He’s got it all – sense of humour, great looks, solid career; you are head over heels after date 1, 2 and 3. This is it, this is the guy, you’re thinking. Date 4, you take it to the next level and go for a sit-down dinner in one of your favorite restaurants! He is looking good, and the conversation is flowing better than ever when suddenly he yells and snaps his fingers at the waiter for more water. Not only is this waiter a friend of yours since you frequent the joint, your new beau is now berating the waiter with mocking hostility. You want to evaporate in that very moment.
Believe it or not, there is a term for this trend in modern dating, coined by Plenty of Fish and it’s
You-Turning (/yu-tern-ing)
When you fall head over heels with someone, and then suddenly change your mind due to a total deal breaker
Have you pulled a You-turn recently?
Plenty of Fish surveyed over 1000 singles and You-turning has made it into the dating term dictionary with 33 percent of men and 39 percent of women having pulled a You-turn! Yikes!
Here are some of the most common deal breakers that may have your date You-turning:
- You mention your ex one too many times in conversation
- Talking about sex early on
- Political views are drastically different
- Popping out for smoke breaks on the date
- Being rude to waitstaff
- Married to your phone
- Flirting with your date’s friends
- You are in serious debt
- You have a child you didn’t mention
- You always turn one on one dates into group outing
Remember, it’s important to always take your time to get to know someone. They may have nailed down the first impression, but if you start to notice red flags within the first month, listen to your heart and trust your instincts because the majority of the time, they will steer you in the right direction.
