5 Ways To Know You Are Settling

When we meet someone special it’s easy to put them on a pedestal; however sometimes those rose colored glasses we wear can really hinder us from seeing the truth about our relationships or our partner’s character.

Here are 5 quick signs that indicate that it’s time to see things from a new perspective:

1: You don’t have a deep sense of peace or happiness

When you settle in love, you also settle for a second rate happiness and lose the sense of peace about your relationship and life. A joyful fulfilling and healthy relationship will have it’s tough times but there will always be an underlying sense of peace and overall feeling of contentment.

2: You keep justifying everything

It’s not easy admitting that you aren’t happy or in your ideal relationship and one of the habits you may pick up, is justifying why you have settled. This isn’t so much about trying to convince others, but rather about trying to convince yourself as to why you should stay with this person, or why you are allowing them to treat you a certain way.

3: You keep wondering about the “what if’s”

The second biggest way to know you are settling in love; the first being a lack of happiness and peace, is to find yourself day dreaming about the possibilities of something better. It’s completely normal to yearn for a happy and fulfilling love; you shouldn’t want to escape from the relationship you have if you have chosen not to settle.

4: There is a lot of conflict or complacency

A second rate relationship will also mean there will be more conflict, battles or complacency present. When we learn to wait for a love that we are worthy of, we also invite the chance to have a relationship that encourages us to flourish in every aspect of our life.

5: Your future is unclear

A lacking relationship will also make it harder to plan for a stable future, because you either have inconsistency in the present or are not excited about what is to come with the person you’re with now. When you commit to someone who meets your desires and gives you what you need, you are also invite clarity, security and inspiration into your life.

Renee Slansky

Posted by Renee Slansky

Renee Slansky is an established Australian TV presenter, writer and professional blogger who’s love for romance and heart for women compelled her to start her online community www.thedatingdirectory.co . From a young age she started leading
and counselling women and was often called on by strangers and friends for relationship advice. With no professional training but rather what she picked up in experience, teachings and observation, her writings offer a witty and relative outlook with practical advice on life and romance in the 21st century.

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