How To Overcome Your Online Dating Fears

Are you one of the few singles left who hasn’t ventured into the world of online dating?

Let’s talk about why you may be afraid and crush those fears one step at a time!


You are convinced your future boyfriend, partner, or husband is the guy who will catch you when you fall off the sidewalk on your way to work. I love a great fairy tale too, but let’s open up your options! You’re hesitant to make an online profile because you don’t want to admit to the rest of the world you met your significant other online. It’s 2016, if you tell someone you met your partner online dating, they will most likely respond with “I did too!” or “My friend met her husband online dating.” There is no shame in meeting someone online, it’s extremely common in this day and age. What matters most is that you have found love and true happiness with someone you can call your best friend.


You’re worried it simply won’t work for you. Don’t expect yourself to find Mr. Right the same day you create your online profile. Finding someone special takes time; I suggest logging into your dating app at least once every day to stay actively engaged online. By popping in frequently will result in more messages over time. Be patient, say yes to more dates and maintain a positive attitude.


You’re currently thinking, I’m just not that desperate. I don’t NEED to go online to find a date. Making an online profile does not prove you are desperate, it shows you are open to a world of possibilities! Just think about the millions of people you are missing out on the opportunity to meet by refusing to go online. Often we receive emails from our success couples who met on PlentyOfFish that admit they would have never met their husband had it not been for the site!


You’re panicking because you’ve never been on a date with a complete stranger before. You can’t even “creep” because you don’t share any mutual friends on Facebook. You don’t have to date your best friend’s boyfriend’s roommate! In fact, it’s a bad idea all together. Try sourcing your next prospect outside your friend group and get online! Let yourself be the sole judge of character upon first impression.


If you are new to the singles game or in an extended dry spell, online dating is the perfect place to start. It takes approximately 10-20 minutes to create your profile on PlentyOfFish. (Fun fact – men and women who take 20 minutes or more to create their online profile are 80 percent more likely to leave the site in a relationship according to PlentyOfFish data.) Break your profile write up into three short paragraphs; a little bit about yourself, what you like to do for fun and something unique about you! Remember there is always the option to edit your profile, so if you want to add or take away anything you have written, you have the power to do that!

Online dating gives you the opportunity to chat and get to know someone before you decide to meet them or not. At the end of the day, what do you have to lose!

Taking baby steps will help you find your stride again!


Kate Maclean

Posted by Kate Maclean

Kate is the PR Generalist at PlentyOfFish. Like a kid in a candy shop, Kate’s favorite things to do are eat mass amounts of sushi, spoon her cat Snoop Dogg, and hike the great Canadian wilderness. Her favorite quote of all time is “People who love to eat are the best people” -Julia Child.

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