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5 DATING GAMES TO AVOID IF YOU WANT THE REAL DEAL

  • July 4, 2013
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  • Erica Gordon
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Have you ever looked back and wondered what happened to the one that got away? Perhaps you inadvertently sabotaged something wonderful, because you were playing the typical (yet dangerous) dating games. A successful relationship requires two mature participants who know what they want, and are not afraid to go for it. If you don’t want a hot prospect to say “game over”, avoid playing the following 5 dating games to increase your chances of really winning:

1. You Only Want What You Can’t Have

Even if there was great potential, this game can ruin everything. We sometimes tend to ignore someone amazing who is right in front of us, if they’re too available or too interested. Our focus gravitates towards someone unavailable – someone who is hard to get. A cultivated person will wear their heart on their sleeve, and show their interest – so unless you want someone juvenile in your life, avoid this game.

2. You Play Hard To Get

Have you heard the saying “if you play with fire, you’re bound to get burned”? Well if you play it too cool, you could damage things with someone who is too mature for games and doesn’t have patience the patience for your silly “wait 3 days to text” rule. This person is likely too good to wait around for icy things to defrost.

Most people see right through the hard to get game, and often will leave for someone who is showing more interest and being more open about their feelings. Sometimes you’re simply drawn towards someone who it feels easy and natural with, rather than someone who leaves you wondering.

3. You Try To Evoke Jealousy

Many of us are guilty of this one. We attempt to make someone jealous in an effort to make them want us more. This plan will most likely backfire, for one main reason: it’s not classy. It does not make you look good, so if it is something you have done before, try not to repeat the mistake.

4. You Give Mixed Signals

Nobody likes to be kept guessing or to feel uncertain, especially when they like someone. Usually there are no mixed signals, only a lack of interest. However, one of the most attractive character traits is maturity. A mature and direct person lays it out on the line, providing clarity and a mutual understanding. No matter what it is that you want, you may just find that they are in agreement, and will respect where you are coming from.

5. The Withholding Dance

Whether you are withholding affection, attention, or honesty –  the withholding dance is a momentum killer. If things are going well, you want it to keep going forward to allow for a natural progression. Unless you are indifferent as to whether you lose your chance or not, don’t wait 2 weeks to ask someone out again, or play the hard to get game.

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Erica Gordon

Erica is the Executive Assistant at POF, and as a single twenty-something woman working in the online dating industry, she has a lot of experience when it comes to dating. After earning her Psychology degree, she landed her challenging and dynamic role within the POF family in early 2012. When she's not hard at work or sharing her passion for writing, Erica be found laughing it up at a comedy show, walking around in kits with her friends, or hiking one of BC's beautiful trails.

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  1. Matt says:
    February 5, 2016 at

    Hey Erika, thanks for the helpful information about dating. When I read this it reminds me to not procrastinate or bs my way through the process, I wish everyone was genuinely good. Too many people have been hurt by fakes & liars, anyways thanks again.
    -Matt

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