First Dates Dissected: The Worst and the Best

The Best

The Worst

• His idea of a date is taking you out for a nice lunch or dinner – i.e, he takes you on a real date and comes up with a proper plan all on his own.

• His idea of a date is inviting you over to his place for a “movie”, meeting you at a food court for a bite, or grabbing “a quick drink” somewhere. Umm not original, and are you serious?

• He makes a plan with you well in advance. What a relief for you!

• He asks you out the day of. (What if you haven’t washed your hair!?)

• He takes the lead and decides on the where, the when, and remembers the small details. 

• His laziness is incredibly evident – he’d prefer if you planned the date for him. Or worse, he’s indifferent. 

• He’s chivalrous – a total gentleman who shows up on time, is attentive, and walks you to your door at the end of the date. All doors should be opened and all seats should be pulled out for you.

• His demeanor is nonchalant and uncaring. He has bad manners and poor follow-through. He’s terrible with silverware. Worst of all, he calls all the shots without asking you what you’d like to do.

• He does not try to make a move after the date – other than a respectful kiss goodnight. He has no hidden agenda.

• His whole agenda centers on making that move – attempting to grab your leg under the table, or overly aggressive kissing. Gross.

• He pays the bill without hesitation.

• It’s a Mexican standoff when the bill arrives.

• He’s definitely not cheap – he orders a nice bottle of wine for the table, and tells you to order whatever you’d like.

• Everything he does screams “I’m cheap!” He pulls out a Groupon and asks the waitress what the cheapest beer they have on tap is.

• His idea of conversation is appropriate, charming, and interesting or funny  – just like  you!

• His idea of conversation is inappropriate, rude, or just plain boring. He brings up exes, money, politics, religion. 

• He has a positive energy and there are no awkward silences (unless they are quick and adorable).

• His energy seems negative, and there are a ton of awkward silences. Why does he keep checking his phone?

• His whole evening was reserved for you. The date was not only fun – it lasted for hours!

•  He was rushing the date, almost as though he had another date afterwards.

•  He asks you questions and takes a genuine interest in what you have to say.

•  He only talks about himself and seems bored or disinterested when you speak. Does he not see how adorable you are!?

•  The goodnight kiss is amazing – it leaves you breathless and wanting more.

•  The goodnight kiss is awful. He has horrible breath and is not a good kisser.

•  He’s already asking you about your schedule for next week, and planning your next date. His plan? The next date will be even better than the first!

•  You don’t get the vibe he’s the kind of guy who cares enough to plan the second date in advance. In fact, from here on out it will probably only be invitations over to his place.