6 Essential Qualities Your Date Should Have

So you’ve jumped back into the dating game and have even started to test the waters with online dating. Making a decision to be active and putting yourself out there is the first step. But in order for your love life to be a success you need to understand what qualities are essential to look for in each date. Finding love and building a relationship is not exactly a walk in the park, however it can be made easier if we identify what is needed in the right person for us.

Here are 6 qualities to look for in your next date which will indicate whether or not they have the potential to be a great relationship partner:

  • Look for the way they choose to communicate with you

Simple indications of a good communicator are things like having him call you instead of texting, or asking about your day and opinion. The conversation should be easy going and free flowing and you shouldn’t have to feel like you are trying to squeeze an answer out of him.

  • See if their words line up with their actions

Make sure that they follow through with what they say and that there aren’t any signs of broken promises. Actions always speak louder than words, and at the end of the day it doesn’t how much he can promise you something, it’s whether or not he follows through with it.

  • Do they make you feel comfortable and safe?

A good date will not only bring you butterflies, but also make you feel comfortable in his company and safe. When someone gives you the freedom to be yourself and let your guard down it’s a good sign that they are aware of your feelings as well as mutual chemistry.

  • Is their behaviour consistent?

Dating in different social situations will give you an indication if they change according to their environment or the people around them. Do they change when they drink? Do they treat you differently when you are alone compared to when others are around? Be sure to date a man that stays consistent in his actions and words.

  • Are they respecting your time, opinion and personal space?

A great date will show his respect for you by not only turning up on time and paying attention to you but also by not forcing his agenda on you.  If someone is being too touchy feely or perhaps disagreeing with everything you say, or playing with his phone constantly …then he does not respect you.

  • Are they making the effort to romance you?

If a man doesn’t go to the effort to woo you in the beginning, then chances are you won’t be romanced for the rest of your time with him. He should want to impress you and make you feel special right from the start. This isn’t about demanding being spoiled, but rather seeing that he understands the importance of making you feel valued.

 

15 Budget Friendly Date Activities

According to Jennifer Lopez, “Love Don’t Cost a Thing,” but we all can’t afford to throw on our Louboutins and step out in style on a Friday night. Luckily, there are affordable date options for the rest of us. So whether you’re trying to woo your new love interest or find fun, fresh things to do with your long-time partner, here are 15 date night ideas that will help you break the monotony without breaking the bank.

  1. Miniature Golf

Mini golf is always a great time and it makes for an affordable date-night activity, especially for new couples! Since you’ll both be concentrating on the course, the conversation will flow easily (think no awkward pauses).

Plus, for those couples with a competitive side, you can keep score as you go head to head on the course.

To make this more fun, go to a local thrift store and find some funky golf pants, the brighter the better!

Tip: You may want to wear two pairs of pants, just in case you get a hole in one!

  1. Ice Skating

Remember in junior high when there were skate times designated for couples only? Remember how awkward it was if you were the only one who wasn’t “going steady?” Well, here’s your chance to make up for lost time!

Lace up a pair of skates and take the ice with your sweetheart. Want to make this even more fun? Watch The Cutting Edge before you go for some ‘90s nostalgia and ice skating inspiration!

  1. Bowling

If you’re sporty or competitive, bowling is right up your alley! (ba-dam tsh..) While bowling fees can add up quickly, there are many packages that include lane time and shoes. Some bowling alleys also have special promotions and discounted rates on weeknights.

Tip: Don’t forget to bring a pair of socks for the rental shoes!

  1. Museums

It doesn’t matter if you’re into art, history, cars, or science, there’s a museum out there that will pique your interest!

Discussing works of art and/or exhibits is a great way to learn more about your new love interest. Check the museum websites and your local event calendar to find nights with special events with lower admission costs.

  1. Love Locks

Love Locks are a famous, historical tradition in Paris. Couples write their names on a padlock and secure the lock to the Pont de Arts Bridge to commemorate their unbreakable bond.

If you’re looking for budget-friendly date ideas, airfare to Paris might be out of your price range, but why not celebrate this romantic tradition at a local spot in your city?

If you’re feeling crafty, decorate your lock and display it somewhere at home instead; it makes a unique love memento and it’s sure to be a conversation starter!

  1. Sunset Stroll

There’s nothing more breathtaking than a beautiful sunset, and you generally don’t have to travel far for a front row seat. Find a serene, outdoor spot and let Mother Nature do the rest!

Tip: Pack some blankets and some snacks and cozy up for a sunset picnic.

  1. Go-Kart Racing

Feel the need for speed? Unleash your inner child and race around a go-kart track!

This is another great date for newer couples; you’ll be too busy having fun (and trying to win) to feel awkward or nervous!

Make sure to check the go-kart places near you because some host two-for-one days so you can race longer for a lower price.

  1. Game Night

Board games aren’t just for kids (Cards Against Humanity anyone?), they’re a blast for adults as well! Pick a couple of your favorite games, grab some snacks, and get ready for a fun night in!

Game nights are also great for groups; this is a casual, informal way to introduce your new guy or girl to your friends.

Game on!

  1. Photo Shoot

While you’ve probably snapped tons of selfies together, there’s something special about making memories with an actual camera. If you’re like most people, however, you probably don’t own a point and shoot or DSLR, but you don’t need one to enjoy this fun date-night activity.

Buy a disposable camera (yes they still make these) and plan a photo scavenger hunt. Head out on the town, snap some pics, and see what develops…

  1. Movie Under the Stars

This is the more romantic, outdoor version of movie night. Many parks and city venues are now hosting free movie-screening events.

Check your local listings to see which movies are playing near you!

Tip: Many of these same places also host free concerts. 

  1. Brewery Tour

While a night out drinking can be pricey, many breweries offer free tours. The best part? Many places let you try samples for free.

Cheers!

  1. Lip Sync Battle

You’ve seen the hilarity ensue when Jimmy Fallon challenges his guests to lip sync battles, why not get in on the fun?

This makes for a memorable night in, or if you’re feeling adventurous, take the show on the road and hit up a karaoke night!

Tip: Pick a theme: Country jams, ‘90s boy bands, old school hip hop.

  1. Bingo!

When was the last time you played Bingo? While you may have thought Bingo was only for little kids or (much) older people, it can actually make for a really fun date night!

Find a local community group or organization and get ready for some fun.

  1. Batting Cages

Another fun idea for the sporty, competitive couples! Batting cages are generally inexpensive and you don’t have to bring any of your own gear.

If you’re not much of a baseball or softball player, or you’re a little rusty and don’t want to embarrass yourself on a date, fear not, you can set the machines to deliver pitches at a slower speed.

Tip: if your date isn’t that experienced, this is a great way to get a little closer and him or her with batting technique!

  1. Dessert-Only Date Night

Who says you can’t have your cake and eat it too? With this option you can enjoy sweet treats for a low price.

While going to dinner can be pricey with appetizers, drinks, and expensive dishes, you can enjoy a fancy dessert for a reasonable price (if you choose the location wisely).

Skip the fancy dinner, make a meal at home or find another cheap option (like a picnic), and satisfy your sweet tooth together!

 

What are your favorite budget-friendly date night ideas? We’d love to hear from you, share your best thrifty date ideas in the comments below!

What To Watch When You Actually Want To Netflix & Chill

Dating can be exhausting, tricky business and you’ve managed to get through it like a pro; you met someone on PlentyOfFish, charmed them with your wit, asked them out, kept the charm train rolling all through your first date, and just like that you are modern day Lucy and Ricky.

 
One of the best parts about living in this digital day and age is that we can constitute watching TV as a date. There is no time like the present and the present commands you Netflix and Chill! Chances are, you have already experienced the ole “Netflix and Chill” combo with your new partner, but when the time feels right and you actually want to chill out – clothes on – reliable Netflix has your back.

Here are some programs worth checking out when you actually want to Netflix and Chill.

Master of None (TV show)


Aziz Ansari – the leading brain behind Master of None – plays Dev, a likeable, struggling actor navigating his way through the dating world in New York City. Master of None is a contemporary take on the sitcom. Its humor and writing are steadfast, it offers an excellent female perspective, and it portrays the highs and lows of dating with relatable effortlessness. What’s not to love? It’s a top notch program to snuggle up next to your partner with. Throw on an episode – or ten – and get ready to not only bust a gut laughing at Dev’s rapid fire wordplay but “awwwww” when he does something sweet for the girl he’s vying for.

Fuller House (TV show)


This 90’s spin off is the cheesiest, most loveable thing on Netflix. The show centers on DJ Tanner, her younger sister Stephanie and best friend Kimmy. Fuller House is filled with cringe worthy catch phrases like “Holy chaluppas!” and “oh my lanta!” but nails it with nostalgia. Complete with appearances from the original Full House cast, when you hear that “What ever happened to predictability…” get ready for the warm and fuzzies. You and your partner can yearn for 1993 while making fun of – but secretly loving- Fuller House.

Daredevil (TV show)


Who doesn’t love a good superhero story? This one involves protagonist Matt Murdoch, a blind lawyer developing a penchant for sticking up for the underdog and consequently becoming the hero of Hell’s Kitchen, New York City. Like all superheroes, his good deeds are not initially met with full acceptance. Daredevil is the kind of engaging show that tugs on your heart strings paired with gore that’ll make you want to vomit.

Forgetting Sarah Marshall (Movie)


Anything Judd Apatow touches turns to gold; partner him with Jason Segel and you’ve got yourself a worthwhile evening. The movie is about a guy named Peter (Jason Segel), who gets ruthlessly dumped by his girlfriend and finds himself in Hawaii trying to get over her while coincidentally staying at the same hotel as his ex and her new Rockstar boyfriend. All of Apatows’ movies will have you cry-laughing; the comedic writing in Forgetting Sarah Marshall is certainly no exception, making it the perfect ingredient for a great date.

The Breakfast Club (Movie)


A John Hughes world – one that is riddled with angst filled teens exploring their heart depths – is worth revisiting over and over again. We’ve all seen The Breakfast Club and subsequently probably feel akin to one of the Saturday morning miscreants. It’s the perfect date movie to watch if nostalgia and heartwarming story lines are your cup of tea.

Midnight in Paris (Movie)


With a French Cabernet Sauvignon and charcuterie for two; Midnight in Paris is the quick n’ dirty answer to a romantic night in. Swoon worthy, Midnight in Paris, directed by the legendary Woody Allen, is one of those instant modern classics. It’s the kind of dream like story which follows a novelist as he vacations with his fiancé in Paris. Lead by Owen Wilson, Midnight in Paris takes you through the jazz age while gallivanting with literary greats in the cobblestone streets that make up the city of love. Owen Wilsons’ character, Gil, falls in and out of love with life and its facets while you fall into a French comma brimmed with charming Parisian haze.
So, what are you waiting for? Netflix is your oyster, get inside and chill!