My wild guess is that you’ve recently been released into the dating ocean. Welcome! I too, am swimming in that very same sea, and after an in-depth self discovery while spending several months in Brazil studying behavioral analysis, I came to the conclusion that everyone should date themselves and dive into self-loving habits before considering hopping into their next relationship.
You attract whatever frequency you emit. If you’re exuding self pity, and constant negativity you’re most likely going to attract people that are on that same wavelength. As a result, you may be getting trapped in a cycle of meeting people that aren’t particularly right for you. Are these the type of people you want in your life? Or would you much rather attract positive, upbeat and loving people? Now I really hope you consciously chose the second alternative!
We can all spiral downward depending on the depth of our emotions involved in our recently wounded heart. After being married for 7 years, my life goals with my partner no longer matched up and we made the wise decision to split rather than be miserable together. You have to remember, there are billions of people on this earth, you will find someone that is a suitable match for you. There is a lid for every pot!
Not sold yet? Here are 4 simple rituals to implement into your experience of self-love that will transition you from self-pity to self-loving in a flash:
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Commit to creating & following an exercise routine
Exercising is a healthy way our bodies generate feel good endorphins. The day has 24 hours, stop creating excuses on why you can’t and start creating avenues to implement at least 1-2 hours of physical activity in your day. This can be divided into 30 minutes increments depending on your lifestyle and schedule. I recommend yoga, weight lifting, fast-paced walks, martial arts and the list goes on Why not go around town and do as many free trial classes as you can until you find something that resonates with you – alternatively commit to exercising at home, if exercising among others isn’t your thing, the key here is finding a regiment that works for you.
Policing your thoughts
The moment those low vibration thoughts start to infest your mind, yank them out and throw them in the trash bin – get in the habit of harvesting only the positive thoughts. The secret here is immediately recognizing negative thinking pattern/program that has been running on the background of your mind and try converting each negative thought into a positive one.
Create lists, envision what you want, implement new strategies
Write down what you love about yourself, create a list of what you want in your next relationship, what you don’t want and what you are willing to compromise on. Every night, just before shutting down your system and going into sleep mode, focus for 15 minutes on envisioning yourself with that person you’ve created on that list I mentioned above. See yourself traveling, hugging, exchanging affection with that person.
Take yourself on dates
Yes, that’s right! Are you dying to try that new jazz club but none of your friends are into it? Go by yourself and make friends at the new club. Start a new journey, make new friends, seek like minded people that enjoy doing what you do. Do not settle for anything less than what you want. It’s better to be alone and happy, than miserable together – and that goes for just about everything in life. Maintain a positive attitude and see how wonderful surprises shall unfold in front of you with when you least expect.