We LOVE love over here at Plenty of Fish and when Brittany and Jeremy shared their adorable love story with us, the only thing left to do was to share it with the world. Their video highlights their highs and lows in their relationship and the key to finding the perfect fit on Plenty of Fish. We caught up with these two to gain more insight on the steps that made their happily ever possible!
Plenty of Fish: Brittany, what did you do to stay positive when you were searching for a match? You said in the video you were getting a lot of “frogs” at first?
Brittany: What I did to stay positive was always made sure I focused on making myself the best version of me throughout so that I could attract the type of man I truly wanted. I always say everything that happens to you is either a lesson or blessing, so even though it didn’t work out with other guys and I had to go through that, it taught me what I wanted out of the next guy, about myself as a person and what I would change moving forward, and also that something better was coming.
POF: What is the key to sifting and sorting on Plenty of Fish to find the right person for you?
Jeremy: One key that worked for me was to ask the right questions, and use video messaging to see how people were in person. After that is when I would schedule a meetup. Only best to do this when YOU are comfortable. Do not give out your number initially, make the other person earn that, man or woman, use FB messenger, Snapchat video, etc. All in all, take your time and state your intentions clearly, and ask them theirs.
Brittany: I would definitely say meet them as soon as possible after you know it’s a good vibe. But make sure you meet in a public place, you have talked on the phone or video message and just go with your instinct. Also, make sure the conversation is good – serious questions along with lighter ones to make sure it’s worth meeting up with someone. Just have fun getting to know people and the experience itself.
POF: What areas on someone’s Plenty of Fish were you most likely to look at? I know Brittany you looked at pictures, careers, age, bio and zodiac sign to distinguish compatibility. Is there a formula you follow to weed out certain matches to find the right person?
Brittany: I looked at profile pictures to see how they presented themselves, their bio, what they said about themself and how detailed they were. People say a lot about themselves there, their interests as well, and then the overall feeling I got when I looked at their profile in its entirety. After that checked out, I either messaged them or replied back to those who were in my inbox, and based off the first few messages, I could tell if I wanted to continue the conversation or not.
Jeremy: To be honest, for me it’s the authenticity and consistency of someone’s pictures, and how much info they are willing to provide and how authentic that information was. Asking someone to meet in a public place for drinks or food to chat, is important, and it will let you know if they are, who they pose to be.
POF: Jeremy you messaged Brittany first, so what was it that drew you in?
Jeremy: Her smile drew me in, she wasn’t afraid to smile in her photos. A smile is the most inexpensive gift that you can bestow upon a person. That alone made me want to meet her. Her caring heart and unselfish nature for putting me first made me pursue a future with her. She wasn’t afraid to try new things, go new places, leave behind old habits, to get completely uncomfortable and vulnerable to change. That was the fire!
POF: You’ve been together for four years now, what’s the key to keeping things fresh and exciting in your relationship?
Brittany: I would say to make sure you are always trying to grow in the relationship, you know each other’s love languages, communication, and stepping out of your comfort zone. Also, definitely making it a point to schedule and plan things to do and have fun with. Life can get busy, but making sure you’re making time and effort to put in the relationship!
Jeremy: Being a student with that person and what I mean by that is to become a lifelong learner and always search for the “interesting” in that person. Then, traveling and going on adventures together is really important – growing together and learning together. We travel to become new and we revamp ourselves together. We made the world our playground so things will never get boring.
POF: Is it important to be friends first before you become romantic?
Jeremy: Very important, I never liked rushing things and honestly, we didn’t hit it off initially! I wasn’t pursuing Brittany for a relationship, just time and attention. To learn about someone new, their habits, their mindset, what makes them tick. She just so happen to love being challenged and she never gave up even to this day. I was talking to someone else that I had strong feelings for, trying to gravitate closer to her energy and that girl ended up not being right for me. Britt was there to ease the pain. We became friends from that and enjoyed learning about one another. Pushing one another to grow and become better! Even when I was homeless, she was there for me.
Brittany: I believe that’s the best way to go – friends first. You want to be sure that at the base of your relationship, you’re friends. That you can have fun with each other, be honest with each other and it just flows organically. Make sure it’s genuine overall.
POF: Jeremy, you asked a really thought provoking question to Brittany on Plenty of Fish, what types of questions would you suggest singles ask in order to stand out? Can you give me 5 examples of good questions to ask?
1. What are your 30-60-90 day goals?
2. What is your 3-5 year plan?
3. What does love mean to you?
4. Do you want to be friends or are you pursuing me romantically?
5. Can you meet me today, to talk in person? (When YOU are comfortable)
POF: Brittany, you said you loved Jeremy first but he wasn’t reciprocating the sentiment. How did you two get through this? Was it a roadblock?
Brittany: I would say I’m different from a lot of people to be honest. Most people would have just given up and been so hurt about it, I just always wanted him to know that I loved him, regardless if he felt the same way. He had been through a lot and had a lot of things happen in his past that affected him and his outlook on relationships at the time. But I really felt he was different and that I had to prove I really loved him by my actions, and even if that meant he didn’t love me then, my actions by still being there and wanting him would eventually have him realize I was someone he could love to. In all honesty, we’ve been through ALOT together in the dating stage of our relationship, so just showing I would be there no matter what. Softening him up really helped us get through it and have that breakthrough moment.
POF: You two seem so honest and candid with one another, what are your best tips for singles to portray their most authentic selves to a potential date?
Brittany: I feel you should be able to be honest with your partner. I would say for someone who is single, when dating, don’t lay ALL your cards on the table on the first day/encounter. Of course, don’t be fake or exaggerate but really feel that person out and see if they are worthy of knowing you on a deeper level and peel back your layers, like an onion, as you go along. But always go with your gut and intuition, never ignore them.
Jeremy: Yes agreed and to add to what Britt said, don’t lie about anything. If you feel the need to, just hold off on that until you feel comfortable stating your truth to someone. Communication is everything. Bad or good -state it. Lastly, look for the good in that person, reason I say that, is because we tend to look for the bad in someone first and write them off. We categorize their intentions, not based on what they just told us, but how we want to think it actually is. That’s almost never the case. Give them a chance to be them, just like you should give yourself a chance to be you.
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