Have you ever felt like EVERY ONE of your single friends is being set-up on dates but you? Your friends know you’re single, they know you’ve been on some bad dates recently and they know you want to meet someone special. So how come they aren’t setting you up with their husband’s newly single, hot friend?
Maybe the difference is… an email. Last week, one of my single girlfriends sent me, and several other female friends, a Facebook message asking us to help her find a man (see message below). Here are a few reasons why this is a clever move to make if you’re single and serious about meeting someone:
1. It’s proactive. People who go after what they want have a better chance of getting what they want. Sorry ladies, Mr. Right isn’t going to come knocking on your door on a Tuesday afternoon. Not only is this proactive from the writer’s perspective, but it will also encourage your friends to be proactive on your behalf when they run into a great single guy!
2. It’s explicit. Your friends may know you’re single, but they may not know you’re open to being set-up and may not even know you are serious about meeting someone. Be clear and direct about your intentions.
3. People like to help others (especially when these ‘people’ are close friends). There’s something very gratifying about helping someone you care about, particularly when they go out of their way and out of their comfort zone to ask for the help.
4. You haven’t met every single guy your friends know. An email like this will encourage your friends to really think outside of the box – ‘What about that cute single guy at the party we went to 3 weeks ago?’ ‘Is our neighbour single?’ ‘What about that guy walking down the street?’
5. If your friends do set you up, you already have a trusted source that has put their stamp of approval on your blind date. This will quickly get most of your major deal breakers out of the way, before you even go on a first date.
*If you don’t feel comfortable putting it in writing, pick up the phone and call your closest friends individually or pull your friends aside at the next social event. Whichever way you deliver the message, the message is clear – you want to meet someone and you’re open to being set-up.