Picture this: You and your partner, alone in the wilderness, with only each other and the basic necessities for survival. Whether this sounds like a dream or sounds like a nightmare, I urge you to read on! Some of the best moments of my own relationship have been while camping, and there’s truly nothing I look forward to more in the summertime. If you’re still not convinced, let me share my top six reasons why camping is the ultimate couples getaway.
Growing up watching strictly romantic comedies, I was obsessed with grand romantic gestures. I was under the impression that in order for a relationship to truly be deemed successful, it had to be filled with flowers and poems and massive declarations of love. Before I even knew what romance was, I had already defined it and put it in this small little box, certain that once I’d experienced romcom level love, I would be happy. Having now been in a relationship for the better part of a decade, I can confidently say that romance doesn’t always manifest in the ways we expect. There’s no one size fits all for how to show your partner you care, and just like each and every one of our personalities is unique, the way we express love is as well.
Words have power, and a letter can be just the thing to help you either declare your love, or reaffirm it. In an age of emails and texts, a real, heartfelt love letter can mean an awful lot to a loved one. If you’ve never written one before though, have no fear. These 8 tips will help you write the perfect love letter.
Surprise them with the letter
You can certainly give your love letter on their birthday or Valentine’s day, but it won’t be as much of a surprise. If you really want your letter to make an impact, then choose a time when they won’t be expecting it. A true declaration of love is better when your loved one is least expecting it.
Don’t worry about your style
Henry P. Mullins, a writer with Do My Assignment, says: ‘We get a lot of “odd” orders at our service. We’ve had plenty of requests for love letters in our time. My best advice is to not worry about your style, and just write from the heart.’ Focus more on what you have to say, and don’t worry about the flowery language.
When writing, think about what it is that you really love about your partner. Why do you love them so much that you wanted to write a letter? Be specific in what you say to them. Include examples of why you love them, too. If you can remind them of fond memories, then all the better.
Check out some examples
If you’re not sure how to start writing your letter, don’t worry. There are plenty of examples out there you can read, to see what others have written. For example, UK Top Writers have some good letters you can use as a template.
Proofread and edit your letter
Before you send your letter, make sure that you proofread and edit it. This sounds odd when you’re talking about something so personal as a love letter, but it’s important all the same. If you don’t, the errors in your writing can make it appear as though you don’t care. Try using proofreading services such as Sociology Assignment Help and Best Australian Writers to help you if you need it.
Try using quotes
If you’re not the kind of person who finds it easy to express how you feel, then it’s more than ok to use quotes. Try using quotes from books and movies that you both love, and you’ll show that you value the connection between you both.
Start with a rough draft
As with anything you write, you don’t need to send your partner the first pass at your letter. Writer Gerard Fallon from Ox Essays says ‘Write at least a couple of drafts before you decide on what you have to say. It’ll help you really define what you want to include, and how you want to say it.’
Don’t worry about length
A good love letter doesn’t have to be a long and meandering declaration of your love. If you are more wordy in nature, then it’s fine to go longer in your letter. If it’s not you though, don’t worry. It’s not the length of the letter that matters, it’s the intent and the meaning behind it.
A love letter is a deeply personal piece of writing, and it can be hard to know where to start. With these tips though, you’ll be able to write one that really explains how you feel. Just remember to put your feelings into the letter, and it will be perfect.
Love comes in all forms, from all places and it crosses all eras. This eclectic mix of romantic books has one unifying element… love.
The Best of Me by Nicholas Sparks
No, not The Notebook. This marginally lesser-known novel by the incredible Mr. Nicholas Sparks, The Best of Me, is a love story of no less emotion. The story follows Amanda and Dawson, two high school students who fall in love in early 1980s Louisiana despite their radically different backgrounds. One tragic evening, a scuffle results in an accidental shooting, thrusting young Dawson behind bars. Despite daily visits to the prison, Dawson shuns Amanda, sure that her life would be better without him in it. But fate has other ideas. A quarter of a century later, a mutual friend’s funeral draws them back to the small southern town where it all happened. In one fateful weekend, they are reunited and forced to confront the question – “What if…?”
Read if: You want to believe in true love
Best for: Doing the ugly cry
Me Before You by JoJo Moyes
Fast becoming a modern classic, Me Before You is a gut-wrenching tale of unlikely love. Destiny takes charge when endearingly goofy Louisa Clark (Lou) accepts a job caring for wealthy Will Traynor, who is tragically confined to a wheelchair after a motorcycle accident. Stand-offish at first, wry Will soon warms to hapless Lou and the two fall in love. The tides turn when Lou discovers Will’s plan to travel to Switzerland to end his life, which had become unbearable before their paths crossed. Will their love cause a miracle…? Well, you’ll just have to read it and find out.
Read if: You want to feel all the feels
Best for: Doing the ugly cry some more
Outlander by Diana Gabaldon
A series of eight books, historical romance Outlander – just like The Best of Me and Me Before You – has been brought to the screen to move readers and viewers alike. The story follows World War II nurse Claire Randall, who takes a second honeymoon with her husband in Scotland, only to find herself in a stone circle that unexpectedly catapults her back in time to the 1800’s (as you do). There, Claire falls for Jamie of Clan MacKenzie. With too many twists and turns to fully explain succinctly, what you need to know is this; the seamless fusion of historical fiction, sci-fi and romance shouldn’t work, but it absolutely does. This is a must-read if you want a beautiful, sweeping love story delivered in a completely fresh way.
Read if: You love a Scottish highland romance fused with time travel
Best for: Enjoying a none-traditional love story
I can’t allow this list to draw to a close without two honorary mentions.
Shantaram by Gregory David Roberts, in which an unlikely romance taking place in India after an Australian bank robber flees his home country. And finally, The Mists of Avalon by Marion Zimmer Bradley, an enchanting story set to the backdrop of King Arthur and the Knights of the Round Table, told through the eyes of the women of medieval Camelot.
So pour yourself a hot cup of tea, snuggle in and get ready to read romance spanning the ages. Enjoy!
There has got to be nearly a million different ways to romance your significant other or person you are desperately trying to woo. And while grand, dramatic gestures do tend to get the job done, sometimes (most times), romance doesn’t have to result in a dwindling bank account. Often it’s the simpler actions that are not only more memorable but show your extra special person that you care all the time, even amidst the mundane. As a regular human girl I love to romance and be romanced just as much as the next person. When all your Notebook learned tactics have subsided, these are some sure fire hits in my “look at how much I care about you!!!” list to add to yours.
Write them a letter
This is first on the list for a reason. What is more romantic than sitting down penning how wonderful you think a person is? Nothing, that’s what. Your letter doesn’t even have to be pure mush, it can be chock full of inside jokes or just telling your SO or person you’re vying for about your day – doodles are welcome. Or on the flip side, make it steamy. A sexy mid day letter is definitely more exciting than anything else you had on the agenda.Whichever kind of letter, the point is, you have taken the time to do something sweet. Bonus points for actually mailing it.
Plan an evening with all their favourite things
Favourite wine? Check! Favourite snacks? Check! Pizza from favourite pizza place? CHECK! This is the easiest way to show someone you cherish them. An evening featuring all their fave things, you cannot fail.
Epic kiss goodbye
Throw all your PDA apprehension to the wind and go for that epic, over the top war time kiss! It’s a little excessive to do this all the time, but here and there a dramatic smooch is the perfect amount of romance. Just gauge the situation. Talk about leaving them wanting more!
Write them a Song
Yes, this does sound daunting. But if you’ve got the knack, go for it! We can’t all be Paul writing songs for Linda, but channel your inner John, there’s an “Oh Yoko!” inside all of us.
Just Because Texts
It’s hard not to smile ear to ear when you get an unexpected text from that person saying they’re thinking of you, want to see you later or maybe they’ve just looked across the room and just needed to tell you how great you look. Yep, swoon.
Make a Mixtape
A personal favourite. When your own words just aren’t adequate enough it’s nice to know it’s all been said before – and to music. If the capacity to create an actual mixtape or CD isn’t there, a carefully curated playlist made special for someone is more than ok. An exclusive score to how you feel about someone is just about as dreamy as it gets.
Grab a warm drink and take a midnight stroll
Go out in the middle of the night when your city is quietest and walk around getting to know each other. Simple, easy…and it works.
Breakfast in Bed
It’s a classic for a reason. Waking up to food is basically the dream. Everyone loves to be treated like a King or Queen once in awhile, do it with a side of bacon.
Plan a spontaneous road trip and/or make travel plans to see them
Spontaneity in and of itself has so many levels of romantic opportunity, accompany that with a quick trip to somewhere you’ve never visited together. Make it even more memorable with stops along the way. Alternatively, if you can’t be in the same city as your person, surprise them!
Go to the Local Amusement Park
While it may not always be in season, the amusement park date is time-honoured. Win prizes for each other at the standard carnival games, share cotton candy on the Ferris Wheel, take in the sights and sounds while holding hands. The innocence that comes with going to an amusement park is tender in itself, you can only be happy at the fair.
Give them a massage
Please. Need I say more?
I think it’s safe to assume high-school was that incredibly awkward period of time in everyone’s life, where finding a place to fit in, literally anywhere, seemed merely impossible. You have no idea what you want to be or who you want to be.
Getting permission from your parents to attend the first school dance or finding that perfect moment to kiss your crush, were among the most excrutiating and stressful moments in history. Every single earth shattering problem back then, seems so trivial now.
Today we are time travelling and taking a look at the best and worst moments of the teenage romance.
If given the opportunity, would you take a trip back in time and re-live your high school experience?
Seeing your crush walking toward you in the hallway
Attempting to flirt for the very first time
Giving your best version of the “shimmy” to attract the opposite sex
Catching the eye of the hottest boy in school!
Getting permission from your parents to attend your first high-school dance
Bonding with your friends over your failures in flirting
Talking about S E X with your girl squad
Saying those three words for the first time
Ruining the perfect opportunity alone with your crush
Finding your moment to shine on the bus ride home
And lastly saying “f*&k it” and going in hard for your first kiss