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The Beauty Of Failed Relationships

  • December 2, 2014
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  • Ruby Fremon
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Another failed relationship…

It can be tough picking ourselves back up after a breakup. The sense of failure, and overwhelming sadness and disappointment can often take hold of our lives, preventing us from moving forward from a positive place. We tend to focus too much on the wrong things, such as the faults in that relationship. But what would happen if we focused on what went right? What would happen if we focused on what we learned?

There is real beauty in failed relationships, but only if you’re open to discovering it. Here are 4 ways you can recognize the beauty in your failed relationships:

Go Gift-Hunting

Uncover the gifts within that relationship. These gifts come in the form of lessons, and most of the time, they are lessons you need to learn. You’ll find that you tend to repeat the same story in your relationships… this is because you have yet to learn the lesson that the story is teaching you. Until you learn that lesson, you will continue to relive the same relationship story over and over again. Go gift-hunting; find the lessons hidden within those broken relationships.

Make A List of ‘Don’t Wants’

It’s easy for us to state what we do want in our relationships, but what about the things we don’t want? With every failed relationship, we discover more and more attributes that we don’t desire to have in a partner and in a relationship. Start taking inventory of those things so you can begin to paint a better picture of your ideal relationship. Make a list of ‘don’t wants’ so you can gain clarity on what you do want.

Acknowledge Your Faults

Ugh… very few people enjoy admitting their wrongdoings, yet it’s necessary if you truly want to grow and evolve from your failed relationships. Stop playing the ‘victim’ role and own your faults. Every time you play the victim, you allow your experiences to hold power over you, causing you to feel helpless and weak. But when you own your faults, you become empowered by them, because you now recognize that you have the ability to change. Take back control of your actions and acknowledge your wrongdoings so you can evolve into your next relationships.

Be Grateful

Failed relationships do suck, but boy do we learn a lot from those experiences! Instead of wallowing in your own pity-party, show gratitude and celebrate the end of something that just wasn’t meant to be. This is where many people feel stuck… They push too hard to force together two puzzle pieces that just don’t fit. And when they finally realize that those pieces don’t fit, they get overwhelmed with sadness, leading them to become glued to their TV’s watching sad movies while eating buckets of popcorn and ice-cream. Stop your pity-party. Take a long, meaningful look at that broken relationship and find things to be grateful for. By showing gratitude, you’re untethering the cords that tie you to that person, which in turn allows you to celebrate the ending of that relationship.

Failure isn’t the end… it’s only the beginning. Every single lesson we learn from our failed relationships brings us one step closer to experiencing real love. Embrace those lessons, gain clarity on what you do and don’t want, admit your faults, and show gratitude for the endings of relationships that just weren’t meant to be. Real, authentic love is within reach… and you’ll see that once you discover the beauty in your failed relationships.

Ruby Fremon is a Self-Love Coach determined to help others create positive life transformations through the power of self-love. From living a life of self-destruction to a life of love and positivity, Ruby has created those massive shifts by learning to harness the power of self-love.

Ready to transform your life? Take the first step by committing to a Transformational Self-Love Coaching Journey with Ruby. Receive your FREE 20-minute consultation here.

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Ruby Fremon

Ruby Fremon is a Coach, Catalyst, and Igniter. She helps women radically boost self-love so they can take back their power and create lives that make them ridiculously happy. Imagine how groovy it would feel to wake up feeling amazing about yourself and your life every single day? It’s possible, and Ruby will help you get there. What makes Ruby a truly dynamic Coach, is her ability to blend together practicality with spirituality. This fusion helps her clients create massive life shifts that stick.

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