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Surviving the Holidays as a Fabulous Singleton

  • December 14, 2017
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  • Michael Valmont
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There are certain times of the year when there is more of a focus on whether you’re in a relationship or not. If we can put aside the dreaded Valentine’s day for now, then Christmas has got to be top of the list.

An endless stream of romantic comedies fills the TV schedule, and all of them seem to end with a happily-ever-after-beginning kiss, timed perfectly with the arrival of much-loved snow.

Back in reality, a lot of us are watching the credits roll from our singly occupied bed, wondering why we still haven’t had that perfect movie finish.

The other major influence that brings singleton shame during the holidays, is family. Never-before seen Great Aunts appear as if from nowhere, to question you about the intimate details of your dating life, and inquire about marriage and kids.

As a season known for its vastly available liquor and food, it’s tempting to try to drown the sorrows. However, there is an alternative.

This holiday season, it’s time to embrace and love your single status.

Embrace Your Singleton Status

Unless you’re in a relationship already, it’s highly improbable that you’ll be paired up and madly in love by the time Santa comes a ’jingling. Life just ain’t like the movies, kid.

The worst thing you can do for your love life -and your self-esteem- is go on a mad dash to find ‘the one’ between now and Christmas. The second worst thing you can do is sit around feeling sorry for yourself and lamenting all over everyone else’s joy.

It’s time to pull up your Christmas Stockings, and accept that this holiday season your sleigh will be flying solo.

Don’t Let Them Needle You

No, this isn’t referring to the Christmas tree, but to the (probably) well-meaning others that will be asking more questions than a quiz show host.  Prepare a stock answer before the holiday parties begin, so that you’re prepared. Keep it short and simple, and have a question ready to ask back to move the conversation along. Remember, there’s no shame in being single, no matter what your second-cousin twice removed thinks.

Change the Channel, Flip the Script

You’re the lead in your own Christmas movie and right now it’s not looking like a romance, so it’s time to change your expectations and switch to a different genre. Go ‘action adventure’ and pack and your holiday schedule full of new and exciting activities that won’t require a co-star, like snow sports or sledding.

Maybe you’re feeling more of a ‘Hangover’ vibe and want to get in some quality time with quality people. Find your glitziest outfit, half-drown yourself in glitter and take to the town to make this Christmas the ‘merriest’ one yet.

Whatever way your holiday movie goes, make it a blockbuster.

Want to be the lead in your own romantic movie? Visit dating advice expert Michael Valmont

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Michael Valmont

Michael Valmont is a leading dating coach based in London. He is regularly featured in the media including Sky News, BBC, The Telegraph, Mens Health to name a few. He has helped thousands of men and women to find love and fulfilment, build confidence and become their best selves. He also runs his successful YouTube channel and provides regular advice for those singletons looking to find romance and get more from their lives.

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