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Ghosts Of Exes Past – 3 Tips To End Your Bad Dating Habits

  • December 7, 2017
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  • Michael Valmont
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Between the mistletoe, sappy TV adverts, and Mariah Carey songs, it’s easy to fall under the Christmas romance spell.

Side effects of the Christmas romance spell include: wondering if Dave from the Accounts Departments is actually your one true love, or spending a lot of time at the ice rink waiting to fall into the arms of Prince/Princess charming!

**Spoiler alert: Dave probably isn’t your soul mate, but even if he is, tequila-drunk at the Christmas party isn’t the best time to explore this option.

If you’re serious about finding romance this Christmas, it’s time to look away from the spell-bounding glitter and twinkling lights, and start reflecting on what habits you may want to change.

Ignore the Ghosts of Romances Past

You’re back in your hometown for Christmas and out for a few drinks at your old local. It’s snowing outside. The pub door swings open and in he/she walks: your ex. It all feels a bit magical, right?

Wrong.

It’s a pretty stark truth that not many of us like to hear, but if a relationship didn’t work in the past, it probably won’t work again in the future.

Now I know what you’re thinking – your relationship is different:

 “It just wasn’t the right time or circumstances back then. We can make it work this time.” 

Honestly, you most likely won’t make it work this time either. You’re only going back because it may be comfortable, easy and familiar. And there’s snow.

Remember: You’re the Present

If going on a date feels more like a job interview than having fun, you may need to re-think your approach. Rather than trying spew as many impressive facts about yourself, remember a conversation takes two to tango! Ask questions about them and get to know each other through thoughtful conversation.

You need to remember that you’re the prize that your date would be lucky to win. Know your own self-worth and your natural fabulousness will shine brighter than the star atop your tree.  Get more confidence with some advice from yours truly: dating expert Michael Valmont.

Keep your Drive Towards the Future

It’s easy to become despondent whilst dating, especially at Christmas. Between nosy Aunts at family parties and endless engagements, you might feel under pressure to be in a relationship.

Don’t panic and rush into a relationship with the wrong person.

Think of dating like being stuck in traffic: it feels like you’re not moving. It’s tempting to get off at the next exit and figure out how to get to the destination from there.

Remember that even though it feels like you’re not getting very far, you are headed in the right direction. Don’t settle for the relationship equivalent to a road paved with speed bumps. You know where you want to be. Don’t lose your direction.

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Michael Valmont

Michael Valmont is a leading dating coach based in London. He is regularly featured in the media including Sky News, BBC, The Telegraph, Mens Health to name a few. He has helped thousands of men and women to find love and fulfilment, build confidence and become their best selves. He also runs his successful YouTube channel and provides regular advice for those singletons looking to find romance and get more from their lives.

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