As someone who sees a lot of profiles on a daily basis; this is my gift to you. Do you feel that you aren’t getting the responses that you’d like? Are you attracting the wrong matches to your page? Peruse this list to make sure you aren’t making one of the 7 deadly profile mistakes.
1. Your photos are all selfies
The selfie obsession is a little weird. Sure, try to encapsulate your best features – but there is no need for the 6, almost-identical selfies taken in your bathroom. Not only are too many selfies boring, but they also make you look narcissistic. If you are leaving out shots of your whole body, you aren’t giving potential mates the full picture. If you know you are a little curvier, by all means have flattering pictures, but don’t try and hide what you look like.
DO have a friend take pictures. Show yourself being active. Be dynamic. Rollerblade. Show yourself playing chess. Hobbies will make you a much more interesting match.
You like sleeping? I like sleeping too. You eat? I eat everyday too!
I love cats. You love cats. We all love cats. We also don’t want to see 5 pictures of Garfield. He’s cute, but your profile isn’t an advertisement for the pound.
4. You seem bitter
Does your profile have any of the following?
“Are there ANY good men out there?”
“I’m JUST looking… not ready to make a commitment unless you’re WORTH MY TIME!!!”
“I’m really down to earth, but if you message me asking about my red dress in the third picture I will block you.”
These are all some very deadly profile sins indeed. Keep your profile light and interesting. There is no need to be negative, and listing your pet peeves is immature and unattractive.
Your profile should read like a preview, not the entire book. It’s important to leave some stories to tell in person; you don’t need to give everything away. People will form their own opinions when they meet you, and their opinions will never match how you describe yourself.
6. You talk about your ex
If you’re not over your ex, you should probably take a more time to heal. Talking about your ex is one of the biggest buzz kills, not to mention it looks tacky.
DO talk about your ideal relationship. If you just want to test out the waters, feel free to say so. If you’re looking for a serious relationship, state it. No need to beat around the bush!
If you are putting forth a lot of effort to really connect with someone, please be sure to properly fill out your profile. Setting your profession to “Ask” or “N/A” is just plain worrisome.