Between work, hobbies, family and friends, it can be hard to find time to date. But when you finally get some free time, you can meet people anywhere these days. There is no doubt that asking someone out can feel gut wrenching, but once they’ve said yes, the rest is a no-brainer. The most important thing to remember while dating is to keep an open mind. Bad dates might happen, and probably will happen, but they’ll only help you figure out what you want and don’t want in a partner. Throughout the process you’re going to have some questions, and thankfully, others have been in your place and have advice to help build your confidence and success in the dating world.
Going straight to a date from work is equally exciting and daunting—exciting because dates can bring new possibilities into our lives, and daunting because of the never-ending question of what to wear. There is usually a quick time turnaround between the two commitments. As a busy woman, it’s important to make the most of your precious time. Use these three steps to quickly turn your no-fuss business meeting dress into a flirty meeting-for-drinks outfit.
Netflix and chill is so last year, especially when you’ve been dating for a while. Smart home technology can help you take date nights to a new level. Most people were exposed to the possibilities when, onFriends, Pete brings Monica home from a date and says, “Lights. Wait, no. Romantic lights.” The ability to control the mood of a date with just your voice was once far-fetched, but now using tech to inspire romance is something everyone can do. Here’s how:
Being single can be a challenge, whilst it’s a great time to grow as an individual, often we start to question why and where our previous relationships went wrong. Most people have had to kiss a few frogs before finding their prince, but surely there is a limit right?! Perhaps it’s time to look at things from a different point of view: Are you the one who is self-sabotaging your chance at love? Whilst it may not be nice to admit, we have to take responsibility for what we contribute to our relationships and admit where we are going wrong.
Here are 5 ways to tell you are self-destructing your dates :
1: You keep changing your mind and the plans
When you are inconsistent from the start, you send the wrong message to your new suitor. Constantly changing plans, cancelling, rescheduling etc. will make your date wonder if you are even serious at all or perhaps just taking them for a run! If you are unsure, then it’s better not to commit to a decision or a date rather than give them an ever changing answer.
2: You come on way too strong
The first date should be about to getting to know each other on a friendship level rather than delving into each other’s ultimate expectations and life history. There should be a casual atmosphere and no pressure or feelings of unmet expectations. Try to live in the moment rather than forward planning in your mind, it will help you relax and keep things in perspective.
3: You never get a call back
There is a reason why we are single and why we develop certain patterns in our love life. If your dates never go beyond 1 or 2 meet ups, then chances are you are either dating the wrong type of person over and over again or you have created some bad habits that scare men away.
4: You talk about your ex’s
Bringing your past up when you are trying to connect with someone new is not the best idea! Make it a rule of thumb that you never talk about your past relationships, even when probed to. Why? Because it isn’t necessary, especially in the initial stages. Chatting about relationship failures will only dampen the mood or bring up a lot of bad feelings.
5: You forget to have fun
Date night should be fun! It’s not meant to be an interview or a chance to screen prospects to be your future spouse. Learn to relax and not be so focused on trying to get boxes ticked but rather just getting to know the person in front of you. Only time will tell if they are the right one for you, it’s not something you can predict after throwing a bunch of questions at them.
So you’ve jumped back into the dating game and have even started to test the waters with online dating. Making a decision to be active and putting yourself out there is the first step. But in order for your love life to be a success you need to understand what qualities are essential to look for in each date. Finding love and building a relationship is not exactly a walk in the park, however it can be made easier if we identify what is needed in the right person for us.
Here are 6 qualities to look for in your next date which will indicate whether or not they have the potential to be a great relationship partner:
Look for the way they choose to communicate with you
Simple indications of a good communicator are things like having him call you instead of texting, or asking about your day and opinion. The conversation should be easy going and free flowing and you shouldn’t have to feel like you are trying to squeeze an answer out of him.
See if their words line up with their actions
Make sure that they follow through with what they say and that there aren’t any signs of broken promises. Actions always speak louder than words, and at the end of the day it doesn’t how much he can promise you something, it’s whether or not he follows through with it.
Do they make you feel comfortable and safe?
A good date will not only bring you butterflies, but also make you feel comfortable in his company and safe. When someone gives you the freedom to be yourself and let your guard down it’s a good sign that they are aware of your feelings as well as mutual chemistry.
Is their behaviour consistent?
Dating in different social situations will give you an indication if they change according to their environment or the people around them. Do they change when they drink? Do they treat you differently when you are alone compared to when others are around? Be sure to date a man that stays consistent in his actions and words.
Are they respecting your time, opinion and personal space?
A great date will show his respect for you by not only turning up on time and paying attention to you but also by not forcing his agenda on you. If someone is being too touchy feely or perhaps disagreeing with everything you say, or playing with his phone constantly …then he does not respect you.
Are they making the effort to romance you?
If a man doesn’t go to the effort to woo you in the beginning, then chances are you won’t be romanced for the rest of your time with him. He should want to impress you and make you feel special right from the start. This isn’t about demanding being spoiled, but rather seeing that he understands the importance of making you feel valued.
According to Jennifer Lopez, “Love Don’t Cost a Thing,” but we all can’t afford to throw on our Louboutins and step out in style on a Friday night. Luckily, there are affordable date options for the rest of us. So whether you’re trying to woo your new love interest or find fun, fresh things to do with your long-time partner, here are 15 date night ideas that will help you break the monotony without breaking the bank.
Mini golf is always a great time and it makes for an affordable date-night activity, especially for new couples! Since you’ll both be concentrating on the course, the conversation will flow easily (think no awkward pauses).
Plus, for those couples with a competitive side, you can keep score as you go head to head on the course.
To make this more fun, go to a local thrift store and find some funky golf pants, the brighter the better!
Tip: You may want to wear two pairs of pants, just in case you get a hole in one!
Remember in junior high when there were skate times designated for couples only? Remember how awkward it was if you were the only one who wasn’t “going steady?” Well, here’s your chance to make up for lost time!
Lace up a pair of skates and take the ice with your sweetheart. Want to make this even more fun? Watch The Cutting Edge before you go for some ‘90s nostalgia and ice skating inspiration!
If you’re sporty or competitive, bowling is right up your alley! (ba-dam tsh..) While bowling fees can add up quickly, there are many packages that include lane time and shoes. Some bowling alleys also have special promotions and discounted rates on weeknights.
Tip: Don’t forget to bring a pair of socks for the rental shoes!
It doesn’t matter if you’re into art, history, cars, or science, there’s a museum out there that will pique your interest!
Discussing works of art and/or exhibits is a great way to learn more about your new love interest. Check the museum websites and your local event calendar to find nights with special events with lower admission costs.
Love Locks are a famous, historical tradition in Paris. Couples write their names on a padlock and secure the lock to the Pont de Arts Bridge to commemorate their unbreakable bond.
If you’re looking for budget-friendly date ideas, airfare to Paris might be out of your price range, but why not celebrate this romantic tradition at a local spot in your city?
If you’re feeling crafty, decorate your lock and display it somewhere at home instead; it makes a unique love memento and it’s sure to be a conversation starter!
There’s nothing more breathtaking than a beautiful sunset, and you generally don’t have to travel far for a front row seat. Find a serene, outdoor spot and let Mother Nature do the rest!
Tip: Pack some blankets and some snacks and cozy up for a sunset picnic.
Feel the need for speed? Unleash your inner child and race around a go-kart track!
This is another great date for newer couples; you’ll be too busy having fun (and trying to win) to feel awkward or nervous!
Make sure to check the go-kart places near you because some host two-for-one days so you can race longer for a lower price.
Board games aren’t just for kids (Cards Against Humanity anyone?), they’re a blast for adults as well! Pick a couple of your favorite games, grab some snacks, and get ready for a fun night in!
Game nights are also great for groups; this is a casual, informal way to introduce your new guy or girl to your friends.
While you’ve probably snapped tons of selfies together, there’s something special about making memories with an actual camera. If you’re like most people, however, you probably don’t own a point and shoot or DSLR, but you don’t need one to enjoy this fun date-night activity.
Buy a disposable camera (yes they still make these) and plan a photo scavenger hunt. Head out on the town, snap some pics, and see what develops…
Movie Under the Stars
This is the more romantic, outdoor version of movie night. Many parks and city venues are now hosting free movie-screening events.
Check your local listings to see which movies are playing near you!
Tip: Many of these same places also host free concerts.
While a night out drinking can be pricey, many breweries offer free tours. The best part? Many places let you try samples for free.
Lip Sync Battle
You’ve seen the hilarity ensue when Jimmy Fallon challenges his guests to lip sync battles, why not get in on the fun?
This makes for a memorable night in, or if you’re feeling adventurous, take the show on the road and hit up a karaoke night!
Tip: Pick a theme: Country jams, ‘90s boy bands, old school hip hop.
When was the last time you played Bingo? While you may have thought Bingo was only for little kids or (much) older people, it can actually make for a really fun date night!
Find a local community group or organization and get ready for some fun.
Another fun idea for the sporty, competitive couples! Batting cages are generally inexpensive and you don’t have to bring any of your own gear.
If you’re not much of a baseball or softball player, or you’re a little rusty and don’t want to embarrass yourself on a date, fear not, you can set the machines to deliver pitches at a slower speed.
Tip: if your date isn’t that experienced, this is a great way to get a little closer and him or her with batting technique!
Dessert-Only Date Night
Who says you can’t have your cake and eat it too? With this option you can enjoy sweet treats for a low price.
While going to dinner can be pricey with appetizers, drinks, and expensive dishes, you can enjoy a fancy dessert for a reasonable price (if you choose the location wisely).
Skip the fancy dinner, make a meal at home or find another cheap option (like a picnic), and satisfy your sweet tooth together!
What are your favorite budget-friendly date night ideas? We’d love to hear from you, share your best thrifty date ideas in the comments below!