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5 Signs You’re Forcing A Relationship

  • March 3, 2016
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  • Paula Rosenthal
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Relationships should NEVER feel forced. They should grow organically and bloom into a long lasting beautiful correlation. This goes for both romantic and friendly relationships.

If you currently feel like you are “forcing a relationship,” I highly suggest you take a seat and review the following…

Are they the right one?

So you’ve been catching yourself wondering lately, “hmm, I don’t know if this is right.” I know the feeling… and let me tell you, that is the first sign that opens another can of questions that puts the relationship into perspective. So what does “right for each other” mean anyway? Right for each other is when you laugh at each others jokes, share a conversation through eye contact, and find yourself chatting for hours. You have similar taste in food, music, activities, dreams, and pet preference (yes, you’ve read that correctly, if you love dogs and he doesn’t, it’s not going to work…FYI)

I’m feeling ignored…

So you need to have a serious talk about your feelings, work, or maybe what you had for lunch (yes, lunch is serious business, I want you to know all about the amazing grilled cheese sandwich I had today.) During this conversation, your significant other ignores you, or looks completely disinterested; and that my friend, really sucks! Your partner is the person you want to tell everything to, from your epic meal time to your deepest darkest fears. If your partner has absolutely zero interest in listening to you (and vice versa), there will be sorrows down the road. Resentment will eventually build up, making you miserable and wanting to hang out with other people. 

I can’t tell them anything!

Ah, right here, this one! This is a real relationship killer. You MUST feel comfortable telling your partner everything you are feeling, the positives and the negatives. If you can’t, they are not the one for you. It’s as simple as that. Don’t worry though, you will move on to meet new people and gain new experiences that will result in finding that special someone. You can tell him/her anything and everything, and they won’t judge or look down on you. There are nearly 8 billion people on Planet Earth and someone out there is a match for you. Life has shown me to never give up, there is a right time and place for everything, and until then, the quest continues…

I’m feeling trapped and suffocated

There are many reasons one can feel trapped in a relationship. A lot of times, issues can be resolved by one vital ingredient: Communication. You may feel suffocated because he/she texts you every 30 minutes which, if you ask me, is extremely inconvenient and annoying. The nice person that you are, doesn’t want to say anything to hurt his/her feeling. Guess what!? You must express how something makes you feel, ALWAYS. You can say something like this:  “Hey, I enjoy our chats, but lately I’ve been feeling a little suffocated by your frequent messages.” If there is a future for the two of you, he/she will understand, apologize and take the constructive criticism. If the chat results in an unresolved argument, move on! This means you may not be compatible, as previously mentioned. It is best to release Tommy Texter to someone that will actually enjoy and appreciate all the messaging. True Story!

I can’t imagine growing old together

If the idea of a future together doesn’t excite you, big red flag! With the right one, you should be dreaming about and planning all the awesome things you want to do with that person. Your soulmate, as they say. If you aren’t  doing that with your current partner, it’s time to have a chat with yourself. Is it fair to you? Is it fair to the them? Perhaps you are wasting each others time in a relationship that has nothing to offer in the long run. Maybe you guys are better off  just being friends. It’s always helpful to build a pros and cons list. What do you like about this relationship?  What do you dislike? Remember, you have to stay true to yourself and to the other person. Life is too short to force yourself into a relationship that isn’t bringing you any joy.

If you have a feeling your current relationship is inevitably heading toward the finish line, take everything you’ve learned along the way as a lesson to help you grow to become wiser and stronger.

 

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Paula Rosenthal

Paula is a translator for books, apps, websites & novels. She has a plethora of passions, curiosities, and interests from riding horses and milking cows at her farm in south Brazil, to cooking for friends and potentially jumping out of a plane or boat just for thrills. Her free spirit is running wild in search of the endless possibilities life has to offer.

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  1. Timothy M. Moore says:
    March 5, 2016 at

    The information given and gathered is so crucial so that we don’t waste valuable time in our lives. Thank you so much. Send me any good info you’d ever want to share. May God continue to bless you.

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