Top 10 Mistakes People Make With Their Online Dating Photos

Photos in online dating profiles offer a glimpse into who people are, what they are passionate about, how they spend their time and how they like to present themselves to the world.

Unfortunately, many people use less than flattering photos in their online dating profile and they may not even know they’re doing it! Much like a resume, an online dating profile should be polished, well thought-out, succinct and tell a story about oneself. These are some of the most common mistakes I’ve seen people make with their online dating photos:

When It Comes to Conversation, Here’s Why We Don’t Take Our Own Advice

We seem to agree, overall, on what behavior is unacceptable in the context of conversation. The new study from Plenty of Fish reveals the broad agreement that it’s wrong to “ghost” someone you are dating, yet a sizable number of people have done it to someone else. The study also shows that people of all ages think emojis are a terrible way to flirt, but consumer research shows 92% of online consumers use them to communicate.

7 Tips for Creating a Stand Out Dating Profile Picture

If you are using a dating app, you obviously want to get noticed by the right people. The first thing anyone is going to notice about you is your profile photo, so you want to make sure that yours is one that is going to actually get noticed, and by the people who you really want to notice it. Creating a great dating profile photo involves a lot more than simply snapping a quick photo on your phone and posting it, or recycling an older photo. You need something that is new and that gives the best first impression. With that in mind, here are seven tips for creating an awesome online dating profile photo.

Emotional Intelligence and What It Adds To Your Dating Life

Emotional intelligence, also known as EI, may be one of the essential factors for success in modern dating. From meeting a potential partner through a friend, at an event, or on a dating app, emotional intelligence can play a big role in how the relationship may continue to develop. Emotional intelligence, or the ability to better recognize your own emotions as well as others around you, is an important social skill that may add to the success of the long term relationship you’re looking for.

Here are some of the top reasons why emotional intelligence may be just what you need to enhance your dating life.

SELF REGULATION

There are many positive benefits of emotional intelligence, one of which is self-regulation. The ability to control your own behaviors and reactions, despite your emotions, is a trait expressed by those with high EI. People who are in tune with their emotions, understand how to manage them for improved relationships. For instance, let’s say a person is having a bad day. An emotionally intelligent person will recognize the precise reasons why they may be feeling down and address them internally without taking their emotions out on their partner.

Instead of “getting in a mood,” try getting to the root of why you may be feeling the way you are. Communicate your feelings to your partner in a calm manner, so they have a better idea of what you may be going through at that given moment.

AVOID TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

According to Psychology Today, people with high EI, have a better understanding of reading people’s feelings and why they may be feeling that particular way. Poor communication, negative reactive behaviors, and a general reluctance to understand what the other person is feeling, are a few signs of someone with a lower emotional awareness. Such negative behaviors may turn a potential partner off, forcing them to seek love elsewhere. Those with high EI are usually quicker to spot these signs and will make the most informed decision regarding how to address the other person’s feelings.

If you notice your partner isn’t communicating effectively, it’s best to address them calmly and simply ask them “I noticed you seem a little down, is everything okay?”. If they aren’t ready to talk, you have done your due diligence by asking and can give them their space until they are ready to open up. Let them know you are there for them when they feel ready to talk.

 SELF-CONFIDENCE 

Confidence is sexy. High self-confidence has also been considered to be another trait of people with a high emotional intelligence. Healthy levels of self-esteem may be indicative of someone who has a heightened sense of self-awareness. Emotional intelligence helps a person to express the truest version of themselves, accepting their positive traits while also recognizing their own personal flaws which is crucial for success in relationships whether they be personal or professional.

If you want to learn more about EI and improve upon your emotional intelligence, you can read all about it here!

 

5 Signs You and Your Partner Are Growing Apart

There is something wonderful about meeting someone that you can share and build your life with.

It’s easy to think that just because you feel something strong for your partner that you will always be on the same page.

Unfortunately, healthy and strong relationships are not built on feelings alone and growth within each person is inevitable.

So, what do you do when you grow at separate rates or in different directions? How do you still insure unity within change?

If you are worried that the stress, confusion and conflict in your relationship is caused by certain growing pains, here are 5 ways to tell if you are reading from the same book or writing separate ones altogether:

1: You just don’t seem to have as much in common anymore

You no longer seem to be able to relate to things that you used to connect on before. Whether you or they have changed and grown as a person, this could now mean that different interests have developed. As your character develops and you learn more about yourself, it’s no wonder that who you connect with changes because your own interests, morals, priorities and thought patterns can become totally different.

2: You crave more attention apart then together

When you have more fun away from them, then with them, it’s a good indication that you are drifting apart. Unity takes work and compromise in a relationship, but you should always be craving to be with them, more so than apart. Your partner should be adding to your joy and existence, not hindering you from feeling happy or moving forward.

3: You are starting to resent them for everything

This is because you have become frustrated with who they aren’t, as you have become more who you are. You may find yourself starting to pick at them for small insignificant things, because internally you may be frustrated that they aren’t on the same page as you, or simply because you feel you can no longer connect with them.

4: You feel like you have to explain everything to them

You become increasing frustrated with them, because you are either constantly pulling them up to your level, or having to explain your new thinking and actions towards them. When we develop emotionally and mentally at a different level to our partner, it makes us become less patient with them. We expect them to be on the same page and get annoyed when they aren’t.

5:  Indifference has set in, along with a lot emotional space

The opposite to love is not hate; it’s indifference. When you start to feel nothing at all towards your partner, because of the lack of connection, understanding or unity, that’s when you know your relationship is in deep trouble. Wanting space either physically, emotionally or mentally from your partner is a strong indication that you are growing apart in different directions.

So here’s what to do…

Growing at different rates is something more common than we think, that’s why it’s important to date someone from the get-go that you see compatibility with. 

When two people start off as one and then slowly drift apart it’s integral that you bring it to light. If you are feeling the void increasing between you both, then you need to have a talk about it.

Avoiding or accommodating for the elephant in the room isn’t going to solve the issue.

This isn’t just about liking the same common interests, but wanting the same things and both being able to adapt to change whilst communicating how you both feel.

Unity is not always built on convenience and common interests, but on choices , sacrifice and awareness of what is causing division.