7 Deadly Profile Sins – What He Really Thinks

Let’s face it. You are using online dating to find dates. But you don’t want just any date; you want “the date”. When you are trying to craft that perfect online dating profile, you try to imagine what “Mr. Right” may or may not find attractive or interesting in a woman. By doing this, you might have unknowingly committed a few deadly profile sins along the way. Don’t beat yourself up because it’s not your fault. It’s very difficult to speculate on what’s appealing to your audience without guys giving you their feedback. The sins you may have committed will be absolved today!

Here are the 7 deadly profile sins from a males perspective:

Deadly Sin #1 – “Don’t message me if…”

Does your profile contain the above phrase? We know you want to use this method as a means for filtering the undesirables away, but the good guys are diligent with reading profiles; as opposed to just messaging you “hi”. By committing this deadly sin, you are going to be perceived as standoffish to us.

Deadly Sin #2 – The Selfie

Okay, we promise to stop displaying shirtless selfies; but in return, you can’t litter your profile with endless selfies that only show your face. How about including one with you and a friend or even a pet?

Deadly Sin #3  – Let’s play… Where’s Waldo?

You have committed this sin if all of your pictures are crowded with friends. “Which one are you, again? Oh, there you are. I didn’t see you because your friend’s shoulder was blocking half of your face.” It’s great to see you are such a social butterfly; but if we can’t tell which woman you are in your Waldo-esque pictures, please don’t include them.

Deadly Sin #4 – The Photo Trickster

You are guilty of being a Photo Trickster if your photos have strange modifications. You know, those pictures that include borders/filters which make your photo look like a painting. We love your tech-savvy skills but why? There’s no reason to obscure your beautiful face.

Deadly Sin #5 – You failed to tell us “about you”

Does your profile contain the following? “Filling this out soon.” “I’ve never been good at writing about myself.”

Don’t even know what to say? We want to message the woman who has conversationally rich content in her profile. It will give us ideas on what to message you about. We also want a woman who is confident. Including the phrase, “I’ve never been good at writing about myself” just tells us you are stuck in a state of uncertainty.

Deadly Sin #6 – Your “About Me” turned into “About Him”

Please include less about who you are seeking and more about who you are. Instead of listing endless traits of the perfect man, try to include more of those random facts about yourself. We love these because they make you, “you”. These random “about me” facts are great conversation starters and a true gem whenever found within a woman’s profile. Let’s take a look at what we mean.

“Hi, my name is Rachel. Some random facts: I hate Sushi. I love grocery shopping on a Friday night. My favorite animal is a monkey and one day I want to own one.” We don’t care how bizarre they are and it shows us that you aren’t afraid to be yourself.

Deadly Sin #7 – You told us we… “Must be”

The “Must Be” sin is committed by listing the following on your profile: Must be: Funny, > 5’11, charming, athletic. This list is a deal breaker minefield. The poor guy who reads this will be rejected four times before sending her a message. We all have our criteria for who we want. But if you met a guy at work; he’d hardly have to lift his up his shirt to pass your stringent checklist. Please avoid this sin like you avoided that creep who hit on you last week at the bar.

Spring Cleaning Your Online Dating Profile

The seasons are changing and that means one thing. It’s time to dust off those winter blues and clean up. When it comes to spring cleaning, it’s not just your house that could use a little freshening up. Whether you’re in a dating lull or you’re back on the market or you just want to revitalize your profile, these simple tips will help you spring into action.

Picture Perfect

The easiest way to refresh your profile is to change up your images. While your profile is your main selling point, it’s your profile picture that reels them in. Instead of just changing your profile picture from your existing images, upload some brand new ones that showcase where you are at in your life right now. If you’re not having any luck with your existing pictures, it may be time to bin them all together and start anew.

Make Headlines

After your profile picture, your headline is the next thing that could catch someone’s eye and make them linger longer on your page. Some of us use headlines to showcase our wit and our love of pop culture; others to say exactly what we’re looking for a future mate. Regardless of our intention behind our headline, the most important thing is that it stands out. The same old boring headline could just lead to glazed over profiles while new, current and eye-catching headlines could lead to great first impressions.

Update Your Interests

Just as the seasons changes so do our interests. Your profile should reflect this. While all-weekend Netflix marathons were all the range in winter, you may want to update your profile with your current likes and interests. And it’s not just seasonal changes that you could add or remove; think about all the things that have recently spiked an interest. New interests could mean more compatible potential partners.

Free Your Mind

Spring isn’t just about cleaning up the old; it’s also about new life and beginnings. One way to breathe new life into your dating profile and your dating game is expanding your horizons. If you’ve found that your current crop of matches hasn’t been yielding the right results, perhaps it’s time to rethink some of those parameters. By changing or increasing the usual demographics could open up your chances of finding the perfect partner.