Dive Back Into Dating With These 5 Tips

Ever felt like your online dating workout plan was working you, rather than working out? Oh yes girl, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. This leaves so many woman exhausted beyond tears and simply discouraged thinking, “After coming home from a hard day of work is it even worth it?” Wait! Before you skip that waxing routine and grab your fuzzy slippers to fall asleep with Netflix- THERE IS HOPE.

Let us look at 5 proven ways to get you back on your A-game.

  1.   Search In Packs

It’s hard to top laughing and drooling over prospective matches with close friends and family. Whether there’s teamwork or simply a look over the shoulder, checking out potential matches; this will help increase confidence and wisdom in the decision making process. In addition, when those closest to you, are involved in the process; online dating feels more enjoyable and less time consuming.

  1.   Check your bait

No matter lady or gentleman, when clients come through The Online Love Doctor’s doors,  the first step is an intense renovation of their profile. I look to see if the profile is clear, attractive and confident with a calming presentation. A  “relaxed” approach is important to allow the man space to share his true colors upfront and show whether you need to run or relax!

  1.   Share your wounds and your wins

So many times women try to hide embarrassing date moments, like a guy going MIA and standing them up. Even if you have fallen headfirst into those types of traps, it is ABSOLUTELY important to share those with a close friend or family member, because there is only so much a girl can take before self-worth starts to get a bit wobbly. When the tears are still fresh, consider having a designated friend to call who be an ego booster.

  1.    Re-evaluate Your Type 

Unless a woman has had a successful relationship where the match was just perfect, many women don’t really know what their prince charming looks like, much less what he should act like. The tall, dark, handsome and just 5 minutes away prince isn’t for everyone. For some, their prince may be short, talkative and a world traveler.  If the date is not a home run, at least you went and shared a new experience with someone.

  1.   Be Consistent

If a woman is only “popping in” her account twice a week, she should really be more proactive. Potential date interests start to dwindle and the few left reciprocate the same “popping in” effort, while the other more intentional men have swam to other ponds. Try to reply to potentially interesting matches within 24 hours to keep the momentum going.


Hope these 5 Tips help ladies stay on their A-game. Don’t forget to have fun! Laugh at personal mistakes and the awkwardness that is often faced in online dating endeavors. After settling back and finding the one, there is going to be some chuckles at all the “quaint” encounters had. Most of all don’t give up hope! He is out there…

Dr. Hill

Posted by Dr. Hill

Dr. Hill who has been coined “The Online Love Doctor”; is the founder of http://www.theonlinelovedoctor.org: an online consultation platform for serious dating applicants. Once an online love seeker herself, Dr. Hill passionately passes on wisdom in the effort to empower daters to circumvent the confusion and negative stigma associated with online dating. “What started off as a hobby has become this beautiful dream dedicated to assisting single men and women in finding their loving relationship online” stated The Online Love Doctor. Dr. Hill offers profile development services, date planning, counseling and more. Having met her own husband on POF.com, Dr. Hill was very excited when she received an invitation from her favorite dating site to write a guest blog! “Remember you only have one chance to make a good first impression” - Eunice Lewis

3 thoughts on “Dive Back Into Dating With These 5 Tips

  1. I met my husband on August 9th. It was my first contact and my first date on this site. We are celebrating our one year anniversary today!!!

    1. A huge congrats to you and your husband Kathy! We are so happy to hear the two of you met on POF!

  2. I was a member of POF for three months and some (not long, really) . Dated a guy I actually met way back in 1979, but the years weren’t kind to him and the combination of overwork and a cynical outlook did not bode well for any sort of a future for the two of us (a real shame, really, because there was an awful lot to like about him, too). What killed it, though, is, being a non-drinker, I made first contact with him because his profile also had him listed as a non-drinker, but that was not the case. He actually drank daily, and having watched alcohol destroy a loved one, that turned me off. No sense continuing, he got a dear john letter and a goodbye.

    So, hell’s bells and little fishes, back to the drawing board. After chatting briefly with a couple others, I faved one in particular. A few minutes later, I looked to see if anyone faved me back.

    Lo and behold, there he was. We were both trying to message each other first (funny as heck), and after about three lines each, each of us were trying to phone the other first (lol!)

    That was almost three months ago. Although we live hundreds of miles apart, we talk almost every day on the phone, sometimes twice or more in a day. From the moment I heard his sweet voice, I somehow knew this is the right man for me, and all indicators point to him feeling the same way about me.

    We will be meeting up as soon as our insane work schedules permit, hopefully this long weekend coming up. We share the same beliefs, are both psychic empaths, and both strong humanists and free thinkers. Many of our likes and dislikes match. There are differences, too, but nothing that would come close to qualifying as a deal-breaker — far from it –we both believe that we can adapt those into something new and interesting.

    We are a year and a half apart in age. Perfect. We send each other selfies all the time to have our morning coffee phone dates, and we talk about anything and feel right about it.

    Best part is, is that last night, we told each other jokingly (and lovingly) that each would have a helluva time getting rid of the other one 🙂

    There is a sense that, even though we haven’t physically hugged each other hello yet, that there is a bond growing between us — and both of us have expressed to each other that it feels like our meeting will not be a date, but a new beginning.

    Is is possible to fall in love with someone you haven’t yet seen for real? I think it’s unfolding with the two of us .. and the bond is stronger now than it has ever been. We call each other daily, even just to leave a voicemail or talk about a whole lotta nuthin’ — and the difference it makes for us and each other is palpable, in a very positive, warm and uplifting way. We send each other lots of emails, too.

    We are both anticipating that magical day .. it is so close now … both of us have seen the best and the worst that life throws at us, and the bond we have now has helped us both put it all in perspective. I have every reason to believe that I have found the soul mate I have sought for all these years.

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