Palms are sweaty, knees weak arms are heavy…as you take one final look in the mirror before heading to your first date with a new potential love interest. On the way to your date, you start running through a long list of questions as though you are about to conduct the most important interview of your life, tempted to ask the cab driver if he/she approves. You get a guttural pang of anxiety as you step toward your date and take one last moment to pray to cupid that it goes well….
If you get the first date jitters, this one is for you! Sit back and relax as I take you through the top 5 first date ice breakers that can help ease your nerves.
Activity vs. The Interview
No one wants to sit across the table from a drill sergeant and be hammered with questions like “where do you see yourself in 5 years…or “how many kids do you want to have?” This is not an interview! A great way to switch things up on the first date is by planning an activity together. No, I don’t mean going to a movie where you sit in silence…I am talking about a hike, bowling or pizza making. Through these fun and flirty activities, you can engage and interact with one another without playing 21 questions.
What do you like to do for fun vs. What do you do for work?
Let’s skip the routine question of “what do you do for work?” Yes, you may be curious but try your best to avoid this one on the first date and instead ask “what do you like to do for fun?” Who wants to talk about work after just completing an 8 hour shift? By asking someone what they like to do for fun, you are asking them a more personal question in which you will most likely receive a more elaborate answer. Following this question, you have a better chance of finding out common interests.
Pick up lines vs. Sincerity
“If you were a vegetable…you’d be cutecumber…” “You must be a keyboard because you’re just my type…” If you have thought about using these or have ever used them in the past, please stop and drop the lines immediately. Compliments are important to give to a first date but make it sincere. There is a huge difference between simply saying “you’re hot” and “I am having a really great time with you.” The later will resonate with your date as it has more substance behind the words.
Smile vs. Resting B*tch Face
A smile goes a long way! Seriously, lets show off those pearly whites like you’re auditioning for a Colgate commercial. Definition of the resting b*tch face for those of you new to this slang; a person, usually a girl, who naturally looks mean when her face is expressionless, without meaning to. Starting the date off with a cheerful introduction will immediately break the ice for the two of you.
Short & Sweet vs. The Neverending Story
It’s the Neverending Story…the date that just drags on a touch too long. Everything was fantastic for the first two hours but all you can think about now is getting home, slipping on your onesie and turning on OWN network as you devour a bag of salt and vinegar chips. Your very first date should always be short and sweet leaving you each wanting more and a second date. In other words, leave them with a taste, not the full meal.
So there you have it! Take a deep breath, get out there and use those ice breakers!