All Work and No Play? How to Prioritize Your Date Schedule

Life can get really busy, and most of the time we like to think our dream partner will manifest their way into our existence, whilst fitting seamlessly into our weekly schedule.

By throwing a smile at a stranger or creating a online dating profile, you think you’ve done all you can to find the right one. But it’s all about your consistency in taking real action to prioritize your dating life. 

Needless to say you may have become incredibly impatient and frustrated when your love life doesn’t seem to progress the way in you had hoped it would.

But let’s get serious; whatever you value, you prioritize and make time for. This is why you need to set active time aside in our weekly schedule to date. 

It’s not necessarily about allocating a specific time slot each week, but rather making room for the possibility of love in general.

So here are a couple of reasons why you need to start putting date night in the calendar and how to go about it:

1: See the bigger picture rather than just the present circumstances

You think finding love or dating someone is about the right timing. Sure, there are more ideal situations or circumstances to meet someone, but you need to stop limiting the opportunities based of what is or isn’t convenient for you. See beyond some of the challenges and obstacles that are taking up your time right now, and understand that in order for you to reach a future goal, you have to start with what you can do now in the present.

2: What you allow is what will continue

It’s so easy to blame time (or the lack thereof) when it comes to life in general. Yet you are the one in control of every decision you make. We must make time for all the things we like to do outside of work. Take responsibility for the part you play in your own life to attracting and receiving love.

3: Re-organize your routine and make space for love

Like anything, it comes down to how bad you want it. Do you want to find love enough that you actively start scheduling date nights in your calendar? By just thinking about dating, won’t get you very far. Progress in any area of your life takes action. It’s time to re-organize your priorities and become more efficient in balancing your work and social schedule. You can’t keep pushing it back and hope it automatically takes care of itself. 

It’s easy to play safe or become all too comfortable in our daily routine. Saying yes to a drink with a friend or partaking in a night on the couch, instead of meeting someone new, may seem more appealing, but it isn’t going to get you the long term result you’re looking for. 

Finding love means stepping out of your comfort zone, even if it means saying no to other people and things.

4:  Set a few goals

If you need to put a few goals on your to-do list to achieve some romance, then don’t think twice about doing that. Whether it’s joining a new social group, heading to a singles event or aiming to go on at least two dates a month, try and visual what’s needed to achieve your ultimate desired outcome. When you set goals to keep you accountable it gives you a sense of progress and direction.

According to Data: Small Talk is a BIG Thing

“The weather is great today….Do you like…the weather?”

Small talk has had a bad rep for as long as I can remember. It’s often considered irrelevant, surface level conversation, used to pass the time and/or fill the air of an awkward silence. Examples of small talk include; ‘how’s it going?’, ‘where do you work?’ ‘nice day isn’t it?’ – questions that are often met with a one word answer.

The beauty of engaging in small talk, which we often miss, is the possibility of it leading to a meaningful conversation or new connection, you would have otherwise missed.

According to data, small talk is actually a BIG thing.

74 percent of single Americans said small talk is worthwhile – 45 percent of singles said because it helps break the ice, and 31 percent because it helps get basic information about someone.

Engaging in small talk is much easier said than done, but all it takes, is a little practice.

Oftentimes, when I hop into the elevator on my way up to work, I’ll glance over at the person next to me, looking for an opportunity to connect with them. Unfortunately, they have their head down looking at their phone. I know for a fact, they don’t even have cell reception, (because we are in the elevator) and instead of having a face-to-face conversation with a real person, they’d rather keep staring down at their home screen.

Why do we do this? Perhaps we’re totally unaware we’re doing it, too shy to engage, or are more stimulated by our bright screens.

My immediate assumption is this person doesn’t want to be bothered, so I get off at my floor and carry on with my day. Opportunity missed.

I’ve most certainly been guilty of the above, and most likely you have as well. We are all missing opportunities to learn from and connect with people on a daily basis.

Even though someone has their head down in their phone, remember a whopping 74 percent of Americans DO want to engage in small talk. Perhaps you’re stuck on what to say to a stranger, or maybe you are in fact waiting for an important text to come through, either way, make an effort to be present with the person directly in front of you, even if it’s just ‘hello’.

Here are some tips to get you started on how to chit-chat:

  • Take off your headphones and enjoy the scenery when you transit to and from work. This way you are open to a possible interaction with someone next to you on the train home. If you can’t do this every day, try it once or twice a week to start.
  • Reference something about the person – people enjoy talking about themselves, so give them a reason to! Perhaps they have a book in their hand – “Oh I just finished that book, are you liking it so far?” 
  • Ask simple questions – For example, “Coming home from work? How was your day today? 

If you’re not met with the most enthusiastic of answers; know that you’ve tried and that it’s okay to move on. It’s important to read your audience. If the response is extremely positive, you can follow up with another question or continue on a tangent. Hopefully you find yourself in an engaging conversation that has left you feeling energized, excited or inspired!

*Data from Plenty of Fish Conversation Nation Study.

8 Tips That Will Help You Write The Perfect Love Letter

Words have power, and a letter can be just the thing to help you either declare your love, or reaffirm it. In an age of emails and texts, a real, heartfelt love letter can mean an awful lot to a loved one. If you’ve never written one before though, have no fear. These 8 tips will help you write the perfect love letter.

Surprise them with the letter

You can certainly give your love letter on their birthday or Valentine’s day, but it won’t be as much of a surprise. If you really want your letter to make an impact, then choose a time when they won’t be expecting it. A true declaration of love is better when your loved one is least expecting it.

Don’t worry about your style

Henry P. Mullins, a writer with Do My Assignment, says: ‘We get a lot of “odd” orders at our service. We’ve had plenty of requests for love letters in our time. My best advice is to not worry about your style, and just write from the heart.’ Focus more on what you have to say, and don’t worry about the flowery language.

Be specific

When writing, think about what it is that you really love about your partner. Why do you love them so much that you wanted to write a letter? Be specific in what you say to them. Include examples of why you love them, too. If you can remind them of fond memories, then all the better.

Check out some examples

If you’re not sure how to start writing your letter, don’t worry. There are plenty of examples out there you can read, to see what others have written. For example, UK Top Writers have some good letters you can use as a template.

Proofread and edit your letter

Before you send your letter, make sure that you proofread and edit it. This sounds odd when you’re talking about something so personal as a love letter, but it’s important all the same. If you don’t, the errors in your writing can make it appear as though you don’t care. Try using proofreading services such as Sociology Assignment Help and Best Australian Writers to help you if you need it.

Try using quotes

If you’re not the kind of person who finds it easy to express how you feel, then it’s more than ok to use quotes. Try using quotes from books and movies that you both love, and you’ll show that you value the connection between you both.

Start with a rough draft

As with anything you write, you don’t need to send your partner the first pass at your letter. Writer Gerard Fallon from Ox Essays says ‘Write at least a couple of drafts before you decide on what you have to say. It’ll help you really define what you want to include, and how you want to say it.’

Don’t worry about length

A good love letter doesn’t have to be a long and meandering declaration of your love. If you are more wordy in nature, then it’s fine to go longer in your letter. If it’s not you though, don’t worry. It’s not the length of the letter that matters, it’s the intent and the meaning behind it.

A love letter is a deeply personal piece of writing, and it can be hard to know where to start. With these tips though, you’ll be able to write one that really explains how you feel. Just remember to put your feelings into the letter, and it will be perfect.

10 Outdoor Activities for Every Couple

Spending time outdoors is a great way to enjoy life, get a healthy dose of vitamin D, and to breathe in the fresh air. Time outside is proven to have health benefits such as spurring weight loss, increasing brain activity and function, and reducing stress.

With that being said, enjoying outdoor activities is the perfect way to enjoy the company of your spouse, and luckily for you there are endless fun things to do in the great outdoors. Keep reading to learn about all of the outdoor activities that couples should be sure to experience at one point or another.

Going to the beach

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Whether you live near a beach or have to travel to take advantage of one, this is definitely not to be missed. What could be better than the salty air and warm ocean breeze? Search for seashells, dip your toes in the water, and observe wildlife for either a fun adventure or a relaxing day – you decide!

Having a picnic

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Grab your favorite sandwiches, a checkered blanket, and your sunhats and enjoy a meal outside, even if it is just in your very own backyard! You’ll love to hear the birds chirping as you sit back, relax, and enjoy a delicious meal and a bevie or two.


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Planting and maintaining your own garden – whether it consist of shrubs, flowers, or vegetables – is a fulfilling activity. So why not share in the fun with your significant other? You’ll love the time outside and admiring your garden will be an awesome reward for all of your hard work.

Going for a walk

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As simple as it is, going for a walk is a great outdoor activity that is not only fun, but it has a wide range of benefits to it. It helps relieve stress, aids in weight management, boosts your mood, and can even make you more creative. Find a new path to enjoy together!

Enjoying a campfire

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What’s more delicious than a freshly toasted marshmallow on a s’more? Making campfire treats and snuggling with your S.O. by the fire, will definitely warm you up. After a busy week, catching up and sharing stories is a great way to make memories!

Star gazing

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Whether or not there is an astronomical event happening, watching the stars is relaxing and not to mention romantic! It’s an inexpensive date night and is also a good way to get some fresh air. You may even be lucky enough to see a shooting star!

Training a pet

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Taking your pet outside to train them is a fun thing for you and your spouse to work through together. While this will certainly take some hard work, patience, and dedication, it’s worth it to ensure that your pet is adequately trained. It’s also the best way to bond with each other and your new pet. Build trust amongst one another and enjoy the sunshine as well as each other’s company!

Going for a hike

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Why not combine quality time together with something that will make you more fit and show you some beautiful sights? A hike proves to be fulfilling and interesting. You can adjust this activity to fit virtually any skill level and it’s up to you whether you want to make it a short voyage or an all day/overnight adventure.

Seeing a drive in movie

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‘Let’s all go to the lobby’ – This is an old fashioned one, but it’s a great idea for a summer night. Kick back, relax, and chomp on some popcorn from the snack bar, as you watch a fun flick that you both can agree on. Talk about nostalgia!

Going to a fair

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Especially during the summer months, there are seemingly endless outdoor fairs and music festivals going on around us. Take advantage of one and play carnival games, eat fried food, and ride the rides for an authentic experience. You’ll both have a blast and will surely feel like kids again!

There’s nothing better than spending time with those that you love. Doing it outside is just the icing on the cake, as it’s sure to boost your mood and make your time together even more treasured. Head outside to do something fun and make unforgettable memories all summer long!

8 Hobbies For You & Your S.O. To Bond Over This Summer

Couples thrive in shared activities, creating intimacy and lifelong memories in the process. Yet, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the average American still spends to bulk of their leisure time watching T.V. at 2 hours and 47 minutes a day, compared with participating in sports, recreation or exercise (18 minutes), socializing and communicating (41 minutes) and reading (18 minutes).

Don’t let your relationship fall into a long detached and zoned-out Summer with Netflix on repeat. Instead, find a few hobbies that excite both of you, allowing you to enjoy one another’s company and reconnect in the midst of life’s breakneck speed.

Browse the activities below to find something that piques both of your interests. All of them are sure to keep you entertained and connected, while relishing each other’s company all season long.

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Become Winery Explorers

Organize a few relaxing weekend getaways with your partner to meander hand-in-hand through scenic vineyards and discover a shared interest in wine tasting. Even if your knowledge of Merlot versus Moscato is based on nothing more than red versus white, you’ll both have a memorable time savoring the togetherness. At the end of the summer, you’ll both be wine experts, and will enjoy choosing new wines together all year long.


Explore an urban or natural setting with your partner through the lens of a camera. Whether you’re new with the camera or seasoned photographers, you’ll both have a blast tapping into your creative self, together. Have fun using digital and old school film—so you can enjoy the long-lost excitement of waiting to get photos developed. Better yet, find a local film developing class, where you can both spend time in the lab developing your work together.


The experience of digging your hands into the dirt and planting seeds is primal at its core. Not to mention it’s a stress-relieving hobby, allowing you and your S.O. to unwind from long days of work. The key to connecting while growing your first garden together is to be mindful of the moment:

“A garden offers a feast for the senses: verdant leaves, aromatic blossoms, chirping birds, squishy earth. Make a deliberate choice to soak it all up,” says Linda Wasmer Andrews of Psychology Today. Long story short: leave your phone inside, keep the music down, and let yourselves escape into the gardening.

Once the fruits of your labor start to grow, you throw summer cookouts with homegrown veggies and festive mojitos, impressing all of your friends.

Home Improvement

Give your home decor a bright and vibrant face lift with your partner, just in time for the warmer weather. Re-paint the front door, update the patio, de-clutter the garage or remodel the interior with some trendy, unique DIY projects. If you’re not sure where to start, choose one of these DIY projects that are perfect for couples.

Breathing new life into the space you share will bring you closer together as a team, working side-by-side to create a finished product that reflects both of your personalities.


Make an impact on the local community, with your partner by your side, with summer volunteering. Pouring yourself into work with others will enrich your connection as a couple, whether you mentor children at a religious organization, serve meals at a homeless shelter, care for animals at a pet adoption center, or spend time with residents at a nursing home. No matter what, getting involved in a meaningful cause always feels gratifying.

Rock Climbing

Get some exercise and learn a new skill that will invigorate both your bodies and the relationship: rock climbing. Not only did a 2016 survey find that rock climbing was the second most popular hobby among 1,000 polled Americans, it’s a sport that’s ideal for active couples. If you’re new, join a wall climbing gym to master the basics, then challenge each other to a real expedition in the great outdoors.

Turn it into a camping trip to enjoy a few romantic nights under the stars too.

Tandem Yoga

Channel that inner “om” with your partner and take a couple’s yoga class at a local studio. This healing practice uses gentle movements to restore a natural mind-body-spirit connection, so you both can escape the stress of a fast-paced schedule and explore one another on a deeper level. Performing a yoga sequence together will boost relationship satisfaction, improve intimacy, and boost communication and trust, according to Healthline.

Hiking or Biking

Inhale that fresh summer breeze and relish the beauty of nature with your partner, while adding some cardio into the daily routine. Hiking or biking are both excellent bonding activities because they release endorphins which are known to increase pleasure and satisfaction. Plus, sharing whatever is on your heart often feels more organic in a side-by-side conversation, rather than a face-to-face confrontation.

Sharing a hobby with your significant other is a fun way to spend time together while learning something new. Boost your relationship satisfaction and decrease stress while rock climbing, gardening, winery exploring and much more.