do. This is what it takes to get to me.'” When it comes to what a man needs in a relationship, Steve chalks it up to 3 simple things: support, loyalty and sex. He needs to know that no matter what you support him and his endeavours, you are loyal to him, and you will provide him with his ‘cookie’, as Steve calls it.