As someone who sees a lot of profiles on a daily basis; this is my gift to you. Do you feel that you aren’t getting the responses that you’d like? Are you attracting the wrong matches to your page? Peruse this list to make sure you aren’t making one of the 7 deadly profile mistakes.
1. Your photos are all selfies
The selfie obsession is a little weird. Sure, try to encapsulate your best features – but there is no need for the 6, almost-identical selfies taken in your bathroom. Not only are too many selfies boring, but they also make you look narcissistic. If you are leaving out shots of your whole body, you aren’t giving potential mates the full picture. If you know you are a little curvier, by all means have flattering pictures, but don’t try and hide what you look like.
DO have a friend take pictures. Show yourself being active. Be dynamic. Rollerblade. Show yourself playing chess. Hobbies will make you a much more interesting match.
2. Your interests are too ambiguous
You like sleeping? I like sleeping too. You eat? I eat everyday too!
3. You have too many pet pictures
I love cats. You love cats. We all love cats. We also don’t want to see 5 pictures of Garfield. He’s cute, but your profile isn’t an advertisement for the pound.
4. You seem bitter
Does your profile have any of the following?
“Are there ANY good men out there?”
“I’m JUST looking… not ready to make a commitment unless you’re WORTH MY TIME!!!”
“I’m really down to earth, but if you message me asking about my red dress in the third picture I will block you.”
These are all some very deadly profile sins indeed. Keep your profile light and interesting. There is no need to be negative, and listing your pet peeves is immature and unattractive.
5. Your profile is too long
Your profile should read like a preview, not the entire book. It’s important to leave some stories to tell in person; you don’t need to give everything away. People will form their own opinions when they meet you, and their opinions will never match how you describe yourself.
6. You talk about your ex
If you’re not over your ex, you should probably take a more time to heal. Talking about your ex is one of the biggest buzz kills, not to mention it looks tacky.
DO talk about your ideal relationship. If you just want to test out the waters, feel free to say so. If you’re looking for a serious relationship, state it. No need to beat around the bush!
7. Your profession leaves a lot to be desired
If you are putting forth a lot of effort to really connect with someone, please be sure to properly fill out your profile. Setting your profession to “Ask” or “N/A” is just plain worrisome.
I’m really tired of the women on this site whose profile is simply “ask” who say that they want someone genuine but don’t even bother to reply to thoughtful messages. Then there are the abrasive women who dictate how men should approach them and worst of all are so darn picky.
Surely if you’re on a dating site then you don’t have the right to be so picky? Yet, it seems I can’t win. Women somehow find a problem and simply put most of them are superficial. How is it that I can send a thought message to a woman with the exact same interests as me and that woman only looks at my profile?
My photo is next to the message so what? They find me attractive but when they click on my profile, regardless if they thought my message was charming enough to warrant a visit I’m not worth messaging back?
It’s not surprising that the women who are on there are single. Seriously. They have such an idealistic idea of what “Mr Right”is. Maybe I should say I earn £50 000+ a year, have a car and am a lawyer or doctor. “Are there any genuine men?” How about are there any genuine women? What a joke.
I have joined SO many sites, and as the previous person has mentioned, I too agree.
Adding to that, not all the dating sites are exactly PG, and yet they say that they are looking for ltr. And on top of that, the only ones who ever message you back are from some place like Ghana and lead you on always asking for money.
Or worse than that, the local ones, IF YOU are ever lucky enough to find one, just want to text OR webcam crap!
But the websites are just as bad, and this one, pof, tell you that you have messages from , however many people, and you can’t even read them! What a waste of time. And the site’s that let you read them, are all sent by site employees.
Two years now, haven’t met anyone from any site, I don’t know why all the dating sites are so popular? I just guess cause they do the promoting and make it sound good.
If this is a sign of the times, no wonder you don’t hear anything about prostitution anymore, and the escort service is booming.
As much money as i have spent on sites, I should have just bought a girl friend, at least there would be a physical person to actually have conversations with.
Maybe I’m just an ugly jerk, but there must be a better way.
If I can’t communicate with someone, why should I have to upgrade just to get nowhere?
Maybe you should ask for money after a person or person s are wanting to get together? Let’s say, upgrades to send phone numbers so that you can communicate like a normal person.
Thanks for posting spot, sorry about complaining. And didn’t text me telling me I have messages just TO login and see only partial profiles or phoney matches just to get my money.
I totally agree with Ash. The internet is very impersonal and cold. Most people who I send a note just disregard it. Very rude. I do no look at the posting this site send me. They are all the same