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What To Do When Your Online Conversation Comes To A Halt

  • March 24, 2016
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  • Tracey Steinberg
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So, you finally find someone online with an exciting profile. You’ve messaged them a friendly “hello” and they’ve responded. Nice!

Well, not so much. You message them back and the only thing you get in return is the sound of crickets chirping. What’s a smart, sexy single to do?

First and foremost, take a deep breath and remember that this person isn’t yet a part of your ‘everyday’  life. So if this online pen pal doesn’t lead to a relationship, it’s not a big deal. There are plenty of other people available online.

Second, if you really think there may be a connection and you suspect that your potential special someone may be wondering what to write back to you, then there is something you can do: send a follow up message with a question that expands the conversation and makes it easy for them to engage with you.

Let me give you an example.

Perhaps in your initial message you gave a friendly hello and asked a light and breezy question about something in their profile — like, “You went camping in the Grand Canyon? I love it there! What were your favorite hiking trails?” They respond to your question, to which you say, “I LOVE that trail, it is so beautiful!” And then… silence (chirp, chirp!).

At this point, you could either wait for their response, which you may never get, or you can message them again and ask another light and breezy question: “Where else have you hiked?”

The beauty of online dating is that people usually list their favorite topics in their profiles. So if the Grand Canyon conversation is a dud, you can refer back to their profile and ask another question about something else they’re passionate about. Perhaps they’re also addicted to “Game of Thrones.” Hopefully your additional message will re-engage them. If everything goes really well, you’ll soon talk on the phone, meet in person and perhaps go on from there to an amazing relationship.

But if you send that additional message and they don’t respond, just move on. There’s no shortage of singles online and there’s no need to exert too much energy on someone who isn’t giving you the energy and attention you deserve in return.

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Online dating can be a lot of fun if you choose to invest your time only on the people who are available and quickly forget the ones who aren’t.

I hope you find what you’re looking for online and please let me know how you’re doing on my facebook or twitter. For more dating tips please check out my book, “Flirt For Fun & Meet THE ONE,” and cheers to your dating success!

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Tracey Steinberg

Since 2007, Dateologist Tracey Steinberg has been helping singles learn how to be confident and meet someone special. Tracey is the author of “Flirt For Fun & Meet THE ONE,” a former NYC attorney, and she's been happily married for the past 9 years. Tracey's been the dating expert spokesperson for Marshalls department stores, and regularly appears in various media outlets, including: The Dr. Oz Show, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, Fox & Friends First, CNN, Good Day New York, Shape Magazine, Self Magazine, Redbook Magazine, Huffington Post, and The Wall Street Journal.

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