Avoid The Awkward Silence On Your Next Date!

 

Have you ever been so nervous on a date, you immediately draw blanks and repeatedly say the words um yeah…um yeah..haha…so..yeah…while your date blankly stares at you from across the table?

If you’ve answered yes to this, listen up! You’re in for a real treat with this blog post. Your days of awkward silences are officially over my friend.

The key to great conversation is finding out what makes the other person tick and whether you share mutual passions and interests. The only way you’re going to unlock this secret is by ASKING YOUR DATE QUESTIONS and really listening to their answer.

Best First Date Spots – Take Your Next Date

So you’ve been messaging someone back and forth on PlentyOfFish for a few days and the connection is on fire, the witty banter is on point and all that’s left to do now is to go on a date…TERRIFYING! It doesn’t have to be! If you’re genuinely excited and simultaneously want to projectile with the thought of the first date, this is great news! This may have potential to go somewhere beyond one night.

Picking a first date spot can be daunting; worst case scenario – you’re in an empty restaurant where the overzealous waiter continually asks how your first few bites are followed by the awkward lurk around your table waiting to fill your water glass because the only other customers are crickets.

Let’s straight up avoid the place where dates go to die and check out my top 10 list of ideal first date spots!

Casual Day Beer

Day date you ask?! YES, dates don’t always have to take place at night at a dim lit bar! There is no rule saying you have to do the “dinner” date the first time around, in fact, I always save this one for later when I know we won’t be sitting in silence for the most awkward 2 hours of life. If you are someone who gets super nervous before a date, I highly suggest grabbing a cold one at a local brewery, pub, or restaurant. Now it’s important to scope the place out before taking a date, as you want to make sure it has a solid vibe and you like the place yourself. It is important to find a joint that has a great beer selection, isn’t too loud (you want to still be able to hear your date) and doesn’t smell like the night before. If you are feeling ambitious and want to add a little something additional to this date, you can tack on a bike ride before hitting up the local watering hole!

 

Sporting Event

If you or your match has a favorite team or sport, I recommend checking out what games are playing in your city! I am no sports fan but I genuinely love going to the stadium and experiencing the excitement of the crowd, chowing down on a juicy vendor hot dog and taking part in the audience “wave.” If the two of you are sports addicts, you just scored the perfect first date idea!

 

Ice Cream & Walk

The one tricky thing about this date idea is it can be seasonal depending on where you live. If it’s snowing, ice cream isn’t usually your first go-to, but fear not, you can sub the ice cream for a hot cup of cocoa at an intimate cafe followed by a walk in the snow. If you permanently experience the bliss of warm weather, ice cream and a stroll around town is a perfect short and sweet date. This is also a great date idea if you are looking to avoid drinking alcohol the first time around.

 

Hike Up A Mountain or a Molehill (depending on your physical prowess)

If you’re Tony Perkis from the 1995 Jud Apatow film Heavy Weights, this date idea is perfect for you. Do not, I repeat, do not take your date on a 10 hour hike. I know you may want to impress them with your bulging calves and buns of steel but this isn’t the time nor the place. You will end up looking like a show off and that is a huge turnoff. If you know your crush enjoys exercise, suggest a 5-7 kilometre hike that will take you max 3 hours. Hikes can be unpredictable as some trails aren’t marked as well as others; make sure you’ve done the hike in the past and can confidently lead the way! Getting lost in the woods will not get you a second date because you would be lost…in the woods.  

 

Picnic in the Park (weather dependent)

I am a complete sucker for a guy holding a blanket, loaf of fresh bread and a wheel of Brie. He had me at cheese. A park picnic is a great location for a first date because there is a lot going on and it forces you into the great outdoors. If the two of you are nervous and struggling to find things to talk about; you can resort to one of my favorite pastimes – people watching. Hopefully this isn’t the case and you are playfully feeding each other grapes and sipping on fine wine!

 

Mini Putt

You don’t need to be Tiger Woods to make this a hole in one! All you need is a great attitude and some friendly competition. Mini putt is a safe win; you are playing an activity, it’s quiet enough to chat on the course and your date can show you a thing or two about your swing or vise versa which will allow you to get closer (physically 😉 ). Now this is where the fun comes in; place a bet on the game to give it a competitive edge. Example – If you win, he has to run around the course in nothing but his briefs and if he wins, he gets a kiss! You can play around with bets you two are comfortable with.

 

Cooking Class

If you’re a foodie like myself, and by foodie I mean, will eat anything and everything placed in front of you, taking a cooking class with your date is a great way to interact, get your hands dirty and find out what kind of food your date enjoys. Also it’s a secretive way of checking if you’ve got a Bobby Flay on your hands or a Delivery Boy. You will learn something new about one another and possibly gain ideas for your second dinner date!

 

Raw Canvas (for the artistically inclined!)

Maybe you’ve taken a look at the list so far and nothing screams great first date because you dislike sweets, hate all forms of physical activity and aren’t a drinker! But seriously who doesn’t like a good mint choco cone!?

This date option may be right up your alley! For those of you who don’t know what raw canvas is, it lets you get creative with your date through the art of painting! You can find studios that have classes that will supply the materials and give you an intro on where to begin your composition! Give Picasso something to be jealous about! 

 

Improv Games or Comedy Show

If you appreciate a great sense of humor, this idea will have you and your date in stitches! Going to a comedy show is a perfect way to break the ice and share a laugh with your new match. If you want to take it a step further, improv games are hilarious and sometimes require audience participation. You and your new beau can show off your own set of skills.

 

Get Your Brunch On

Brunching appears to be the “trendy” thing to do these days and nothing wakes me up more than a morning mimosa! You may be asking how is this any different from a dinner date? Well a couple things, a brunch date is much more casual as it takes place at around 11am vs. 11pm and usually the service is very speedy for quick turnover; therefore, you can be in and out if the date is a complete bust. For those of you who are dating on a dime, brunch tends to be on the cheaper end of dining and this date won’t break your bank!

 

Alright there you have it; the inside scoop on where to take your next date. You literally have no excuses; I just planned the date for you, now all that’s left to do is schedule a day and time and you’re already one step closer to Date # 2!

 

How To Ask Someone On A First Date

Many of you were struck by the title of this blog post because you’ve never actually asked someone out on a “real” date before.  Perhaps you have always stuck to dating people in your friend group where your past boyfriends have transitioned seamlessly from being just your friend to your boyfriend. You never really had to ask them, it just happened. Now you find yourself single and wanting to date again!

If you are a first time dater, here are the most common scenarios followed by the most effective ways to claim a date with your crush!

Scenario 1: You meet online

You’ve decided to pop into your PlentyOfFish profile and bam, his profile jumps right off the screen. His main picture places him easily in “Major Babe” status; but you know the game all too well and cautiously click through the rest of his photos. This is too good to be true; he is giving you the perfect taste of who he is and what he likes to do for fun (he heli skis in his spare time?! Major Babe status has just been taken to a whole new level!).

So you’ve creeped every photo at least 8 times over and studied his interests and bio until you have them memorized word for word. But what’s next? How do you move from class five creeper to his date? Well here’s an idea…you could just ask him out!

Ladies, it’s 2016, you don’t have to wait for the guy to make the first move! Sign into your profile, go to send him a message and write, “Hey (Name), I’m going to be honest here, I have looked at your profile at least twice in the past hour and it took me another half hour to think about what to write to you. I think it’s really cool that you (name one of his interests)! Hit send; now the ball’s in his court!

If you don’t receive a response, don’t worry about it; move on and try again with a new prospect! Rejection can be a kicker, but it’s far more worth it to put yourself out there knowing you tried than sitting back and wondering what could have been. If you do get a response, jump up and down and exchange a few more messages until you confidently ask “Let’s meet up this Saturday, are you free at 8pm for a drink?”

Boom, you got a date.

Scenario 2 : You meet in person (gym, bar, coffee shop)

I am going to focus on the gym meet for this one as it can be one of the hardest locations to ask someone out.

You’re profusely sweating on the treadmill when in walks “Major Babe” of the gym! You look up, make eye contact, then increase your lame jog to full on iron man sprint just to impress him. It’s been about three weeks since he first walked in and you so badly want to coincidentally run into him at the water fountain without looking like a complete stalker who pre-planned every step. The best moment to approach a gym babe is right after their workout, NOT when they are lifting or on a machine. Catch them on their way out of the door with a simple, “Hey, you crushed it in there! You made me want to work out harder.” Followed by a smile. I wouldn’t ask him out after this first interaction as the gym babe takes a couple days to warm up; but once you find yourself having a conversation the next couple of sessions, go for it!

Scenario 3: You meet at work

This one can be tricky and I haven’t been one to date within the workplace, but let’s get real; it happens often. You spend 8 hours a day, 5 days a week with your coworkers. It is important to exercise caution when asking out an associate. Before you jump right into it; remember, you will see this person every single day for however long you want to stay in your job. Take time to think this one through before you dive head first. If the connection is undeniable and you see a potential future with this colleague, the safest approach is to ask them for a casual apres work coffee/drink first to see what your dynamic is like outside the office. If the feelings are mutual and you both know it, ask them out again.

Scenario 4: You meet through friends

Your bestie is thrilled because she’s found out her boyfriend’s friend is single and he is just your type. She has described him in full, from what he does for work, to what his favorite breakfast food is (this must mean he loves brunching just as much as you). He sounds pretty damn incredible and your friend is already planning a future double date, so you better get on it and ask him out! You ask your friend for his Facebook name because you can’t fathom asking him out without a solid creep sesh first. My best advice is to try and avoid this step and go straight to setting up a date, because your friend has already laid it out for you. Ask your friend for his number and send a quick message saying “Hey (Name), I got your number from (name of friend) and thought it could be fun to link up this weekend. Do you want to go for a drink/coffee on Saturday?. With this scenario you may have a slight upper hand because you both have friends in common.

Maybe you have found yourself in all these scenarios before but never had a clue how to approach any of them. I hope this post encourages you to go for what you want and not be afraid to put yourself out there. Even if you start with a simple smile, hello or text message, you are one step closer to finding your next date!

The 10 Weirdest Things Ever Said On A First Date: Part 2

Turns out a lot of people have had some pretty messed up things said/done to them on dates, so we’re featuring 10 MORE of the weirdest things ever said on a first date – because we can!

1. “You should consider going walking in the woods naked.” 

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2. “I don’t want to alarm you, but I really want to spank you in the middle of this restaurant…”

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3. “From out of the blue, in a lull in conversation, my date told me that he’d once dated a woman with a tattoo of her grandchild on her boob.”

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4. “You should be meet my husband, you two would really get along.”

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5. “I once had a guy yell out, “Does anyone know where I can get some heroin?” in a restaurant. Like, just out of the blue.”

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6. “Then there was the guy who admitted that he could not read – at all. I asked how he managed to get his job, and he mentioned that his brother had helped with the paperwork. Done deal.

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7. “Don’t take this the wrong way, but I don’t think I’m going to marry you right away.”

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8. “Water does not exist in a vapor phase. There is no water in clouds.”

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9. “Have you ever been with a guy as good-looking as I am? I seriously need to know.”

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10. On our first date she pulled out a small wooden box and opened the lid. Inside the box were a dozen tiny voodoo dolls, looking very much in pain. She tells me; “These are my ex boyfriends souls, trapped inside my dolls. If you mess with me — you are next.”

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The 10 Weirdest Things Ever Said On A First Date

Even when things go off without a hitch, first dates can be a little weird. But have you ever had a first date go down in flames based off a one-liner, or something super weird your date said to you? We asked our users about the weirdest things ever said to them on a first date, and they delivered! So next time you have an awkward first date…just look on the bright side and count your lucky stars that he’s not referring to himself as a warlock.

Here is our list of the 10 weirdest things ever said on a first date:

1. “An ex-anesthesia technician told me that he really enjoyed the smell of flesh being cauterized (burned) during surgery …”

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2. “On our first date we passed by a water tower under construction twice, once after picking her up and again when I was taking her home. Both times she laid out a detailed plan to sneak up there just so she could sleep in it for a night.”

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3. “I had my ovaries and uterus removed, but I still enjoy sex”

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4. “My date announced that he’d given me a fake name, as he’d been ( wrongfully) accused of sexual harassment. (I Googled afterwards, and he had been charged.)

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5. “My date asked me to leave the country with him as his companion, all expenses paid, to appear on a television show, as he was a warlock.”

how bout no

6. “One guy hid in the shadows in the back of the bar so he could check me out. I hung around for about 30 minutes and he never appeared so I left. He later emailed me and told me he saw me but chose to not meet me because “I looked like a b*tch” …”

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7. “Can my bi-sexual friend come to dinner with us?”

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8. “I went to dinner with a guy once. He constantly drummed on the table with his knife and fork and occasionally would pick up his napkin, whirl it above his head and yell, “Yippee-i-o-ki-ay!!

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9.  “He proclaimed that he ‘itched because his ex had caused him not to be able to carry a gun anymore’…

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10. ” On our first date, I was asked to delete my profile, because he didn’t want me on PlentyOfFish if we were to go out. Of course, I said no because we’d JUST started chatting, and then he told me he LOVED me!” 

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